Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VIII - Knicker Checkers and Pad Patrollers welcome

[YouKnowNothingoftheCrunch]

Is that ok?

Gentle, I'm so glad your scan went well.

Have wound up in a bit of a funk, just heard that a friend's miscarriage at eleven weeks happened after a successful scan at eight weeks. Am trying to tell myself that she must've wound up in that freakish 2% margin and there's no reason I will... but it's still hard to feel settled.

Also - and I know this is ridiculous - I can't help keeping a mental tally of where I would've been in pregnancy if I hadn't miscarried in December. I should be well out of the danger zone and cruising cheerily into viability territory by now; I'd know if it were a boy or a girl, and have had the anomaly scan. I am grateful to be pregnant again, I am, but I'm still stupidly regretful over that lost pregnancy...

gentle glad your scan went so well

Tamlin I think we can find stories that support the worst things at times, without wanting to, and it's bound to shake us after all we've been through. Try not to read too much into it and stay positive. We have a 98% chance of taking a baby home - it's good odds, not 100% but very good odds.
I think it's natural to wonder about the lost babies and what they'd have been, etc. My dd's aunt is expecting and the baby is due 7 days after our bean would have been due. I don't think missing what might have been is wrong in any way, it's just what happens.

Waves hello to everyone else - sorry if I've missed anything but the thread has gone over the page and my memory is shocking!

Evening lovely ladies

Sorry no time to post properly, I just wanted to say thank you for all the good wishes for our scan today, it went really well It was lovely to see the baby again, all the mesasurements etc were (apparently) fine, and the consultant, his registrar and the mw who was present all think we're having...a....GIRL!! So now I really want to go and buy pink things! But I'm too scared, in case a) somnething goes wrong or b) they're wrong and we have a little boy with a pink bedroom! The consultant did say he wouldn't stake his life on it so not too sure... Mind you, I was convinved it was a girl from the day I got my BFP so maybe I sould have a little more faith?!?

Early start tomorrow got to go to bed! Night ladies, xx

Good morning all,

Firstly:

GUSSET PATROL GRADUATES
Cricri - 1st November - GIRL- Elise Vivienne
LackaDAISYcal - 6th November - BOY - Finlay
barbareebaa - 24th November -BOY - William
Jackstini - 10th December ? BOY- Harvey
KD73 - 20th December - BOY - Aidan George
downbutnotout ? 3rd February BOY
dan39 ? 10th February GIRL - Rose
winemakesmummyclever - 17 February - BOY - Isaac Alexander
Bunnyinheadlights - 23 February - GIRL - Carys
Wheelybug - 12th March - GIRL - Lara Florence
TSOM - 17th March - BOY - Seth

CURRENT CONCEIVED-AIR PASSENGERS
Grinningbee - 26th March
Daisy J - 30 March
Scotlass - 21st April
Swaliswan - 25th April
Youknownothingofthecrunch - 25th April
Aquababe - 1st May
Ladyhelen2 - 3rd May
LoobyLou36 - 3rd May
Ses - 10th May
SparkyMalarky - 15th May
divedaisy - 7th May (also 12th, 17th or 19th!!!)
cece - 18th May
joyfuleyes - 29th May
herbaceous - 28 June
Mumface - 11th July
nattythomasandellen - 16th July
Ashleighbeee - 23rd/25th August
blogqueen - 31st August

For some reason, today i just felt ready to do it.

Lola & Gentle Congratulations to you both on your scans.

Lola a baby giiiiiirl! How lovely! When i found out we were having a boy I bought 1 blue thing, now my dear mother has stocked the baby up with a full blown boys wardrobe therefore if for some bizzare reason we're having a girl she will look lovely in her blue ensambles! I would just say enjoy it, she shared it with you

How is everyone else today? Crunchie where've you been?

Tamlin I am sorry to hear you're feeling a bit unnerved after the conversation with your friend, please dont be to unsettled, as you said yourself, there's no reason why you would end up in the 2% margin.. I wish that there was more we could say to reassure you... unfortunately in our position i dont think the worrying goes away until we hold the baby in our arms.. mind you, even then it brings on a whole new level of worry.

Hope everyone is having a good day, we've had a fire drill this morning therefore i've achieved nothing so far this morning! hey ho, off to work i go! xx

Hello ladies

Sorry I've been absent for a few days - I had a second scan last friday and perfect little 7 week bean but absolutely no heartbeat

So ERPC on the saturday and now just getting to grips with the idea i'm no longer pregnant.

Thank you to everybody and I wish you all tons and tons of the best luck ever - hopefully i'll be back before christmas!

xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Very quick post to say wheelie package arrived safely and is fantastic. Thank you and I will let you know how much use it all gets (looking forward to using the massage oil )

I've got whatever ds2 had last week this is the first time I've been out of bed since Sunday and managed to eat anything. Very nasty vomiting bug.

Will catch up with everyone soon. Hopefully be all better by tomorrow.

Love to all x

tattifer (cross post) I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you've got tons of support in RL. Thinking of you xxx

Tattifer I am incredibly sorry to read your post. Please look after yourself and we will all be here with open arms when you are ready to make your return. For now, please look after yourself and I hope you have all the support around you that you need. xx

tattifer, I hardly know you but I'm so incredibly sorry. Please if you can let me know that they are really really sure of no heartbeat i.e. they did do a vaginal scan didn't they as it is often not possible to see a heart beat with an abdominal scan until 10 or 11 weeks. The more ms I have the more I'm becoming aware of what should be done to double check.

Thinking of you and sending you big enormous hugs.

Oh poor poor Tattifer. So sorry. You were such a jolly asset to the thread, despite having doubts and worries. So sad. Have a huge wallow, and don't put on a brave face. It's the best way!

My latest tedious neurosis - have mega SPD belt from hospital physio, but it goes across bottom of belly and seems to make Cromwell wriggle about. I can't help but feel he's being constricted. Can I safely assume I'm being ridiculous?

Oh Tattifer, oh no. I'm so sorry.

Ohhhhhhhh Tattifer I'm so so sorry to hear your news. Was wondering what had happened with you.

We have all been there and feel for you deeply. I wish there were words that could take away the pain. You need to do whatever feels most right for you at the time - stay in and wallow, watch those Jane Austens, read Jilly Coopers..... or go out on the razz and be with friends, whichever feels best at the time. After we lost our baby boy last year we went to the South of France for a friend's wedding and getting away for a bit turned out to be the best thing I could have done, even the wedding turned out to be life-affirming rather than depressing with all the kids running about. And although I did lose it in public about once a day, at least they were all people I never had to see again. Any chance for a little Easter getaway for you and your DP?

I'm slightly confused - did you mean you had your ERPC already or it will be this Saturday? Please be kind to yourself and your DP, and fingers crossed you'll be back up the duff on here before we know it. Please keep posting if you need to ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))

Ashleighbee congrats on putting yourself up on the list!

Lola a little girl!!!!! How lovely. So now the pink tyranny begins.....before you know it the whole house will resemble an explosion in a Barbie factory

Congrats to you and Gentle on good anomally scans. Big s to you both, hope you're walking on air for at least a few days now!

OK so we're waiting for news of Grinningbee and Daisyj - who do we reckon is going to be first?????

Tattifer am so, so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and look forward to the time when you join us again here.

Lola how exciting - a girl!! Lol at the barbie comment - my dd actually had barbie wallpaper for a while! Just think of all the lovely dresses you can get

herby no experience of spd belts here but I'd suspect Cromwell has plenty of room in there so don't worry yourself.

As for me, woke up with raging hormones, mood swings and depression this morning. Luckily it seems to have lifted a little and I'm now tucking into an egg mayo and ham baguette!! It's a bit of a rollercoaster this pregnancy lark!

Oops, crunchie sorry to hear you're feeling so poorly. Hope you're better soon

Hey there - it died at around fourteen weeks and was found just after that. I ended up going through a labour of sorts and it was pretty upsetting - two ops afterwards.

Did anyone else have really mixed feelings. I am really crampy and had some spotting on sat but doc just told me (quite unsympathetically) to forget about it. I want to be happy but I am so scared that I cant really and I just started a new job (at exactly the same time as I got pregnant) which is my dream job and I totally love it. I feel really miserable and i dont really understand why. Although admittedly the nausea and cramps arent really helping.

p.s congrats to all those who are getting late on. Herby my sis had nasty spd and she had to wear a belt - dont worry they are fine - it did feel a bit strange but they are designed with pregnancy in mind.

prettyfly sorry but am a bit confused by your post... the 14 weeks bit I'm assuming was a previous loss? And you are now pg again with very mixed feelings?
How far along are you?

What you are feeling is perfectly normal. I have dreadful periods of feeling miserable, sometimes to the point of wishing I was not pg. I suspect it's hormones raging along with not wanting to commit to the pg in case something goes wrong. There are bound to be unresolved feelings that come with a subsequent pg that get triggered at various milestones along the way. Just try and go with whatever you're feeling and don't beat yourself up about it.

As for your dream job - congratulations! It will still be there when you get back from mat leave so just enjoy it

Scarlotti - I think prettyfly is responding to Lola's question (on Friday) asking how far her last pregnancy got.

Prettyfly - I felt down quite a lot early on - pregnancy hormones, tiredness and anxiety I think. In fact, I was really tired when I got home yesterday, and got irrationally upset to the point of tears by DS refusing to eat his tea - and I hadn't even cooked it!

Sorry my memory is so awful I forget what people have said before.

Scarlotti - I didn't remember! I just used Find because I was confused too

glad it arrived Crunch - sorry you're not well.

tattifer - sorry to read of your news. Take care.

Herby - am sure its fine. Cromwell will find room don't worry.

lola - congrats on finding out about your little girl... girls are great (as I'm sure are boys ).

Been away for a while feeling ick... so sorry to hear tattifer's news. How crap indeed. If you can find a way through the hormones, keep your chin up.

I'm still finding it hard not to spend my days being a paranoid eejit. I think it's made worse by being on holiday and having too much time to think! I am now at the stage I was at when I had my erpc last time, and although still feeling ill, my bump is virtually non-existent whereas last time it was a definite bulge and tender. I tell myself that perhaps the tenderness was a bad sign and I should count my abdominal work since the erpc a success, but in reality I think I'd find anything to be paranoid about. If I could have another scan now I'd be happy (9 wks) instead of waiting for one at 12 weeks +. I just hate the thought of feeling ill unnecessarily, if indeed things have gone pear shaped.

Please tell me to wise my head and shut up.

P.S. how apt is this thread title - I've even been known to find a prep room at work to pop into and do a check if I feel a gush. Man, the things you do when pg!

Oh and herby I didn't get on with those support belts with DD at all. I bought a skinny one off physiosupplies which I found to be much more effective at physically holding my pelvis together, rather than attempting to take the weight off. It was a bit like a duracell - helped me keep going for longer! I used it with a massive tubigrip that they physio gave me. My SPD started way before there was any problem with weight!