Harsh Pregnancy, does anyone else HATE pregnancy???

[hayleybootes]

I'm 19+5! And ever since I found out I was pregnant I have had such a nightmare of a pregnancy. I have hyperemesis which means I have nausea and vomiting constantly! I have to take medication to stop it, which gives me lots of other side affects. It has got better the last 2 weeks but I still feel horrific especially in the mornings. I have nearly all pregnancy symptoms. I have backache, heartburn, I ache all over, I'm tired all the time, I cry loads, and I have bad headaches!

Once the baby's here I will be so glad that I went through it all and will be soooooo happy, but I can't help but just HATE pregnancy. My body just doesn't like it. I get really down about it and I know I shouldn't as I could have much worse things but I can't help it.

Does anyone else feel like this or am I alone in this depressed pregnant state????? x

And, because I have to have a cervical stitch put in for every pg, DH and I aren't allowed any sex what so ever for the entire duration of the pg.

Granted, this may seem like a blessing in disguise, but after having a week's worth of rauncy dreams about Richard Hammond (and sometimes Jeremy Clarkson too - eeeuuuwww), I was just about begging DH to please put me out of my misery and shag me. DH politely declined and reminded me of my over sensitive gag reflex and terrible case of sick breath.......

Hey ho, only another 4 1/2 months to go.....SOB.

This thread is brilliant, although I would never in a million years wish any of this on my worst enemy. I am so sorry for everything that you lot are going through but it is really putting my SPD into perspective. I HATE not being able to walk but at least I am not in hospital. You lot are heroes.

Yes, I do dread people asking how I am because it seems somehow rude to tell them.
I also hate comments on my body especially as I am moving in a horrible ungainly way when I can move at all, so don't want to be reminded of the overall ghastly figure I cut.

Good luck everyone!

stircrazy, i think we are similar. my ds is 2 and i love him to bits and i can't wait for another, but god this vomiting and relentless fatigue is driving me to tears. i can't look at food, am losing weight, can't be bothered to even go to the playground because i spend most of it eyeing off which tree would be most inconspicuous to vomit behind.

is this right? i just want to stay in bed for the next few weeks. they say this feeling goes 12-14 weeks, god i hope so. i'm 11 weeks now.

i too just reply 'good' when people ask how i am, because i can't really be bothered to be that complaining pregnant woman!

Feel your pain. I had Hyperemesis almost all the way through, heartburn, insomnia, spd, dizzyness when tryingto walk, it was hell on earth. Was off work sick for three months.
Love DS to bits, it wouldn't be labour putting m off having another, it would be having to go throug pregnancy again.

Agreed AnnVan, labour was a breeze compared to this (or at least it was over relatively quickly for me) whereas each day currently feels like a small eternity. Bring on September!!

audrey I was saying bring on late august - DS decided to wait till mid-september to arrive will keep fingers croosed for better luck for you though.

my ds was 2 weeks early so better be prepared this time!

God yeah, I'd go through labour 20 times as long as I didn't have to go through this hell of a pregnancy. I feel so so so so down now. 20 weeks to go!! Thank you for all the support on this thread. Am really appreciating hearing from others going through the same.
I have just started to get really big and am finding it really hard to do a lot or even bend over, already. Think I'm gonna look like a whale soon as well as feeling like dying, GREAT!!!

After I miscarried my first (and long-awaited) pregnancy last September, I was thrilled to get pregnant right away again. Then the nausea kicked in at 6 weeks, ruined my honeymoon, and had me in the GP's office contemplating a termination. I'm 13+4 and while I can sometimes now open the fridge without gagging, I still can't eat much of anything. Cyclazine doesn't seem to do anything, and I've gotten so down the GP has put me back on antidepressants and referred me to the mental health team. I'm off work and my idiot boss keeps phoning and saying inane things about ginger biscuits--would love to tell her to shove them up her arse.

I'm so disappointed, I really thought I was going to enjoy pregnancy--but I hate it so much it scares me.

I am now off work for 2 weeks. I have been to gps to contemplate medication and he suggested time off work instead which has now pissed everyone at work off! I feel like I am letting everyone down. However, there is a ray of hope, I have been for acupuncture this afternoon for the vomiting, going again next week. Maybe it will work! I will keep you posted. Audrey you sound like my pregnancy twin!

Yes yes yes, I HATE being pregnant. I have just posted my own thread about the nausea. How can nausea turn your life on its head? I'm lucky that i'm not actually vomiting much, but its still awful. And I'm knackered, getting no sleep, trying to manage a stressful situation at work and look after a 2 year old. It sucks.

I am so sorry to hear so many of you suffering, how on earth do you cope?

Hi All, I feel so bad because I absolutely HATE being pregnant... and I know how many women out there would love to be in my position! I've always wanted children and I naively thought being pregnant was all about just "having a bump"... I was super excited when I saw the little positive sign pop up on the stick, but now I just want the whole thing over! I didn't suffer from morning sickness (THANK GOD!) but I have had every other symptom you can possibly imagine... backaches, PUPPP, horrendous stretchmarks, sleep deprivation, pelvic pain and today I am officially 1 week overdue so I went into see my midwife for a Stretch and Sweep... it was the most painful thing I've ever had done... it really made me cry - I felt sooo stupid... how am I going to cope with labour? I just need to see my baby before I start resenting him/her... I know how awful this all sounds and I know once I see my baby I'll be over the moon... but is anyone else feeling this way? I would love to share top tips for getting through certain "symptoms"... Take Care Girls and I wish you well for the rest of your pregnancies... Sara x

I don't know how you do it a second time. Though it breaks my heart that dd will be an only.

Hayley, have you found HER (hyperemesis support site)? - a good addition to the mumsnet support - here

I want to thank all of you so much. I thought I was the only one that could not work do my to my constant nausea and everything else along with crying all the time.

I am 16 weeks and everyone kept telling me, oh, it will get better after the 12th week, YEAH RIGHT. I was finally able to eat more but puking all the time seemed to a constant with an upset stomach. I wanted to go postal on people that would tell me that eating some dry crackers and gingerale would help. I got so defensive at times, it would scare me.

I feel so much better just reading your messages. I had one miscarriage before so this is my first and I was so scared and at the same time I wanted this baby, but going through what started at week 7 till now has been To put it mildly ROUGH.

pregnantnwaiting, we sound like the same person! 16 weeks today, and it's the first day in ages where I didn't actually throw up. Felt sick for a lot of the day though.

I'm not even at work--I think I would seriously maim anyone who suggested dry crackers at this stage. Probably best for everyone if I'm kept locked in my house.

Sarah76, I wish I could say that same. I threw up about 3 times and had a splitting headache most of the day. It is important to stay hydrated, I know but it is even hard for me to drink water in the day time. I have to wait to the wee early morning hours just to drink a lot of water. Better then than never. It is sooo nice to know that I am not alone. I felt like that for so long!

Oh no! I have been very lucky recently. Last two days have been vomit-free, but nausea still there and feel a bit 'on the edge'.

Going to see GP about SPD/pelvic pain today. Yet another thing to be depressed about. Social worker says no psychiatric outpatient appts till mid-April. Fluoxetine not working at all.

sarah - can you get GP to put pressure on for you to get seener, being PG they normally regard you as a priority - when I was PG and depressed the obs/gynae consultant got me an appointment within a fortnight.

I don't think the GP is involved anymore. He referred me to the community mental health team because he had no idea what to do with me beyond trying fluoxetine. I just hope the social worker can get the psychiatrist to come out. She was supposed to come together with the social worker on the first visit, but had to cancel last minute.

when psych has cancelled clinics, the seccie would always tell me if needed to be seen sooner to get my GP to ask for an urgent appointment (obviously system varies from area to area though). hope you get seen soon.

Hi ladies - While I was hating pregnancy I was also worried that I would resent baby when it arrived. I didn't and I adore him. Hang in there. I know how bad it is. Now I look back, it seems like it went so fast, but at the time every day felt like an eternity. DS is nearly 6 months now btw.
Good luck to you.

I always felt bad because I hate being pregnant. I am currently 29 weeks and now I'm getting sick. My blood pressure is constantly high and my baby is extremely active. I can't lie down, eat, drink, or relax without him kicking, flipping, and rolling. It is very uncomfortable and aggravating. I wish I knew a way for him to settle down in there. I also have headaches now. I am so tired of this. I have gained 30 pounds already. I've been in ER three times due to my blood pressure and fetal movement that puts me in tears. I'm almost positive that my ribs will be bruised. I just can't stand all the movement!!! I'm also tired of everyone telling me "Oh,that's normal","He's just happy", "Just deal with it",and "It's almost over." I will never do this again!!! It just doesn't agree with my body. Besides that, my mother agrees that this needs to be a closed chapter in my life. I must say, I agree 100% I just can't stand all the moving!!!!!

holy cow am i happy to see that i am not the only one! not that i am happy that ANY of you are experiencing the terror that i am, but glad to see i am not alone. i haven't really ever known anyone while they were pregnant and all i ever hear is how "wonderful" it is....well i am still waiting for that moment!
my work has been so unsupportive, calling me numerous times to see if i was coming in or not, even harassing my mother because she is my emergency contact person!! and i am 28! i have been so stressed and feel like a** so much that i finally just quit. and they have the nerve to call and ask when ill be returning my corporate cell! no how are you doing, or just wanted to check on you or nothing! i told them "when i could peel myself off the floor i will, and thank you for asking about my wellbeing"
i am just praying this gets better, but it seems to only be getting worse...