TTC grads - the one where the old temp buddies come home to roost!!!!

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The old thread was getting impossibly slow on my computer, so decided that it was time to create a new one with hopefully Rah and Ready joining us, and with a whole new due date list.....

so MrsM, Momwi - come and start the list and hopefully Rah and Ready will come here now too!!!!!

I am so excited that the temp buddies are back together again, can you tell?!?!?!?

wow, there must be something in the air with all these pregnancy things going on. fingers crossed that seaside and rainbow have good news for us soon!

So, could you be greedy???! guessing you'd be pretty pleased about it? when i had my little scare I actually got quite panic-y about having 3 kids, but it must be OK because honey, greedy and rainbow seem perfectly happy!!! . Honey, the persona says its about 93% effective if used correctly. I really like it as I didn't get on with the pill recently and its great because it tells you whats going on with your body. I guess I just worried as its not a proper contraceptive is it... but I'm going to stick with it for now.

Good that you heard from DH fettle - how are the kids?

By the way, MrsMc is on FB now - she's one of my friends and for those who know what she looks like, then you'll recgonise her. I wont out her here by saying her name though. If you get stuck I'll suggest her as a friend to you guys.

See ya!

ooh - Greedy! I think you're secretly always hoping you're pregnant!!! You definitely going for it then in 3 years?! (if you're not now?)

Chooster - do you think DH would like another then? What would persuade you?

I really am so happy with my lot, I don't want another at all - couldn't afford to give them the life I want to, if we had another for a start! But then I'm always a bit practical. Still no proper sign of my AF though - strange tiny amounts of spotting, sore boobs and weird pains in the my abdomen please don't let me be pg (sorry those who want to be - different place and time and all that!)

Right - really ought to get on with my case studies - Mum has taken Toby for a walk to give me some time and here I am on here! [naughty girl emoticon!!].

ps can anyone believe that Toby is 2 on Saturday? Where has the time gone? His talking is suddenly coming on really fast - we can count at least 30-35 words without thinking, so I'm sure he's got the 50 that he needs to avoid being referred for speech therapy by Saturday! I'm not just going to speak to the HV until they contact me to give him some extra time!

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Sorry but this thread has made me giggle, think back a few years and when we were all wondering if we would ever get pg, with temping seeming to not be helping etc. Now there seem to be mad panic's over the possibilities of being pg!!!!! . Well suffice to say that I hope that those who don't want to be pg right now are not, and those of us who want to be are! Confused - well I am over who wants to be and who doesn't!

Greedy - well done to ellis on his next belt

chooser - phew, glad that you got passed your little scare.

fettle - Toby can't possibly be 2 already!!!! time seems to have flown past.

Hi to everyone else.

hi all

Dex is 2 in november and he is NO way near having 50 words- is that a guideline then?? I'd say he has about 3 recognisable words ...and a lot of er er er. Oh well.

rainbow- tis a bit confusing! . Hope you have a good month TTC again.

sorry short post again...

Good point Rainbow!! My AF arrived yesterday (I think!). never been so light before, but then an ovarian cyst must be having some effect on my hormones I suppose.

Anyway, Honey when the HV saw Toby at 18 months and he was saying nothing, she said that if he wasn't saying 50 words by 2, he should probably be referred to speech therapy for an assessment. I think "normal" is 10-50 by 18 months, 50-200!! by 2 and upwards from there. But who's "normal"? You could have an intelligible two-way conversation with DD by 2, so my two couldn't be more different. It is lovely have more and more words coming from Toby now, although most words start with "d" whether they should or not, but at least he's trying now! Such a shame, DH is missing it though- but you're right Seaside, it is such a short time in the scale of their lives, it doesn't really matter that he's not here for such a small part.

Toby seems to be coping much better about DH being away - I've printed him out a photo of him, which he talks to, feeds pretend food and cups of tea. Today when I suggested we draw Daddy a picture, he ran into the sitting-room and starting shouting for Da-da as if looking for him and was looking for the photo as if expecting it to answer him back!!! Made some tears come to my eyes, it was so sweet.

Honey - how's the NCT going? My friend had her first session today - can't wait to hear how it went. I had to write her reference for her, which was a bit of a responsibility!

Right - need an early night, as I'm exhausted!

take care all - what news from you Iammummy? Still hanging in there?

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You're right rainbow - it is pretty confusing!!! When you are ttc, it always seems unfair when people seem to accidently fall pregnant when loads of other people are desperately temping and 'CM' wathing! As Fettle says, its just a different time now isn't it.

Fettle, DH doesn't actually want another one, I just think he could see the positives when he thought it had already happened, if you see what I mean - but no, we wont be trying. Something funny is going on with my periods though... It was 4 days late but light, only lasted til the saturday so 2 days... And now 5 days later its back again ... Just not sure whats going on. The other odd thing is that my persona test sticks usually show a single line before and after ovulation and a double line when you are approaching ovulation and actually ovulting. But today I've got a full fat double line... I can't be ovulating and having a period - Perhaps this persona things is not so good - too much information and all that is sometimes not a good thing.

Ah, bless Toby with his picure of DH - he seems like a real cutie. With the words thing, Theo was rubbish at speaking until he pretty much turned 2 but now 2 months later he has leaped forward with it all. He knows his colours and counts, and speaks little 3 or 4 word sentences. Maybe he knew the words but just didn't say them much until it clicked? Perhaps the same with Dex?

After my 'whats going on with my body' thoughts, I decided to do the other test in the pack I bought last week and sure enough there was a BFP... But I'm bleeding again today, not so bad mainly brown-y (sorry TMI). I'm either pregnant and bleeding or I'm miscarrying and I dont know how to feel about either situation really. I've never had bleeding in any pregnancy before and I've never miscarried so this is new territory for me. Whats the collective wisdom of the TTC ladies??? I dont feel pregnant either, no sickness or sore boobs etc and if my calculations were right I'd be 5 weeks. No pain either, I just feel normal.

I know I dont need to say this but please dont mention anything on FB... You guys are the only ones who now know...

Oh chooster - what a weird one I had just read you post from last night and I have to say my first thought was that it might be worth doing another test. I don't know what to tell you except there probably is not much you can do either way right now? Maybe go to the GP? I think the only thing they can do this early is test your HCG levels and then test them again in a day or so to se if they are rising? I wonder if its worth trying a CB digital test to see if it gives you 1-2 weeks or 2-3 etc (mind you I am just a complete new technology junkie and will find any excuse to waste £££ on pointless stuff )
I know you said you feel normal but to take care of yourself and def go to the docs if you feel anything change.

I do empathise with the not knowing how you feel - even though we are ttc I still have some days when I am not sure about it at all and others where I am completely all for it

Sorry for rubbish advice! I am sure the more experienced and wiser grads will be along soon - I am thinking of you - keep us posted on how you are. xxx

Chooster! Poor girl. Agree with seaside would consider another test in a few days. I bled v lightly for first 2 wks with dd. I didn't know i was pg the time.

I was going to post and say that your af sounds like mine last month and my current one but I'd be amazed if I'm pg. (and a little scared)!!

The lack of symptom Dint really tell u much. My early mc was like a very light period. I was amazed I didn't bleed more but then got pg with toby immediately afterwards

take care of yourself and keep us updated.

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chooster- oh my goodness... well I had what I thought was a weird AF when I was actually PG with DD. She wasn't planned so I thought it was just a light period- also was brownish. I then was bit concerned a few days later and took a test which was BFP. I think best to do is to just wait- give it at least a week and then do another test. Or if you can't wait then go to your GP as the other's have said. BTW my AF is due today- and nothing so far! That would not be great for me either.

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chooster - i would go along with what the others say too, give it a few days and re-test however if you are unsure (probably too late now to do anything anyway) i would see your gp. in each of my pregnancies i have bled including MMC and my doctors were fantastic referring me to the EPU that day for bloods and scans. thinking of you.

still with bump here - but 9 days til due date so could be a while longer yet to go...

have nice weekends all. xx

Thanks all - Its so great to be able to tell people and get good advise! I'm all for virtual friends . I think you are all right about just waiting to see. I've had a few twinges today but I'm not sure if I'm just imagining it after getting the BFP. I'll just sit it out and see what happens. If nothing else it gives me a chance to think about the possibilities without the definate knowledge of dealing with it all if you see what I mean. Its interesting that so many had bleeding in early pregnancy, I know greedy did too...

I know what you mean about swaying between wanting another and not, Seaside. I was like that when ttc DS2, generally I really really wanted it but I was scared of changin the status quo and changing my lovely life with DS1. I think those thoughts are perfectly natural.

Not long now Iamamummy!!! Thinking of you.

How you doing today Chooster?

Seaside - I too had exactly those feelings when considering TTC number 2 - still had them while pg, which I felt really guilty about, but I wouldn't be without him now!!! Can't believe he's been around for 2 years now!!!!

Have good weekends all.
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Chooster - Many of my friends had light periods when early pregnant, reddy brown - uts implantation bleeding. I mc at 5+4 before this baby, and it was definitely obvious - red blood, swollen crampy tummy, clots. Your persona would show ov hormone, because in pregnancy HCG and ov hormone are very similar....

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I recommend waiting a week or so, and then requesting a scan if still BFP.

Heya guys would u mind in I join in with your convo?

Ive just found out im pregnant! My last period was August the 4th and on my test I took it said I was 1-2 pregnant but Doctor said id be due on the 11th May!! Is this correct then im over a month already? DOnt really get it lol!!

scorps- I think its perfectly normal to have light bleeding as long as its not heavy!! Your be fine its the inplantation!
Thanks guys

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Sorry I meant to say that to choster lol

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Chooster - not sure what to say, I did wonder if it was possible when you said your persona was still showing two lines on thursday whether it could be that you were pregnant. Miscarriage is hard, but it is possible that you might not be miscarrying. Brown bleeding is very common in early pregnancy, and with no pain, it is unlikely that you are miscarrying, but sounds more like an implantation bleed, but I am not sure if that is what you want to hear? Anyway you know that we are here to support you whatever happens.

Hi fulhamgirl - congrats on your bfp you are most welcome to join our thread although we could prob be done under the trades descriptions act as most of us are not pg anymore! I think our definite pg ones are Iammummy, Scorps and londonlottie (sorry if I have missed anyone my brain is not what it used to be) We "met" on an old TTC thread when we were all TTC and temping (back in 2006/7 - cue huge nostalgia trip!)

Anyway there are some great girls here and you will get lots of brilliant advice on all things pg related and baby related

Chooster - any updates - hope you are doing OK

rainbow - are we cycle buddies yet?! I am on CD4 - bring on the preseed!

ready - how is H and her colic? hope things are improving xxx

lottie - need your encyclopaedic knowledge of DHEA keto 7 - have bought some and an wondering if I should give it a try to try and kickstart my ancient eggs or will it just make me spotty and bearded

happy birthday Toby for yesterday

Scorps - how is your pg going? Did you get your stokke mini crib sorted?

any sign of AF honey?

(actually maybe we are not such frauds being in the pg sections after all with Chooster, fettle greedy and her bfing and honey too )

waves to everyone else

Hi all

seaside reminded me that I hadn't updated you all but my AF arrived in full flow. My gyny appointment is on tues aft so we'll see what consultant says.

Chooster hope you are coming to terms with everything. Do have to contradict everyone though and say again that my early 5-6 wk mc was pretty light mainly brown blood and no pain. Only the bfn confirmed that I had mc I really didn't believe it. My mmc also was brown blood. But with DD I bled lightly for first 2 wks then lots of red blood around 7wks but she was fine. Mcs are pants regardless of background! However if u are pg bear in mind how you've wavered over it in the past and it will be fine! We'll all be here to support you whatever happens.

Greedy - you started bf marcy again yet!!!!!

Seaside - good luck with your ttc!!

Toby had a great bday but we're all v tired now and lots if daddy missing going on this weekend!!

Xxx

Hi fulhamgirl. Congratulations! Meant to say that based on your last period your due date will be may 11th. But that relies on a standard 28day cycle. If u have longer cycle and ovulate later than day 14 your due date may be different. It is worth knowing that you count as 2 weeks pg the day you ovulate! Some people don't realise that. If your dates really don't add up at your first scan they may alter your due date but only if it is over a week different

hi all

my AF has also come- made me realise that although i would deal with another pg fine and it would be lovely really- it just isnt a good time for me at the moment- what with doing this nct course etc... maybe in a few years time...

chooster- any more idea?

scorps- if you are hovering- hope you ok- saw on another post you been through a bit of a hard time- hope all ok? big hugs.

lottie- hi! hope the shopping trip is enjoyable- just dont try to do too much. NYE babies! how exciting .

seaside- beards?? what is the stuff you might take?

fettle- happy bday to toby . what did u get him?

fulhamgirl- welcome!

hi to everone else!

Welcome fulhamgirl!!! Good to welcome a newcomer . Hope you are enjoying your pregnancy - due date calculations are a bit hit and miss - some websites just give different answers based on the same dates!

Wow, Lottie - things are really coming on aren't they! NY - Cool! That'll be the best NY ever for you and DH. Hope you get some good stuff on your trip over here and you enjoy seeing your friends. Enjoy!!! What do you think of your new home town? Its Zurich isn't it???

Glad AF arrived fettle! That wouldn't be something you'd want to deal with with DH away.

Hi honey - when is your NCT course? Hope it goes well, you'll be so good at that.

Here things are OK. Bleeding stopped but I dont know what that means really. We've been away all weekend and are still away but I'll get a test again tomorrow - I'll get one of those new ones that tells how how far along (provided its positive). Sometimes I'm convinced that I am pregnant as I've had some nausea, but I'm not sure if thats just because I feel a bit nervous about it all. Aaaah, I just dont know.... If I am pregnant then its not following the pattern of any of my previius pregnanies as I'd be 6 weeks now according the to pregnancy websites and no real sickness or sore boobs .

I'll let you guys know either way...

Chooster. Poor you being in limbo still. One thing to consider is that as you last had sex a gd few days before you ovulated it may be quite possible you are pregnant with a girl this time. Hence the different symptoms or lack of. Female sperm are supposed to last longer than male sperm. Remember greedy and the super sperm? the result being marcy!!! It worked for me too.

Lottie great to hear from you. New Year! Fab date to remember! Are you happy with medical care over there? my friend who was pregnant over in Germany found it better than UK in some ways. Hope you are happily settled in your new house soon. Having moved when heavily pregnant both time, I can sympathsise.

Big waves to everyone else. Need to get on as ever. I have so much respect for single mothers at moment and how they cope dealing with children and life on their own!!! But we doing ok.

Well, its definately a BFP. Got one of those new digital one that tells you how far along and it came up as 3+ weeks which is as high as it goes. That makes me officially 5+ weeks which fits on with my calcs. So thats it really, not quite sure what to make of it all... and no idea how DH will react now its confirmed. I've been playing it all down really as I've felt so normal and I didn't want him to worry if all for nothing.

I know people say that every pregnancy is different but can gender play a big part? - I think some people say yes and some no - either way I'm pleased I'm not dealing with constant nausea, tiredness and achy boobs on top of everything else. Perhaps mother nature knows its going to take some thinking about so is just being kind about the sickness. I just hope I'm not deluding myself and it will all kick in next week but I'm pretty sure I felt dodgy at this stage all other times.

Fettle - yes I do remember the greedy super sperm!!! - Our gap was about 6 days between sex and ovulation. I think greedy was about the same?

Glad to hear you are getting on OK fettle - must be hard dealing with it all on your own - I forget, do you have any family near you?