Harsh Pregnancy, does anyone else HATE pregnancy???

[hayleybootes]

I'm 19+5! And ever since I found out I was pregnant I have had such a nightmare of a pregnancy. I have hyperemesis which means I have nausea and vomiting constantly! I have to take medication to stop it, which gives me lots of other side affects. It has got better the last 2 weeks but I still feel horrific especially in the mornings. I have nearly all pregnancy symptoms. I have backache, heartburn, I ache all over, I'm tired all the time, I cry loads, and I have bad headaches!

Once the baby's here I will be so glad that I went through it all and will be soooooo happy, but I can't help but just HATE pregnancy. My body just doesn't like it. I get really down about it and I know I shouldn't as I could have much worse things but I can't help it.

Does anyone else feel like this or am I alone in this depressed pregnant state????? x

I hated being pregnant too. Hated it! Can't really understand people who like. They are weird.

Although I really feel for you all it's just great to feel I'm not alone!!!

I am Nigel and I HATE BEING PREGNANT!

There.
I've had a cold for seven months, two chest infections, one ear infection, acid heartburn which travels up my throat if not immeadiately met with an avalanche of gaviscon. I'm sick every day, usually after a coughing fit when- if I'm not REALLY concentrating - I also do a little wee
I have gestational diabetes, my iron is so low I've been hospitalised twice and my back pain is unbearable by lunchtime.
I've also just started to get SPD again and find when down picking up toys at the end of the day I can't get back up!

Oh and I have a MIL who keeps saying, you're pregnant, not ill!!!!!!!!!!!!!! but i am

I also dread people asking how I am, any one else get this? You can't really tell the truth as it's just SO very boring to hear myself moaning on and on....I would'nt want to put anyone else off as I just love being a mum but if there were another way...........

To cheer you up if you do decide to do it again....my first was awful. Wont go into details, but absolutely dreadful and scary. Second pregnancy was a surprise and although it was uncomfortable, painful at times and quite vomitous, not as bad. If I could have another pregnancy like the 2nd, I'd do it again. No guarantees though and I'm too scared! Also we felt like 2 is enough for us, but one bad pregnancy doesn't mean the next will be crap too. x

I had a horrible preganancy too. 24/7 nausea for the first 22 weeks, then a fortnight of flu and chest infection, a bleed, and throwing up every single day for the rest of the pg. Had the stuffed up nose thing so bad I was waking up about 5 times a night with a mouth like a carpet, even with the aid of Olbas and nose strips, weeing every hour on the hour through the night for the 1st 12 wks and last 6 wks.

All followed by going 2 weeks overdue, 3 sweeps, induction, epidural, emergency caesarean, infection, colicky, bf resistant DD with jaundice, crashed thyroid and PND.

I love DD (4.4) to bits and would do it again in heartbeat for her, but have no intention of putting myself through it to bring another little person into the world, so she will be an only child like Mummy!

Bit of a hijack, but for those who have been through a really hard pregnancy, does the relief come as soon as you have delivered? (Getting excited at prospect of labour and an end to constant and depressing nausea)

Just think how much easier you'll find life when the baby comes! I hate being pregnant and having to be pregnant is the one thing that nearly made me have second thoughts about making a brother or sister for 20 month old. Not sick, just knackered and can feel early onset of pelvic pain which made me an invalid from 30 weeks last time.
I have a friend who spent her 1st pregnancy all stars and moons and loving the bump etc, but she had a really hard time with the baby as expected all to be easy and great. I had crap time, expected the worst and ended up in state of new Mum bliss when all worked out dandy.
A pessimist is never disappointed!!!

Cosmogirl, I had two horrible hyperemesis pregnancies. Both babies were delivered by caesarian and on both occasions it was like a nausea switch being turned off. Absolutely instant relief within moments of them being lifted out.
I really agree with whoever said that looking after a newborn seemed so easy compared to being pregnant. It was just such an enormous relief not to be pregnant any more.

Cosmogirl, yes, it was instant.

Of course there is the other stuff to get over initially, I remember being in utter shock and very upset after a v quick homebirth, with my second - I didn't want to hold him at first, took a few days to get up and about.

But no more nausea, no gagging, no backache.

It was truly wonderful and carried me through the initial discomfort for a long while.

I often think of those poor women on Holby city who are in an accident and end up in a coma for 9 months only to wake up with a baby

Does anyone know anything about taking vitamin B to stop the sickness? I'm willing to try anything. Acupuncture? Hypnosis? The doc has given me cyclizine tablets which I take religiously and they've stopped the retching. The worst thing about feeling so sick is that it is all absorbing, I can't concentrate on anything. Got to go back to work this week, just got to, so got a day or two to get myself BETTER! I am so impressed by those of you who go to work/look after kids feeling like this. I AM NOT WORTHY!

BabyKairo - Try everything. I found soem thigns worked for me and not for other and vice versa. Accupunture bands on the wrists worked for me but not accupuncture . I didn't take the vitamin B because I could not have kept it down but my Auntie who used to be a midwife said that you need a prescription for it you need such a high dose. Worth asking the GP.

Thanks LaTrucha - my acupuncture wrist bands are permanent fixtures! I'll make an appt for proper acupuncture first thing tomorrow. Got a GP appt on Weds AM, so will ask him re Vit B.

AWFUL is the only word I can use to describe my pregnancies....the only good thing is what you get at the end!

I feel the same, it's completely different things work for different people. I have really good days and really really bad days! The cyclizine didn't work for me, just made me sleep all the time, I had a concoction of different drugs, even tried one that hadn't been licensed for pregnant people yet but they asked if i wanted to try it in hospital because they just didn't know what to do with me when i couldn't stop being sick, I lost a stone and a half in a couple of weeks!! Hell!!!

Thankyou everyone. I really did 100% think I was the only one feeling so awful. There was 3 girls pregnant in my office and theyve all gone on maternity leave now and I don't think I heard any of them complain about it once, but i just go on and on, I think I prob get on peoples nerves.
Going back to work wasn't easy after 10 weeks off but it actually made me feel better, that surprised me too!!

I will pray tonight that we all have better days from now on!!

thank you for this thread. its so good to know i'm not alone (although i am not wishing misery on anyone else of course!). i am 28 weeks, and was hospitalised with pneumonia a fortnight ago, and i jsut feel awful. i felt pretty gruesome before that, but now feel diabolical! i do want to lie down and die sometimes! however have to keep going for my two DDs (age 2 and 3), cannot WAIT to give birth! that definitiley helped me have fairly easy labours, knowing each contraction was one closer to nt being pregnant any more! i am trying to be positiive and grateful that i am having anotehr very much wanted baby, but oh MY GOD time is jsut stretching away into infinity. it feels like it is never going to end....

phew feel better after that rant!

Thanks hayleybootes for your prayers - I had a good day today after the worst ever day yesterday. I cried myself to sleep last night after shouting at DH 3 times for snoring coz I woz so jealous he could sleep. All I could think was I was another day down. At 8+5 that is depressing stuff. As I have warned work I am going in on Thursday and will stay as long as I can stay upright, prayers please it is a good day on Thursday! Did you feel OK after first trimester? Did you have odd days off work after you went back or did return to work after 10 weeks coincide with your gradual recovery?

I think how I've felt today on my good day is how most people feel with MS. I am going to tell everyone I'm pg on thursday to explain my absence and if they all tell me to have ginger biscuits I think I'll throttle them. I'm dreading it.

Thanks Lego and FlightAttendant - you have both made my evening! I can't wait for that nausea switch to be turned off. 49 days to go!! Bring it on!

Cosmogirl I am so jealous! Only 49 days to go!!!!

BabyKairo - I am yet to feel better!! I'm unsure actually whether I have got a bit better or I have accepted that I will never get rid of this awful nausea and occasional (now it is, used to be constant) vomiting. I used to cry everyday and hope I would just fall into a coma for the rest of my pregnancy. Sometimes (although I feel horrific saying this now) I used to hope something bad would happen to me so I didn't have to be pregnant anymore. I don't think I have ever been so depressed in my life and I used to sit and cry through the night too because I would get to sleep and then if i woke up I would feel so so sick that I couldn't get back to sleep I would have to run to the toilet for the rest of the night.

After 10 weeks of being off work I had to force myself in as financially I could no longer afford my daughters childcare. I was in half pay for december, which meant I couldn't afford xmas presents and then in January I would have gone into no pay. With my husband at work and me too sick to even think about looking after my daughter, she had to stay in nursery, but then with no money to pay the fees I had to do something. I went back full time straight away. I sometimes spent a lot of time in the toilet being sick but at least I was there and getting paid. Colleagues were happy to tell me that they too had bad sickness but I don't think they will ever understand the extent of it. Everyday whilst at work I challenge myself to drink 2 litres of water. Some of my team have joined me in this. I won't touch tea or coffee or coke although I love all of them, but they will make you dehydrated. The reason I make sure I'm so hydrated is because everytime i've been in hospital they won't let me out until i'm hydrated enough, so I think as long as I don't get dehydrated I'll never have to go to that awful place again!!

Sorry to bore you but the fluid gets me through the day, you will have to find something to focus on so you don't think about the way you feel as much. xx

Hayleybootes - you are not alone. You will feel better than you do now, and that might be in an hour, or in 12 hours, but there will be a moment to savour. Just think tomorrow there will be those few seconds of feeling OK when you are becoming conscious and before the nausea rises.
Thanks so much for giving me the details of how you got on first day back at work - it helps to understand how I might manage. I've had another reasonable today so am feeling confident if I feel like this tomorrow I'll be OK. If I don't and I feel like I did on Monday, I figure I'll just get a taxi home to bed! I do feel better when I'm hydrated, so am sitting here sipping through a straw! DH away with work tonight which is a blessing as no cooking smells.
Another day nearly over. Keep going.

When you go back to work let me know how you get on - babykairo xx

I'm hating it too right now, 33wks with DC2. Have had violent cough for past four weeks which is making me wee uncontrollably - full on tena lady for me. And lots of throwing up b/c of the cough - in the car while driving, in bed, on the sofa. Feel like I'm constantly battling body fluids!
You have my sympathy Hayley.

Another vote for hating it. Extreme tiredness, nausea, depressed, anxious and SPD amost unbearable. Also coughing and yup anybodyhome weeing myself and retching with each violent cough.
After dd1 arrived midwife couldn't believe the difference in me, the relief was instant!

Hi, I really enjoyed my first pregnancy, but now here I am again at 10.5 weeks vomiting every day, not being able to look at most food (struggling getting toddler dinner together..) and I'm not so sure I like pregnancy anymore.

My first pregnancy, I vomited 5 to 10 times a day up to 36 weeks. I lost so much weight and it was hell.

This pregnancy has been fairly easy in comparision in that I have only been sick 5 times. I am suffering with terrible back and goin pain. I am struggling to walk at 30 weeks.

To make matters worst my husband has told me that he would like a third child in a couple of years time. I have told him that I will consider it when he poos a melon!

I hate it! Am 11 weeks and vomiting several times a day, struggling to enjoy anything and tearful over the slightest thing. My dd is now 2 and if it wasn't for knowing how amazing it is to have her, I think I would be very depressed. I just feel like everybody has little sympathy and doesn't want to hear about someone not being well in pregnancy. It goes against the grain for them, they just think about how lovely it will be to have a newborn baby. 8 months of hell first! Everybody says well you'll be better at 12 weeks ( I wasn't last time) or you look a bit better, but I feel like death. Definitely no more for me!

OMG, thank you for starting this thread. I HATE being pg. I'm currently 19+3 with DC3. I'm queasy, got heartburn/acid reflux, tummy feels stretched and uncomfortable, boobs hurt like you wouldn't believe, soooooo tired, irritable (DD1 and 2 just about make it thru the day alive)and generally feel like cr4p on a cracker all day, every day.

I am so of women that sail through pg without so much as a whiff of sick about them, That glow from head to foot (instead of developing spots, lunps and bumps in weird place - ear cartilage anyone?).

I also loathe it when people you don't know very well come up and touch/pat/stroke your bump like they own it. I want to shout at the them to back the feck away. I don't sqeeze your norks when I see you, so don't touch my tummy.

I could also cheerfully kill women (who are usually untoned, slack tummied and chubby) making remarks like, 'ohhhh, it's going to be a big one then'.... or 'blimey, who's eaten all the pies?'. .

I'm 5'6", usually size 10. Where do you think I'm going to hide a pg bump? Grrrr.

Phew. Sorry. Just needed to get that off my chest.

Oh, I also seem to have developed cellulite from my tits to my knees. .