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Harsh Pregnancy, does anyone else HATE pregnancy???

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hayleybootes · 05/02/2009 21:14

I'm 19+5! And ever since I found out I was pregnant I have had such a nightmare of a pregnancy. I have hyperemesis which means I have nausea and vomiting constantly! I have to take medication to stop it, which gives me lots of other side affects. It has got better the last 2 weeks but I still feel horrific especially in the mornings. I have nearly all pregnancy symptoms. I have backache, heartburn, I ache all over, I'm tired all the time, I cry loads, and I have bad headaches!

Once the baby's here I will be so glad that I went through it all and will be soooooo happy, but I can't help but just HATE pregnancy. My body just doesn't like it. I get really down about it and I know I shouldn't as I could have much worse things but I can't help it.

Does anyone else feel like this or am I alone in this depressed pregnant state????? x

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EsmeWeatherwax · 06/02/2009 22:46

Oh, I hate it too. Horrible, horrible nausea this time, actually feel better now I am back to just throwing up whenever I smell something awful. Changing dd's nappies a peach for that!

Of course, as soon as I stopped feeling nauseous all the time, the SPD kicked in, and now I can hardly walk. Love having the babies, hate pregnancy. Hate it. I'd love another baby after this one, but just couldn't do pregnancy again. Plus, dh would divorce me since I'm such a nightmare the whole time!

sadminster · 07/02/2009 11:00

Pregnancy is a living nightmare for me. This is my 9th (I have two children) - hyperemesis shit loads of drugs, scans every two weeks, constant blood tests & most of the time the baby dies anyway. Pregnancy sucks.

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hayleybootes · 07/02/2009 17:59

I'm really glad I'm not the only person feeling like this. Everyone I know or have known to be pregnant says how magical pregnancy is. What I want to know is when are you supposed to get healthy hair and healthy skin and that lovely glow coz i look haggard and awful, just wanna feel lovely and happy!!
To top it all off, only one of my boobs has grown, they are really wonky and it's starting to notice!!!!!

Bunsen- I hope you're ok. If you ever need to talk you know where we are xx

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soon2befamilyof4 · 07/02/2009 20:39

I am 29 weeks and hate it.

fidelma · 07/02/2009 21:33

You should be almost over the worst.I have had hyperemmisis twice and then a bad 3rd pregnancy but I wasnt hospitilised.I am now 5 weeks pregnant with my 4th.It is so worth it.after 20 weeks i was always great.I am very emotional at the moment.Pregnancy is not easy but the result is wonderful.stay strong.

fidelma · 07/02/2009 21:45

I had hyperemmis with my first to pregnancys and stayed in a darkened room at my mums.With my 3rd I had accupuncture 2/3 times a week and I didnt miss a day of work.About to start accupuncture on Monday for my 4th and taking b vitimins which is ment to help.But good luck to you all with hyperemmisis it is ssuch hell.

Mimsy2000 · 07/02/2009 21:49

hated it

chronic nausea, heartburn and massive weight gain for the first

horrific nausea/vomitting, gestational diabetes, hypertension for the second. nearly killed me.

never again.

begging hubby to get the snip.

Flightattendant12 · 08/02/2009 08:15

Fidelma that is encouraging, I am going to try acupuncture next time. I'd feel awful at the idea of not having a third baby, it's just too sad to think about even if the pregnancy is hell - so I'll try anything.

I know I'm lucky having two lovely boys already. Just feels a bit like there's someone missing iyswim.

linspins · 08/02/2009 10:49

I hate it too. Currently have:
heartburn
acid indigestion
nausea and retching
constipation
headaches
tearfulness
excess saliva production
tummy aches all day and night
backache
stuffy nose
dizzyness/muffled head feeling
extreme tiredness
everything smells bad
things sound too loud

ARGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!
Am only 12 weeks, and am hoping this will pass as I'm sure I didn't feel THIS bad in first preg.

You have my full sympathies Haleybootees, I guess I should be thankful I'm not on medication. Hang in there. xx

LaTrucha · 08/02/2009 11:25

Yup, pretty much hated the whole thing. Had hyperemesis right up to the end, plus SPD. I was housebound from 9 to 29 weeks.

It was worth it though.

Am now trying for a second.

Cosmogirl · 08/02/2009 16:11

Hi Hayley, certainly not alone. Bad hyperemesis from 6-20 and from 20 until now (33 weeks) all day every day nausea and tiredness. I am so sick of moaning about feeling sick and cannot wait for the baby to be born. I just want to remember what it is like not to feel nauseated and be able to do the things I did before. I never realised what an awful thing nausea is to deal with. Plus I only took meds for 5 days because had really bad side-effects, so have been getting by without any meds/therapies etc. It is REALLY tough. Bring on labour day is what I say!! Good luck to all those suffering and hope the rest of the preg goes quickly.

naomi83 · 08/02/2009 16:31

I think how people feel about pregnancy is similar to how people feel about having a newborn. If you have a lovely rosy time with not much pucking or discomfort then you tend to love being pregnant, same as if your newborn just feeds and sleeps then you tend to love the newborn stage. I thought pregnancy was ok, but that was because I was only sick about 4 times and not off my food or particularly uncomfortable (not counting numerous UTIs). I did however have a screaming colicky newborn that put me off having a second one for ages, am only now thinking about TTC again...

bebejones · 08/02/2009 16:40

I HATED being pregnant, from about 7weeks I was sick nearly everyday, & up until 20weeks I was pretty much bedridden with nausea if I moved I puked & I only just escaped being hospitalised. Once that started improving good ol SPD kicked in & moving was agony! But now I have my LO I really miss being pregnant & desperately want another one...I must be mad coz it was awful!

lindy100 · 08/02/2009 17:18

Hate it so far. Constant nausea - though luckily not so bad it's making me throw up v often. Constant fatigue. Only worked 3 weeks out of the last 11 - though 3 were school holidays - and want to cry a lot of the time. Body not great, mind really not coping. And all I can think about is my own misery!

Though on reflection I think I would rather be the mum and going through this than the dad and not have the same physical closeness with bub at this stage. Often, I have to remind myself of this.

gratuitousdisguise · 08/02/2009 17:48

My last pg was pretty hard going, and this one is very hard going (list of symptoms too long to bore you with)...however... I remember from last time that about 1 second after DS was born I totally forgot about the whole thing... not as in I couldn't remember it... it just wasn't important any more... all the books I had poured over, the symptoms I had been carefully monitoring, the health worries and nervousness about childbirth all disappeared in an instant and I never dwelt on them again... (till it all came back with a vengance in second PG ..

Point is that pregnancy can be horrible, and you will want to throttle people who think "a bit of heartburn at the end" constitutes having side effects... but it will all pass, and it is so so worth it... you may even get to feel a little superior to those who breeze through pregnancy, after all they haven't really had the full experience of motherhood the way that you have...

sadminster · 08/02/2009 18:24

One good thing about having nightmare pregnancies is that it makes the newborn stage seems a walk in the park (trying to look on the bright side). I've never found looking after a small baby that hard & I think that's because I feel so much better (physically & emotionally) then than I do when I'm pregnant. The relief at not being pregnant anymore is intense.

Flightattendant12 · 08/02/2009 19:37

I agree sad, I love newborn babies, would happily have another ten if I didn't have to go through the pregnancy first

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hayleybootes · 08/02/2009 20:03

Thank you for so much support. It's so easy to feel sorry for yourself when you are going through so much due to pregnancy, but I'm lucky because it won't last forever and it will all be worth it in the end.
I used to cry nearly everyday and I just wished I could be someone else even if it was just for an hour but it's never gonna happen so I just got to get on with it and stop moaning.
21 week scan on 23rd February, then my birthday in march and a holiday in april, if i keep concentrating on those things, hopefully the pregnancy will fly by!!

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bunsen · 08/02/2009 20:26

Hi Haleybootes - thanks x
PS I found setting time goals, like you helpful, like it will be spring soon, lighter nights, warmer, then easter, psychologically makes the journey shorter if in bite sized chunks. Totally feel for you, 20 weeks ago for me sounds like ages ago but when I think of what I was doing at the time, it doesn't seem so long ago. Always helped me thinking back to the beginning of the pregnancy, how shit I felt and how far I've come since then. Small things.

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hayleybootes · 08/02/2009 21:24

Thankyou Bunsen, I've had an awful day today, just really haven't felt good. I always feel better at work for some reason. I think it's the routine x

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BabyKairo · 08/02/2009 21:33

I am 8.5 weeks with my first and feeling so sick. Haven't been to work for nearly 2 weeks and that in itself is horrible and unsettling as I wonder when if ever I will return. Im scared people will think I'm being pathetic and its so early to tell anyone. Woke today feeling loads better and thought the wrist bands were working but feel awful again now but the brief respite reminded me how good I could feel and that made me cry. I had a private scan yesterday (£65 inner vision) as I was convinced it was triplets as I am so huge and sick. But only the one. Made me feel better about this horrible pregnancy tho. Worth every penny.

ihavenewsockson · 08/02/2009 21:53

know exactly how you feel.

37 weeks and counting the days.

DH gets a running commentary on how awful i'm feeling.

This is my second adn last.

Heatburn, SPD, irritable uterus, completely exhausted, can't see properly cos of the relaxin so can't drive, puke every time i bend over to pick something up.

toddler adn newborn gotta be easier than toddler and pregnant.

sunandstars · 08/02/2009 21:53

Hyperemesis is truly terrible.Food poisoning every day for 20+ weeks anyone?
My last (and final)pregnancy was like a comedy sketch of a non blooming.Like you hyperemesis,followed by severe anaemia - 3 steps then a sit down with looks of pity from other women.
Swollen ankles like treetrunks with the only footwear I could get on an old womans wide fit sandals.Then SPD and the crutches from the physio to complete the invalid look.Did I mention the long labour followed by 3rd degree tear as well!

Of all these hyperemesis was the worst (women do terminate because of hyperemesis which is in a totally different category to the 'ginger biscuit sickness variety) so all I can say you are heading towards the better trimester.

My mum had no sickness,quick labour and no associated tears/stiches.Why isn't this genetic? I used to look at other women and think this is just not on.
All I can say is for some of us pregnancy is an illness to be endured but with a lovely child to compensate.

It will end and you will forget quite how bad it was (maybe) and may even do it again

ktjj84 · 08/02/2009 23:59

I hate it, i hate it, i hate it! I'm never getting pregnant again!

Constant nausea! I'm so tired of feeling sick all the time and unable to eat pretty much everything.

Tried to explain to my DP and he just phoned his mum and they had a chat on how i'm playing on it and attention seeking!!!! He keeps telling me i'm not ill i'm pregnant!

Feel pretty low..... but reading all this makes me feel so much better. Phew... i'm not the only one who hates being pregnant!

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hayleybootes · 09/02/2009 09:14

I am at work and feeling horrific this morning! I hope it gets better soon!! When people have perfectly great pregnancies they cannot understand what you are going through and in my last pregnancy I was in a different job and everyone thought I was playing on it, it wasn't until my manager came to visit me in hospital that she believed I was poorly!!
Help!!!! I just wanna die today!! It's only my3 year old daughter that keeps me going. She keeps telling me that I'll be better soon and she will look after me!!

Thankyou everyone, been brilliant hearing what others are going through! So glad I'm not alone! x

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