TTC grads - the one where the old temp buddies come home to roost!!!!

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The old thread was getting impossibly slow on my computer, so decided that it was time to create a new one with hopefully Rah and Ready joining us, and with a whole new due date list.....

so MrsM, Momwi - come and start the list and hopefully Rah and Ready will come here now too!!!!!

I am so excited that the temp buddies are back together again, can you tell?!?!?!?

by the way........NO NO NO scorpio...........you can NOT possibly 18 wks! you must have made a mistake.

and my sis is 37 wks....eeeeek!!

Quick gatecrash from No 1 Babies Detectives' Agency thread to say a massive congratulations to Ready. It all sounds like a mammoth ordeal but you did amazingly. Lovely name.

Oh Ready Ready Huge mahoosive congratulations to you and hubby on baby Hannah!!!!
Gorgeous name! Like Greedy says enjoy the first few weeks - they are so precious, my little one is 5 months on Tuesday and it has gone soooo fast!!

Hello to everyone else - have been lurking so catching up on a bit... was in Devon last week so no chance to write!

Hope you are all well...must dash as shopping arriving in a minute and we are off to coast for couple days to see in-laws then we are flying to Spain Friday for 2 weeks!!!

ooooo minxi - whereabouts in spain? we are off to murcia on 10th. we could be sitting next to each other on the beach without even knowing!!

congratulations ready!!! sounds like you had it tough but its totally worth it isnt it?!

il be back this week ladies as i am officially on maternity leave woooo!!!! 32 weeks now

love to all xx

Oh my goodness - I can't believe you are so far on iamamummy!!! Thats ridiculous - it doesn't seem that longe ago that you announced being pregnant . How is little herbie doing?

So have you got new premises Greedy? Did the other woman change her mind or did you find somewhere else?

How are things ready?

Scorpio - amazing you are so far on too... Are you going to find out the sex this time at your 20wk scan?

Here things are great - had a fab time with my pal who has just gone home so missing her already! DH is back from his travels though with pressies so all is not too bad!!!

READY! So sorry I am a bit late to say a massive congratulations to you and welcome little Hannah Mae to the world. Your birth story is quite something isn't it - you are a total hero! Well, I hope you and your DH and your DD (how lovely to be able to type that for you!) are snuggled up nice and cosy and enjoying these first weeks together. Looking forward to hearing how things are going for you xx

Congratulations to you as well RAH! Hope things are going well for you too xx

Hello to Greedy, Chooster, Honey, Fettle, Seaside, Rainbow, MrsMc, Iamamummy, Babylove and everyone else - sorry for the gaps in posting but hope you and your lovely little people are all well and happy.

I keep smelling a really odd smell while I am typing this and i have just discovered it is my slippers. That is not good. I used to be a cool happening young thing. Now I just sit around in smelly slippers. Sigh.

Rah - love the lastest pic on fb of Daisy, she is such a cutie!

Hi to everyone else too, will try to catch up soon.

why dont rah or seaside or ready want to be my fb friends? i am officially upset.

BUMP!!!!

Ready- how is Hannah doing? And you of course! Hope you are recovering well from C-section- not too sore. How is the feeding? I remember you wanting to BF- hope you have both taken to it easily .

where is everybody?

Hi everyone... sorry for the silence, it's busy work this motherhood stuff - the first week was mental hard, feed, feed, feed, feed, feed, feed, feed, feed (you get the picture) but she has started to settle a bit. No routine just yet but a pattern is starting to emerge... although I expect that will change like the wind just as I think we are working it all out.

I think the trauma of her birth caused me a fair few tears in the early days too.

honey, yep, I am BFing, it is going ok, struggled a little with latching in the first week, but the midwife was awesome, and it is so much better now. I think having larger breasts makes BFing harder, but I have managed to feed on a park bench without too much exposure!!

greedy I will definitely be your friend on fb, but I don't know who you are...

How is everyone?

xx

Ready- lovely to hear from you. Glad the BF is getting easier- it is tricky to begin with- and painful sometimes- but KEEP with it- it will become completely second nature- you'll be BFing all over the place totally discreetly . Glad to hear you have had a good MW- makes such a difference. I am not surprised you have had a few tears- the whole experience is totally overwhelming (especially 1st time) and the birth was traumatic. You sound very calm and relaxed .

BTW Dex has had 2 castings from his model agency! didnt get the jobs- but it was quite fun- one was for a carpet cleaner advert and he had to play with jelly- but he'd never had jelly- so he was a bit like- "what the is this???"- if they had given him ice-cream that would have been cool- he loves it- keeps opening the freezer and getting mini-milks out... He is getting a wee bit 'chunky' to be polite...

x

ready - i am julie jones!!!!! i am one of rainbowdays and fettles fb friends and i think they are both your friends aren't they. i would love it, then i can have a good nose at some pictures!

Hi All

I'm here just not posting much - bit hard on my phone to post and don't often have spare time at the computer!

Ready - great to hear from you. As Honey said you're sounding really relaxed and happy. So you must be doing a very good swan impression! Feeding is hard especially in the first few days, but well done on perservering. I think I told you how nearly I was to giving up with Toby as it hurt so much after about week, but I'm so glad I didn't! And I'm not surprised you are traumatised after your birth experience - I think you are able to talk it all through with a MW familiar with your case to help you come to terms with things - if you think it would help, particularly regards any future babies you may be thinking about having in the future? But I could have made that all up? Worth asking about though?

Honey - great to hear about Dex's castings - sometimes think I should have put Toby and DD's names down - although I think we've missed the boat with DD now she's lost some teeth and her adult teeth are coming in at all angles wherever they can fit Much pain and money ahead of her with cosmetic dental work - poor girl! But as both me and DH had work done on our teeth as children, it is not surprising. Just have to hope she doesn't inherit my dodgy eye sight and avoids having to wear glasses - both DC's appear to have avoided DH's squint so far, which is good!

Greedy - hope the new practice is good and that you have a fabulous holiday and come home an aunt!!!! So exciting more babies - so dont' want anymore myself, but I've realised that I love cuddling other people's and then happily pass them on! (spent the day with a 3.5mth old!!).

Hope everyone else is doing ok?

We all doing ok - having a lovely time with DH home - so far doing a good job about not really thinking about what is happening in September - although poor DD broke down at bedtime today suddenly really upset about him going away - she' being so brave and not mentioning it, but when I brought it up she sobbed and sobbed for about 10 mins into my shoulder. I found it heart-breaking, I'll have to keep my eye on her I feel!

Right - best go.

big hugs all
xxx

Ha! She spoke too soon. I think we have hit a big hurdle... poor little love has really bad wind... and there was me thinking that breast fed babies didn't get wind. Saturday night she screamed and cried from 7.45pm until she finally fell asleep on me at 5am. Midwife suggested she sleep more upright til the wind passes - which has helped, but she is so unsettled and it is breaking my heart.

Desperately hoping this isn't the beginnings of colic. Going to get some infacol today.

Question... can I be overfeeding her? I really don't know what I am doing you see, and a friend of mine said that she shouldn't be eating more than every 3 hours - but sometimes Hannah will only go an hour and a half and cries for what I think is food....

Help.

Hi Ready - was going to send you a text message to get to you more quickly, but then thought it might be DH's phone and didn't think he'd appreciate a strange woman discussing breast-feeding!!

As far as I know you can't overfeed - if she wants to suck let her - it is a comfort to her as well as for nutrition. Toby was a snacker and used to feed every hour or so. IF she does have too much, she'll just posset it up, so it won't be harmful to her. Go with what YOU think is best, as you are her mother - no matter how well meaning other people's advice is, you DO know best. Have confidence in what you think she wants - although I wouldn't suggest feeding her chocolate just yet!!

Wind is painful - Infacol does seem to work for most people - did nothing for DD, but I personally think she had undiagnosed reflux now! Bicycling her legs works for some people; lying them face down across your lap while patting/circling their backs seems to work for others; bouncing on an exercise ball while holding her was the only way I could keep DD from crying at times!!

Big hugs - I won't say it gets easier, as I've learnt each stage just gets different!!

xxx

Great to hear from you ready, although sorry you are having a time of it with the feeding. I would tend to agree with fettle in that you can't over-feed, she will take what she wants / needs and I've known plenty of people who are feeding a lot more regualrly than every 3 hours at some points. It could be colic or perhaps some reflux. Theo has reflux and he was really uncomfortable after each feed and would often be sick. Is she bringing stuff up? It is hard to figure out the problem at this age but as fettle say go with our judgement and try the infacol - maybe she's just got a short term wind problem. When Theo sued to be uncomfotable, I'll flop him over my forearm face down (like a tiger sleeping on a tree!) and rock him rubbing his back. Seemed to help but you can end up with forearms like a shot-putter if you're not careful .

Please be my FB friend too ready as would love to see the pics... I'm the rachel who is friends wiht most of the familiar faces on here - my pic is of me kissing a bear .

Wow, so you'll be an auntie on your return from hols greedy!!! brilliant . How are the new premises?

Good news on the castings honey - and good that they are good fun too! I've got a little mini-milk fan too - his words are still a bit vague but when he says "stawby morta lollllly" then I knwo what he wants... Still not sure exactly what he's saying but I know what he means .

We've had a great weekend at my mums on the northumberland coast - the boys had a great time messing about on the beach all weekend - the weather was amazing up there .

hello ladies!!!

ready - sorry to hear about poor little hannahs wind, we used infacol with ds and that seemed to work although it was not a constant problem with him. i would also love to be your fb friend, i am friends with chooster, fettle and greedy my pic is of me and dp (i am a blondie)

greedy - enjoy your hols!!! extremely of you!! hows the new premises? glad you are in there at last!

fettle - lovely to hear you are spending some quality time with dh before september. i feel so for your dd. poor little thing, she will have to have lots of mummy cuddles whilst daddy is away.

honey - fab news on your dc launching their careers in the modelling industry! we wanted to list ds in one but they all seemed to want money upfront which i was a bit sceptical about. dont blame dex on the jelly front, oscar thinks its weird stuff too!

chooster - any more news on the work front?

ah this is so brief yet again, where does the time go? i have 7 weeks left until my bump dissappears and becomes reality and i have got a ridiculous amount of stuff to do in the mean time. we are trying for another homebirth but the midwives are being slightly difficult and said its not very likely as i have "big babies" and bled a lot with ds. i dont think i have the energy to fight with them as we have a lot of stresses going on at the moment. DS is being a little s**t at the moment too which isnt helping i am in tears on a daily basis as he just seems uncontrollable. dp witnessed his behaviour yesterday and i think he was a little shocked and thought i was exagerating. so he soon swiftly sent him up to bed for a few hours. Also we are having an issue with nappies, he keeps putting his hand down there and pulling his willy out or weeing over the floor and bed wetting etc. arrrggghhhhh!! so hormonal and full of guilt as i just keep blaming his behavior on the baby, god knows what it will be like when he is actually here.

id better go as i could rant all day.

love to all xxx

Ready - I don't think you can overfeed Hannah either, she is very small still and feed when she wants, but you know this

Hello to everyone else.....

We are having another girl

scorps- ah- another girl- how lovely .

Ready- No, you cant overfeed with BF. I found that with my second two i decided that they cried a lot (especially in the evening) cos they were hungry and wanted to BF. So in the evening I would get comfy on the sofa- make sure i had remote control/drink/biscuit to hand and just sit for hours with baby on the boob. There is no prescribed timing/ routine for BF- especially little babies- so dont watch the clock. I think I did this too much with DS1 (my first) and subsequently he was much unhappier baby- wish I just had fed him more- instead of saying- 'i've only just fed you an hour ago- you cant be hungry!' I listened too much to my mum who was going on about every 4 hours... Dont fancy infacol myself- bought it once for DS1 but it is SO disgusting that I couldnt bring myself to give it to him! But I know it works for others... Make sure Hannah does a good BURP after feeding- I dont know why some MW say BF doesnt give babies wind - you could also take a look at what you eat- some spicy food can upset babies- same with garlic etc

Good luck xx

iam- cant believe so soon to having your baby. Good luck with the HB- not sure why having a bigger baby makes it a problem, sounds like your MWs just not very supportive of HB in general.
As for modelling career (!) not had anymore word from the agency- and yes I did pay some money upfront but that is a one off and don't have to pay anymore. Some dont have fees but they are much more picky- and often the books are closed (not taking on newbies). I need to update his photos but he is really spotty at the moment! I think it is from dribbling/teething- but NOT attractive- have to get some spot
concealer!

Thanks so much girls... it is wonderful to have such supportive friends. I really appreciate it.

Honey, I have totally said those very words 'I only fed you an hour ago, you can't be hungry' - but I now know that sometimes she just is hungry an hour later.

HV came today, she is putting on weight nicely, and HV said that it is probably colic so is getting someone to come and teach us how to give a colic massage. We are using infacol, it is pretty disgusting I have to say, but I want to try everything at my disposal. Bicycle kicks and tiger in the tree (which is tricky with a long heavy baby ) and burping.

Funnily enough she falls asleep on the breast, and the times I have lifted her to burp her, she wakes up and starts screaming, so I am reluctant to move her to start with. Hope this isn't making things worse for her

She is currently sitting in her bouncy chair kicking her legs and grunting away. I hope that she isn't in pain for too many weeks. Bless her.

HI ready- She probably wakes up screaming when you try to move her from your breast because she was very happy and liked being so close to you . I think Dex would have liked to sleep all night long with my nipple in his mouth... that's when I reached for a dummy. Have you tried one on Hannah? I know many people don't like them, but I found it gave my DSs real comfort and also gave my nipples a break. DD wouldnt take a dummy but then she found her thumb (I actually stuffed it in her mouth to start with). I think if you can get her to do a burp then it is probably good- whenever I didnt then it seemed 10mins later baby would either be moaning or have been sick and then you have all the bore of changing clothes and sheets. I found if you tip baby backwards and forwards a bit over your shoulder then it encourages the trapped air to come up(as well as patting their back). Swaddling babies is quite good when they are little to make them feel happy and secure.

Dexter is driving me nuts at the moment- climbing up on the kitchen surfaces and turning on the taps. He pulls the dining chairs over to the kitchen and then I find him standing on the work surfaces opening cupboards and taking bites out of everything.

Hehe, I love the thought of Hannah climbing all over things like Dex... it won't be long - time flies doesn't it
We tried a dummy a couple of times... the first time I was in floods of tears saying 'I don't want her to have a dummy' - don't know why really, because I had one and it didn't affect my teeth or anything. But she just doesn't know what to do with it - she spits it out straight away. Have been helping her find her fingers and thumbs, so once they get a bit bigger that might help her. I think we might keep having a go with the dummy, because my nipples certainly do need a break sometimes - and I don't want that to cause me to stop BFing earlier than I intended.
She usually falls off the breast, asleep and I just cannot bring myself to move her to wind her. I always wind her if she pops off awake, and that is happening a little more often as the days go by. I imagine that is because she will start to spend more time awake as she gets older?
Crumbs - it is scary how little I know about babies. How long have I had to swot up
I am sitting here with her curled up on the feeding pillow, snoring like a good un - she hasn't been winded but seems content - it's probably not great for her to be laying on a pillow, but it has meant that DH has been able to get some sleep - he has been doing so much to help in the middle of the night, and what with playing and training as well, it is really taking its toll. I am very lucky.

Ok, enough of my waffle.

Hi all,

Sorry to hear that hannah may have colic - if so definately reading up on it on the net because I know there are meant to be some good remedies out there to ease the discomfort. It sounds like she is perfectly comfortable when attached to the boob! . Even thought its tying for you ready at least she seems relaxed. Like honey I concentrated too much on the 'right thing to do' with Max - as an example I felt that he should be sleeping in his moses basket every night so I perservered night after night trying to ease him into the thing but he HATED it! with Theo I was so much more relaxed and often he just slept in bed with me after a feed and we both got so much more sleep and I was much happier . I guess all I'm saying is go with flow.... and if that means a dummy or feeding for hours or letting her sleep on the boob then so be it. Maybe thats the best way to get through these colic-y weeks.

How is everyone else? So funny to think of Dex up in the cupboards [grin). He's younger than Theo isn't he? I dont think Theo would have the savvy to do that . He is being a bit of a bugger at the moment as well though as he refuses to get in his highchair now, which is fine but can I get him to sit still on a chair - Big NO.... He's up and down.... then up then down.... then up then down... you get the picture. I've brought the highchair back in now as a threat to get him to stay put.

How are things now Iamamummy? Is DS1 still being a bit trying? It will pass but it can't be nice for you being heavily pregnant as well - can't believe you are so close! . It doesn't seem like that long ago that you announced being pregnant. Regarding the willy thing, are you using disposables? If so then put a nappy waterproof outer on top of it, you know the things you buy for the top of re-usables / washables? He may struggle to get through 2 layers and you can get those outer nappy covers on quite tight. I used them when DS1's nappy leaked at night and it worked a treat for that. May be a long shot but perhaps worth a go. I have one here actually if you want to somehow pass me your address - I can just pop it in the post.

On the job front, I've done my application now and so just need to wait until Ocotber to find out.

Hope everyone else is good and that greedy is enjoying her holiday...

just a quickie.

thanks chooster, im probably a bit stupid - but i dont know what the nappy thing is you are talking about we are using disposables. that would be great if you could send me yours? i have u as a friend on facebook i could message u my details and let me know how much u want for it and postage and il send you a cheque or paypal?