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Harsh Pregnancy, does anyone else HATE pregnancy???

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hayleybootes · 05/02/2009 21:14

I'm 19+5! And ever since I found out I was pregnant I have had such a nightmare of a pregnancy. I have hyperemesis which means I have nausea and vomiting constantly! I have to take medication to stop it, which gives me lots of other side affects. It has got better the last 2 weeks but I still feel horrific especially in the mornings. I have nearly all pregnancy symptoms. I have backache, heartburn, I ache all over, I'm tired all the time, I cry loads, and I have bad headaches!

Once the baby's here I will be so glad that I went through it all and will be soooooo happy, but I can't help but just HATE pregnancy. My body just doesn't like it. I get really down about it and I know I shouldn't as I could have much worse things but I can't help it.

Does anyone else feel like this or am I alone in this depressed pregnant state????? x

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minouminou · 05/02/2009 21:21

hearing you loud and clear, dude.

mrsbabookaloo · 05/02/2009 21:24

Yes, I think some women just love it, and others just hate it. I feel like pregnancy doesn't agree with me at all.

Will be glad when this one is over, I will have two dcs and never have to do it again!!

onepieceofbrusselssprout · 05/02/2009 21:26

Hayley so sorry to hear about the hyperemesis.

I have 2 dds, I really wanted 4 dcs in total but I hate being pregnant.

First time round I was hospitalised at 7 weeks (for 7 nights) and at 11 weeks (for 8 nights)

I had untreatable head pains and migraines, I puked loads, I cried, I found it all v traumatic.

You poor thing, but yes you are right you will feel great once the baby is here. I felt like a new woman minutes after giving birth.

Rest as much as you can. Ignore (or shout at) idiots who tell you to eat ginger biscuits etc.

This happened to me 6 years ago and I still have vivid memories. i have every sympathy for you. xx

onepieceofbrusselssprout · 05/02/2009 21:27

p.s. I constantly asked dh to book in for the snip while labouring with dd2. (and he did, within weeks!)

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hayleybootes · 05/02/2009 21:30

Excellent but I think hubby can have the snip and I will be sterilised just to be on the safe side. I could never ever go through this again! I would die!!

Glad I'm not the only one feeling so awful xx

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Hangingbellyofbabylon · 05/02/2009 21:35

I detest pregnancy - just feel shite all the time, right this second I'm sat here wondering if I'm going to the throw up the toast which is the only thing I've eaten since breakfast . I actually feel so bad that I was almost wishing I wasn't pregnant (am 8 weeks) which is really sad because this is a very much wanted baby. I didn't enjoy any part of my previous pregnancies and won't enjoy this one either. [grump].

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hayleybootes · 05/02/2009 21:41

Oh Hangingbellyofbabylon, I know exactly what you mean. I feel so awful when I think about how everything would be so much better if I just hadn't got pregnant. This pregnancy was unplanned so I cried when I found out because my first pregnancy was so awful also, but this one is even worse. Between 7 weeks and 15 weeks I thought about a termination everyday, not because I don't want the baby but because I thought I couldn't carry on, I couldn't handle the illness and being in hospital and feeling like I was dying anymore. I could never actually have a termination because it would have killed me, I went through this hell for my first one, so it seemed only fair I did it for the next! I will just be glad when I have had the baby and I don't feel like this anymore xx

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BikeRunSki · 05/02/2009 22:20

Haley Not pg now, but I am with you on this one. Done it once, hated it, spent 6 weeks in hospital. Then a week when DS was born.

I am loving being a mummy, but goodness, did I hate being pregnant. DS (5 months) may just have to be a lonely only.

sweetkitty · 05/02/2009 22:24

Oh I am with you hate being pregnant, love babies I have 3 but the last pregnancy was the pits.

Not hyperemesis here but SPD and 2 toddlers to look after, spent most afternoons crying with the pain and it's as if noone really understands and thinks you've just got a bit of a bad back with the extra weight.

Would love another but cannot be pregnant again.

DD3 is gorgeous though and so worth it

Your nearly half way there, next week you will be on a countdown, I used to go to bed every night and think thats one more day I don't have to be pregnant again.

Sakura · 06/02/2009 09:35

I hate pregnancy too. Some women really enjoy it, though- the attention, the feeling of the baby growing, etc.
But I really hate the tiredness, the sickness, not being able to sleep on your back, not being able to enjoy scalding hot baths, no alcohol, moderate caffeine, no medicine if you're ill, the WORRY about whether the baby will be okay, not being able to enjoy the taste of things you used to enjoy, can't make plans (take a course, long-haul travel etc)...my list just goes on.
At this rate I'm looking forward to the birth!!!Which is a good way to look at it, I suppose.

MrsMattie · 06/02/2009 11:21

I couldn't walk for the last 6 weeks of my first pregnancy, my SPD was so bad. Second pregnancy - had hypermesis, SPD and obstetric cholestasis. Nice.

I would do it all again, though

crokky · 06/02/2009 11:29

I spent both my pgs in a terrible state with hyperemesis, pains, the lot. Then my liver decided enough was enough and stopped functioning properly and I had to have both DCs at 37 weeks. I honestly would have thought that I was dying if I didn't know better. Pregnancy is horrific for quite a few people, you just don't tend to see them much. My last pg - I had to move me and toddler in with my mum (leaving DH at home) and I spent most of the time struggling with each minute going by hardly able to move. You will have a lovely baby and it will all be worth it! I am one of 4 and I wanted to have 4, but now that I've had 2, I can't go through pregnancy again because it is too awful. And when your baby is born, these pg hormones will go away very quickly and you will be able to start recovering immediately. In fact, I couldn't believe it when I was able to eat a meal after mine were born, it was so strange not having been able to eat for all that time!

countrylover · 06/02/2009 12:33

Oh yes, I hated it first time round amd not enjoying it much this time round either.

I am lucky in that I didn't have really bad sickness with either just constant nausea until around 16 weeks. But that, followed by headaches for 4 weeks, a few weeks respite and now raging insomnia due to not being able to get comfortable are enough for me.

As far as I'm concerned pregnancy is a means to an end. After the first one I said never again (not just because of the pregnancy but also v traumatic birth with DS in SCBU for 17 days and PND for me for a year). But time is a great healer and somehow three years later here I am again. But this will, without doubt be the last time. My reproducing days are over thanks very much!

Sending you hugs and sympathy - from what I can gather hyperemesis is something you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy. I really hope you improve over the next few weeks and if it's any vague consultation, you're nearly half way through already.

Flightattendant12 · 06/02/2009 12:40

Oh golly yes.

I had two pregnancies, both times with hyperemesis (although I didn't throw up, it can still be classed as HG if your nausea is bad enough, which it was) - in fact the second one was worse I think.

Combine that with a terrible gag reflex, SPD, serious heartburn, dry mouth like you wouldn't believe - well it was crap really.

I'd love more babies but feel a bit like you do about it - just unbearable being pregnant.

I'm hoping it was partly stress which made it all so awful for me, though - I was single both times due to unhappy breakups with utter knobs. That can't have helped.

Hope you are back on track very soon and manage to enjoy the middle bit! xxx

Hawkmoth · 06/02/2009 13:47

First time was fine, this time is crap. Just crap.

wideratthehips · 06/02/2009 14:05

absolutely hate it.....from the moment of conception until baby is about 12wks old i'm utterly miserable. the physical response to pregnancy is horrid and i actually get rather depressed. but it is really worth it (having dc3 in four weeks).....even though i have to write off a year of my life

thing is i always forget how awful it is but i'm absolutely not doing it again as i think my eldest (who is 4.8) has been a bit concerned about how its affected me and he is desperate for the baby to come so that he can have me back

peachface · 06/02/2009 14:08

you're not alone. I have 2 beautiful boys but oh my goodness did I feel sick through the first 22 weeks of 2nd pregnancy and with both of them I had massively high blood pressure despite normally being nice and low!! Worth it in the end but I know loads of people who hated the pregnancy part of this child rearing business!!

mrsgboring · 06/02/2009 14:11

Didn't know that about the nausea, Flight - I have been told I wasn't bad enough to qualify for HG, but it completely overtook my life for the first 16-20 weeks of all of my pregnancies. Not yet gone this time round. All sorts of complilcations with my pgs that I shan't even go into because it's unhelpful for other pg women to hear my horror stories.

But yes, pregnancy is awful, and this may well be my last time, though I had wanted to have one more DC after this. That remains to be seen though.

SydneyB · 06/02/2009 14:14

Oh gawd, yes. Hated it both times and sometimes wake up thinking, thank god I don't need to get pg again. Hassling DH for snip too! I just felt rubbish both times, a lot of sickness, heartburn etc. That joyous feeling literally minutes after giving birth when you feel normal again - will never forget it!

brettgirl2 · 06/02/2009 18:13

If it's any consolation I particularly hated it around about 20 weeks - I felt that I had been pregnant for ever and was going to be pregnant for ever.

I'm now 31 weeks and although I still don't like it I can currently walk, feel OK and the end is in sight. I'd just like to be able to ride and walk up mountains (drinking I find mildly annoying but the first two make me unhappy)

I think as well I'm a really impatient person and I dislike the fact I can't just speed it up so that I can meet my baby

bunsen · 06/02/2009 20:52

Yes I've not enjoyed it this time. Had just got down to the weight I was before the last pregnancy which was hard work, had been under stress finding new job and learning to drive. So started out pregnancy with nasty sickness, hardly eaten anything this time, which is strange cos I've still put 3 stone on! Had a hard time with dizzyness and exhaustion. Got a toddler and I think that makes a difference from last time. Mum n dad split up and have hardly spoke to me whilst I've been pregnant, DH has started enjoying a midnight love affair with an old flame over the phone, passed my driving which was stressful for me (I am crap at driving) been in new job and had to work with an ex looking like shit. Oh I am enjoying this moan. Basically felt like I have been carrying Giant Haystacks on my back with nausea all the way through. SPD is kicking in now but only have 10 more days to go. Can't wait. Keep forgetting theres a prize at the end.

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hayleybootes · 06/02/2009 22:26

Am soooooooooooo glad i'm not alone!

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dustbuster · 06/02/2009 22:29

Another pregnancy hater here. The first week after DD was born was amazing, not just because she was so lovely, but just because I felt normal again. Even the most ordinary food tasted positively ambrosial.

beeny · 06/02/2009 22:35

I have been sick from week 9 am now 31 weeks have heartburn and exhaustion and toddler yesterday felt so bad wanted to die.

ellenjames · 06/02/2009 22:38

must admit i hate it even though have had 3 pregnancies in 3 years but for me the hate doesn't kick in till the spd does! that is hell!

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