TTC grads - the one where the old temp buddies come home to roost!!!!

[rainbowdays]

The old thread was getting impossibly slow on my computer, so decided that it was time to create a new one with hopefully Rah and Ready joining us, and with a whole new due date list.....

so MrsM, Momwi - come and start the list and hopefully Rah and Ready will come here now too!!!!!

I am so excited that the temp buddies are back together again, can you tell?!?!?!?

Hi, I'm probably not describing it very well! Its a waterproof outer nappy - Mmm that still isn't really helping, but yes of course I'll send you mine! send me a facebook message and I'll gte it on the post tomorrow. No need for any money at all - just hope it works, it must be driving you mad

Hi all - just a quickie as we have been away and I am still trying to get caught up on paperwork and am giving in to jet lag so don't feel very motivated!!

So glad to hear all is going Ok Ready - but about the colic - have you tried gripe water? We used it a bit for Cassius and it worked a treat although he never had a problem getting his wind out one way or another! My preferred burping method was sitting him on my knee and leaning him forward while holding under his chin and circle rubbing his back interspersed with a few pats iykwim?! Sorry - it's quite difficult to describe!
If things get really bad - I know I am a broken record- but cranio sacral therapy is really proven to help with colic. Especially after the quite traumatic birth I am positive it would be great for Hannah (and you too ) I am sure greedy would concur if she were around.

I CANNOT believe you are so close Iammummy My NCT mate just had her 2nd and he came three weeks early Seems so mad to be getting ready for a tiny baby again. I caught myself in the mirror carrying Cassius the other day and thought - Crikey - he is HUGE how did that happen!
Have you tried keeping Oscar in vest bodysuits so he can't get to his nappy? I still have Cassius in them - can be a bit of a faff to change I know but just a thought? I am sure Chooster's wrap will help.

Sounds like Theo and Dex are being little monkeys! I have a feeling we are heading that way too - I am so fed up of Cassius emptying my cupboards and drawers!

Congrats on the little pink one Scorpio I seem to remember you asking about the Stokke mini kit a while ago - did you get it figured out? I used a brilliant company online to get an anti allergy/organic mattress and would def recommend them.

Waves to everyone

hiya

iam- missed your bit about the nappy/ willy problem- if it is any help Dex is ALWAYS pulling his willy out and weeing on his trousers- and if he can then he takes the whole nappy off. I have had quite a few poos appear around the house... have got a potty in the sitting room at the moment- not seriously potty training- but seeing as he likes to be 'au natural'... have managed to catch some pee... How about putting a vest on him with poppers- you can get big sizes- not just the baby ones.

ready- big hugs- just go with the flow

hi chooster!

hi seaside- crossed with you [wave]

now on 4th miscarriage in the last 9 months.

rainbow - im so sorry sending u big hugs. thinking of you xxxxxx

Ready - some people swear cranial osteopathy has helped apparently colicky babies? Just a thought.

So so sorry rainbow... that must be awful for you

Rainbow. So sorry to hear that. Take good care of yourself. How many weeks were you? Xxx

scorps. How you doing? Hope all is ok-ish with you? Keep strong for your little ones. Hope bumpess is behaving inside you?

Iammummy. Poor you with DS behaviour. Choosters idea sounds gd. Hope you sort it out. Also can't believe how close you are now.

Ready. Sorry to hear bout poor hannah. Hope you getting some rest in between times

have to go

love to all
xxx

Rainbow. So sorry to hear that. Take good care of yourself. How many weeks were you? Xxx

scorps. How you doing? Hope all is ok-ish with you? Keep strong for your little ones. Hope bumpess is behaving inside you?

Iammummy. Poor you with DS behaviour. Choosters idea sounds gd. Hope you sort it out. Also can't believe how close you are now.

Ready. Sorry to hear bout poor hannah. Hope you getting some rest in between times

have to go

love to all
xxx

Rainbow. So sorry to hear that. Take good care of yourself. How many weeks were you? Xxx

scorps. How you doing? Hope all is ok-ish with you? Keep strong for your little ones. Hope bumpess is behaving inside you?

Iammummy. Poor you with DS behaviour. Choosters idea sounds gd. Hope you sort it out. Also can't believe how close you are now.

Ready. Sorry to hear bout poor hannah. Hope you getting some rest in between times

have to go

love to all
xxx

Not sure what happened to my posts yesterday!

rainbow- so sorry to hear about another MC. What do you think you will do? I don't think I could take anymore heartache- is it possible to take a step back and focus on your three lovely children for a while? (Hope this doesnt sound insensitive- truely speaking from my heart).

x

greedy- has your sister had her baby yet? Can't remember due date.

where is everybody?

somewhere exciting?

Waves to honey

Rainbow - I am so so sorry, take care of yourself - big hugs xxx

I definitely think something was going on last week in the universe, my NCT friend's baby came 3 weeks early, friend from toddler group's baby was born a week late and tragically another friend lost here baby, she was 18weeks pg What a rollercoaster week?

I am also officially in the first month of TTC - very half hearted only one possible well timed BD - I am so trying to be blase about it - and FAILING - arghhh.

Any news of NCT course honey?

oh seaside how exciting!!! wishing you lots of bd luck!!, we were very casual about it and it took only a few months

so sorry to hear of your friend

rainbow - thinking of you still. xxx

chooster - thanks for the pants, we have had them on a couple of days running and so far fingers crossed we have been dry and he is losing the habit of hands down his nappy - yey!

So sorry Rainbowdays - thinking of you. I have to say I am with Honeyapple, I am not sure I could take anymore heartache.

Seaside, goooood luck - try to keep blase, and relaxed. What will be, will be!

How is everyone doing?

Question... I vaguely remember asking this before, so apologies for repetition... When did your babes go into their own room? H is such a mover and she keeps me awake, and also she is getting a bit big for her crib and the mattress doesn't look too comfy. Want to do the right thing for all of us. But frightened to go too soon. Eek!

Hi everyone! I'm nowhere exciting at all, just seem to have been pretty busy... Good luck seaside - hope you have an effortless and worryfree ttc phase! .

Hi ready - Max moved into his own room at 3 weeks old I think, mainly because he HATED his moses basket and I kept trying to get him in it and failing miserably! His cot wouldn't fit in our bedroom but he looked comfy in it whenever he was in it during the day. So he I moved him into his own room and I had the monitor up at full volume and the doors open (he was only next door anyway!). I was nervous at first but he slept better and as a result so did I! Definately the best move for us. We moved Theo at about 3 months I think??? He was generally a better sleeper... Do whatever makes you more confortable and gives you the most sleep! Its so precious to get sleep in these early days that you need to do whatever it takes to make it easier on you. How is the colic?

Hope you are ok rainbow? Perhaps your body needs a rest for a few months before trying again (if you are going to try again that is). Thinking of you....

All good here - first day of school for DS1 tomorrow so got lots of labelling to do here tonight! Mind you I drop him at 9am and pick him up at 10.15am ... thats Thurs and fri this week then a month of half days... do they break them in this gently in England?

hello all

Seaside- how exciting! Hope you don't spend too long TTC- not sure if it is possible to be completely relaxed about it all- unless of course you are lucky and get a BFP straight away! (you never know ).

Ready- Re moving baby to own room- I guess it depends how far away the room is- if only next to you then that shouldn't be a problem- if on another floor or something then it would just be annoying for you in the middle of the night getting up and down. I have to say that all my babies were in same room with me for ages- I found it easier to just reach over and settle them if they were near to me- especially as all mine were winter babies and it was freezing getting in and out of bed! The 'rule' is about 6 mths- but not sure what this is based on- if you have a monitor on then you will hear baby if it needs you. Why don't you have a trial run in her own room? Is Hannah settling down a bit? How many weeks is she now?

Chooster- scottish schools go back early- we have until 7th sept. They do half days until October half term at our school. But all seem to be different.

yay - lots of people here today

Ready - C went in his own room at 10 weeks. We were quite lucky in that he was in the stokke crib which just rolled into whichever room you wanted so initially I just rolled it into his room for naps and and then for the nights. I found it much better as like you I felt I was disturbing him as much as he was disturbing me iyswim. So neither of us was getting those 4 hours between feeds fully asleep. Also I quite liked going into his room and feeding him in the rocking chair - but then again I did bottle feed so always had to "get up" to get/make the bottle anyway.

Give it a try and if it doesn't work you can always try again in a few weeks
I always stuck to the rule of 3 when doing new stuff - ie try everything for three times/nights before giving in/changing tack etc.

Good luck

Wow - Chooster 9am - 10.15am not much time from when you have dropped him off until you will have to go back and get him!!

Thanks for all the luck everyone - arghhh - what I am thinking - I am so happy as I am and am dreading being TTC crazy again Sometimes I think it would be easier just not to try at all? Oh well!

I know seaside! I was thinking of trying to gte my hair cut while he was in school but there is not enough time! I dont think its even worth going home! It does feel strange starting school in sept - I've only been up her for 5 years and was educated in england so I'm so used to sept being the start of term!

Thank you for all your concern. I have been without my laptop for a week with it off being repaired.
We are taking a month off of ttc. I feel it is a relief and I have plans for doing loads of things in this month to make sure I make the most of not having to think about ttc. Varnishing skirting boards without worrying about the fumes, swimming every week and getting fit again. And of course I fully intend to enjoy a few glasses of wine without any guilt! Due to my age, I would not be happy leaving it longer than a month to start trying again, as it will soon get to a point where I will have to stop trying anyway (I would not want a big gap to the last baby). It is strange to discover how each miscarriage is as different as each pregnancy, last month it was really hard to cope with emotionally, but this time I have found it a bit easier again, each of the miscarriages have been early at 5 or 6 weeks fortunately and all of them natural misses, so that makes it easier too.

I am also back at work now, but unfortunately the girl I am working with had her miscarriage discovered (8 weeks), she is in the difficult situation of waiting til tomorrow to have a d&c, she had hoped it would happen naturally, but the hosptial are pushing her for a d&c, so I will be thinking of her tomorrow while that is going on.

Sorry this is a very me post, but I have not really had time to read back properly, I will try to catch up properly at the weekend.

Ready - I think every baby is differnt, some are better in their own room earlier, I know I slept better, not waking at every snuffle, when they went to their own rooms.

hi rainbow- glad to hear that you are having a rest from TTC for this month- enjoy the glasses of wine . Does the age gap really worry you that much?- I can say from my experience that having a large age gap is really good- kids much better at helping/ understanding etc. Jak is still so little- you really could afford to give yourself a few more months break.

Seaside- I know what you mean about being happy as you are- I think that is why I was never in any rush to get PG. Enjoy Cassius and enjoy having unprotected sex .
I am going to an NCT tutorial on 10th september to meet the tutor and see if we get on- and whether I think this is something I really want to do. Will let you know how it goes.

Chooster- you'll have to go for a coffee with some other mums when you take Max to school.

Ready- have you made a decision about sleeping arrangements? What does your DH think?

Ooh ggod luck on the 10th Honeyapple. Hope you enjoy it!

Thanks for the pearls about sleeping arrangements... to be honest, I'm not sure what we'll do yet - the colic is the top concern right now. She's having a bad time of it. She's not sleeping for long spells at all... is this, I think unless she is curled up in our arms she sleeps for an hour and a half tops. It's hard work, but those little moments of alert and happy play that she is starting to have make it all worthwhile.

I know it will pass. Hopefully soon.

She's 9lb 11 at her last weigh in, so she is getting plenty of milk.

Hope everyone is well... I was going to type more, but H is screaming again

Evening all
Hope H's colic is easing Ready - poor all of you I have had so many friends' babies suffer with it - I tell them all to try SC Osteopathy it did work for the 2 who tried it

honey - good luck on the 10th - exciting

rainbow - how are you doing? glad you are taking some time off for a glass of wine and some relaxation - good idea

Iammummy - good news that Chooster's pants are working out for you!!!

fettle - was smiling at your post about DD's teeth - I had SO much orthodentistry as a child - 10 years and ££££ for my folks (their fault though as their genes!) anyway - take heart - our good friend is a dentist and he reliably informed me when I raised the same concern about Cassius that orthodentistry methods have changed lots now and are much less invasive with quicker result and so less £££ {grin] phew!

Arghhh - need a TTC rant - or actually just a good talking to myself! CD1 today and I knew it was coming but I am disappointed - WTF - why - only one possible chance this month so why on earth did I even think it was possible - why oh why!! I really thought I could be relaxed but it's IMPOSSIBLE This is the nub of it I think - for some (misguided) reason I thought that once I decided to go for it it would be an almost immaculate conception because a) I have been pg now and had a baby so body knows what to do and b) I deserve it after taking so long last time - Honestly what ridiculous reasoning - what am I on So back to earth with a bump.

Mind you I have to say the main difference I have to admit is - even after feeling ridiculously unjustifiably down last night all I had to do was creep in to see my slumbering little boy and my heart swelled with joy - not like first time TTC. I know I am blessed to have him and felt so lucky.

Can I just say I really miss our temp buddies thread in TTC - I am really glad we are all here though. I cannot bring myself to join any other TTC threads (in a few months you may find me visiting the Hut though - I always felt at home there )

Talking of other threads - lottie if you are reading/around - well done for holding your own against that TTC 30's clique - they seem a bit scary and so unnecessary? I was just checking out a few active threads the other day and saw some random comment to you and thought so checked out their thread and wow - not for me at all - it cemented my decision to not venture onto a TTC thread! It's rough out there - this thread must never end or I will be too scared to post except on random odd one off threads! Anyway lottie - you were very eloquent
When are you leaving by the way - it is soon I think - you will still be on MN though wont you?!

I was just thinking of MrsMcJnr and wondering how it is all going - hope you come and post soon!
Where's bodders as well?!
greedy is on hols I think - must be very near for her sis? ;) BTW greedy - I will be your FB pal - I just can't find you on there?!

Can I just say the weather down here is PANTS - only Scorpio will appreciate this but I am fed up of seeing the sun shine on TV at the cricket etc while being wrapped up in a jumper and ugg boots while the rain pelts down outside -GRRR

Rambling ranting post over

waves to all
xxxx