40+ Yummy (or not-so-yummy) Mummies, Come and Eat Cake

[ladymac]

Have taken the plunge, hope this is acceptable to everybody.

Lovely! Thanks ladym!!

tee your results sounded all Greek to me What does it all mean?

cake! where's the cake?

oooh that does sound good tee well done you!

no cake for tee

I'm fancying some carrot cake, heavy on the icing

See, I knew the mention of cake would do the trick!

ladym A1C is the average blood glucose levels over about 6 weeks. Under 7 is good. Under 6 is practically not diabetic!

And I can have cake! A small piece at least! I did, after all, have a Mars Bar today!

mrsb, I've been thinking about your childcare predicament. First thing to do surely is to check out the nursery you mentioned. Then work out how much money you would save with Granny doing the minding and what you could do with it! The nursery might be great with good staff and lots of other kids for young Darragh to socialise with. Or you might hate it in which case you're really fortunate to have Granny to fall back on.

My MIL (late 50s) does not interfere at all, absolutely dotes on Elizabeth and feeds her only what I say to feed her. But as I said earlier, it is only for one day a week. Though I did leave her in charge for 5 days when we went on our honeymoon and Grace said they'd had a lovely time and didn't miss us at all.

I had a lovely relationship with my dad's mum, who looked after us while my mum was at work. Though I know that she and my great grandmother used to feed me sweet tea from a saucer, much to my mother's horror

Wow tee that's great. After all the Christmas goodies too.

So yes, I think a celebratory slice of cake is in order for you. Or you could have a piece of my leftover Pavlova, with mango and passionfruit - and a ton of cream

Oooh, yes please, pavlova!! YUMMY!!!

tee those are very good results. Mine were far higher than that! Have they talked to you about what will happen when you go into labour yet? I was on an insulin drip and unfortunately as mine wasn't planned and the MW's hadn't done a GD labour before, it was all a bit hairy. I'm sure yours will be fine.

Going back to childcare debate, my DD#1 went to nursery full time at 6 months but my mother looked after her full time until they took her. I fell out with my mum a couple of times during that period and she used the old 'I'm not minding her anymore' routine which pissed me right off but is a pitfall of family (esp mothers). I gave up work and had DS#1 and DS#2 with me at home although they did go to nursery part-time from 2.5years to get them into the routine of socialising.

Any news on the working from home front yet?

ladymac black and red nylon maternity wear? Crikey. That'd be something else for sure Imagine the static you'd generate ...Btw does anyone else suffer more electric shocks when preggie from touching handles, the car etc? I was forever getting shocked but now I never do. Isn't that odd?

Lordy I'm still working my way through this bumper box of delish cheesecakes from Costco that DH bought pre-xmas. Hopefully nearly gone. No more chocolate/crisps/cake for a while. I know for sure I've put on lots of weight

JW haven't discussed it yet. I realized I don't even know who is actually going to deliver the baby! I see the OB on 13th Jan, so I will be asking those questions then!!

I should be able to work from home one day a week no problem. Am trying to convince OH to do something similar which would only leave 3 days and grandma has already offered to do one of those. Two days a week at nursery would cost us at least £300 a month.
She's the perfect person to do it as she isn't the interfering type and would feed him what she was told to etc.

It's just I am aware of the pitfalls: the first time they ever took him for us to go out we came back and she had him all swaddled in blankets in a room where there was a roaring fire. Very well meaning of course but too warm and neither of us said anything - although OH did drop a hint later. It's that kind of thing - awkwardness abut saying please do this or don't do that - that you wouldn't have with a nursery.

I do intend to go and look at the nursery though ladymac - can't hurt.

evening, a new thread how exciting (how many have we had now? do we have a record yet???)

well done Tee on your blood sugars I hope they gave you mega brownie points at the hospital.

we went for a walk this afternoon with ollie in his baby carrier so much easier than a buggy, I had forgotten what a pain in the ar** a buggy can be. I must have burnt off a zillion calories so I can have some cake now (doublr chocolate loaf yummm)

Have been directed to this thread for encouragement after posting on another. Aged 39 I had DD who I love to bits and who is now 19 months. Given my age I assumed she would be an only and was so involved in looking after her never gave a thought to having anymore. Recently have been overwhelmed with broodiness and, aged 41 (almost 42) am contemplating ttc another, is possible. Having read an article in the newspaper about risks of pregnancy over 40 did some research on the internet and found risks quoted were not exaggerated so have become quite negative (and consequently sad) about prospects of another. I am particularly worried about miscarriage risks as it sounds physically awful and emotionally devastating and part of me says to just accept I have one beautiful DD and move on and not put myself (and others) through possible heartbreak. When pregnant with DD was blissfully ignorant of how risky pregnancy can be which was a help mentally. Should also add that DD was conceived naturally and apart from bad morning sickness, pregnancy was physically OK. Birth ended up an em cs under GA and there were problems with the GA which were nearly fatal for me and DD; this does pray on my mind and I would therefore want to avoid any potential surgery such as ERPC or another em cs. The whole situation is just going round and round in my head. Another poster suggested this board for positives about pregnancy over 40 so please can I have any positives you can throw my way.

Welcome mayblossom.

I'm not going to be 40 until Feb, but my first baby is due in June, I'm currently 15 weeks. I am the baby around here!

There are several women (all of them, perhaps?) on this board who have had babies past 40. I'm sure the rest will chime in soon!

hello mayblossom and welcome!

I had a miscarriage last year aged 39 - I don't wish to make light of something that a lot of people find to be a devastating experience but mine wasn't that bad. I was upset by the fact that it was a missed miscarriage but apart from that I was able to move on quickly both physically and mentally and got pregnant again on the first attempt. My son is now 16 weeks and the pregnancy was fairly problem free (apart from a touch of spd and diabetes which weren't necessarily age related). My risks for Downs and Edwards syndromes were in the region of 1;20,000. I would have no hesitation in getting pregnant again in a year or so when I will be 42 and I would love to give my son a little playmate.

Apart from tee who is the thread baby I am one of the younger "older" mums at 41 but you have come to the right place if you want to get positive views on elderly motherhood and pregnancy.

When I was thinking of trying again I made the mistake of reading articles about older mums which scared me but to be honest its pointless - things can and do go wrong in pregnancies no matter what age the mother is and older women were giving birth generations ago until we discovered contraception.

I would say go for it mrs!

Evening all. New thread - fitting title

CAKE! Where's my cake...OOooo, pavlova, LadyMac you shouldn't have Am laughing at Elizabeth being a social diva and sleeping in till mid-day - that's soooo Iris.

Not been around today as we had a mini-crisis. We couldn't properly wake Iris - she's been sleeping a lot. Then she couldn't drink enough - so we got an emergency appointment at the docs - where he wanted to discount diabetes Spent day wringing out nappies to get a sample - and got a rush test this evening - all clear It was a worry. Loads of ketones - meaning no calories - so been trying to tempt her with nice food.

tee well done girl - that's a fab result, especially over the festive period!

mayblossom welcome and I hope I may be able to be a little ray of light for you.
I had DD1 at 41 and DD2 at 42!! No kids before and just like you - once I'd had DD1 I thought that would be it....never thought that a wild (no condom - that's wild!)42nd birthday celebration would result in a baby this May!!
My first pregnancy was hideous - lost waters at 26 weeks - hung on till 33wks - em C sec and 3 weeks in special care She's just fine now - but I then contracted reactive arthritis after a severe infection from the section - it was HELL!

Second pregnancy - SO different! Perfect. although I did have a 1:2 odds for Downs Syndrome - and still it was all ok after a CVS. I opted for an elective C-sec and it was a dream - a breeze and I've succesfully breast fed this time round which I thought I'd never do!

I suppose what I'm saying is...age is just one small thing to add to the never-ending list of things that could go wrong! My age was never even mentioned at hospital. Plus, no two pregnancies/births are alike.

As for miscarriages - there may be an increased risk -but my only experiences of miscarriages have happened in my 30s! Remember that teenage pregnacy also carries risks too - often associated with 40+ and no one stops to worry about those.

If it's what you want then I'd advise the best thing is to talk to your GP or perhaps your midwife about the things that went wrong last time. I had a meeting with the hospital midwives about my traumas when I knew I was preggie second time and it really, really helped. I finally understood about emergency c-secs and the risks...etc, etc. I could then put it all into perspective - as though I was on the outside looking in - rather than being caught up in it all.

Sounds to me as though you'd like to give it another go - why not have a think about the positives and I'm sure there will be others along to give you advice HTH x

Morning....Where IS everybody???

So - New year Resolutions anyone??

MMmmm...guess I'll eat all the cake on my own then.....[snigger emoticon]

Hello, not felt up to posting. Nausea has kicked in. Wasn't too bad Christmas and Boxing day thankfully but been pretty awful since. All that lovely food and hardly been able to touch it. Just be glad when this stage is over. It's still not really sunk in this pregnancy - keep having doubts about having done the right thing (bit late now!). Having skimmed through some of these threads some of you have much older kids which must be a big help. I just feel mine are still so needy and I am giving myself a lot of work next year, also dh works abroad for weeks at at time.... right will stop moaning now, sorry!

mayblossom. My last pregnancy ended up in an em cs, quite unexpected. Had to have GA because my BP was so low, no problems though but I understand your fears. Could you not opt for a planned section this time?

I am 43 BTW, my GP said I should be fine due to good health and other pregnancies fairly straightforward. I think I may go for the detailed 11 week scan though (will have to pay for it).

Catch up soon and have a good Hogmanay everyone!

Morning all. I'm here, JJ! Sorry to hear about your scare with Iris, and glad it was all clear. Hope she's back on the mince pies now, or sharing that cake with you .

Welcome to mayblossom. I've just turned 42 and am expecting DC #3 in June. I had DD at 31, a m/mc at 34 and DS at 35 and then left it a few years before trying again only to discover my endometriosis had returned, causing infertility, so including treatment for that it took 2 yrs to conceive this one. I did get to the stage where I was thinking - right, I'm over 40 and there are more risks involved, do we really want another one that much? And the answer was yes. As others have said, if you're fit and healthy and really want another one, why not go for it? Miscarriage is always awful but it can happen at any age, and I knew I'd rather have one try at having a 3rd. I'm 16 wks now and all looks well, but nobody feels completely out of the woods until they hold the baby - even a 25yr old gym bunny in perfect health!

If you have the support of your DP and can have a good talk with your GP or a midwife, I hope you can work your way through the issue which are worrying you.

morning all

Everyone off making lists of new year's resolutions? I have one - to lose four stone. This is last chance saloon for me. [emoticon of grim determination]

Although on the DM website it says that thinking makes you fat Not sure what to do about that...

JJ what a panic! any idea of the cause of Iris' funny turn?

Hi Eulalia Ugh...blueerrr that horrid nausea - never nice You moan away - it's good to moan - especially when everyone else is festive and jolly If it's any consolation - I've got two with a 18mnth gap and both are needy beyond belief! I'm run ragged and my sanity is the laptop- in the kitchen which I keep on MN, email and the BBC - so I can get a glimpse of the real world and have conversations with people over 5! Thing is everyone finds their own way round it - but yep, it's bl*ody hard work!

mrsB that's it - I'm gonna stop thinking

We think Iris' funny turn was caught off DPs step dad - who is Mr Fit but had spent 4 days unable to move, not wanting to eat but without any cold symptoms. Could explain it. A mystery virus by the sounds of it.

Iris has polished off cheese on toast and avocado - so looks like she's on the mend.

Anyone seen the DM website today? Those pics of Paul Weller - Oh Dear, midlife crisis me thinks. I sort of know the girl he was with before and she is gorgeous and lovely. The man is clearly a loon!

oh dear, other people and their blimmin' viruses eh?

yessss... saw Paul Weller in the DM - silly sod - his mrs was only thirty eight - what's next? leave the 23 year old for an 18 year old? huge great superbike?

lovely sight of the bit on the side lying on the pavement with her knickers on show - classy what? mind you if I went to a vodka bar I'd probably end up the same - I can't really do slow drinking and these vodkas are served neat.