Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part V....Still checking those knickers? Check together here :0)

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New thread for knicker checkers every where

Off to catch up with and link the old thread.

good morning all, thank you very much for the support and kindness

have resigned myself to the fact that is pregnancy is lost, there isn't significant blood loss yet but there is some discomfort which I expect is about develop into cramps
I can already feel some twinges

am trying to keep it together and honestly just feel like going for a run which is one of the things that clear my head, perhaps will wait a few more days

had in mind before that this would be my last try, dh is refusing to discuss that which I guess is sensible, too emotional right now.
he has been his supportive self but I want to be left alone

I am grateful for the support and understanding I have received here.

am also happy and grateful that the majority of you are getting on with healthy pregnancies

take care

Sending you my very best wishes missE and still hoping it's not what you think, and also hoping you don't give up hope. There is more research being done on mc all the time, but of course only you can say when you have had enough.

Hang in there mm too.

Hope things are Ok today with you both missEdith and mm.

We've all been there and know how hard it is.

Cece - Haven't been around for a while, how are you?

Miss E - Sorry to hear about your concerns. Could you be experiencing stretching cramps? I had those alot in the beginning, which felt like the onset of AF. Look after yourself and try to keep positive.

Miss M - Sorry your worrying too and hope you have your feet up!

Hello kd73,

I am OK, back to knicker checking so stressing about that but otherwise fine. How are you?

misse and mm the bleeding doesn't necessarily mean mc, my consultant told me a third of women bleed in pg. I had bleeding for 4 days at 9 weeks, started pink/red then brown with some cramping. Had been convinced even prior to this point that it would be another mc, had to wait 48 hrs for a scan so went to bed and waited for mc to happen...only it didn't, brownish loss continued but scan showed healthy 9+ week bean. Couldn't believe it. I think when you are half expecting mc anyway, any bleeding seems to confirm your worst fears. I had told dh and family that it was def going to be another mc and then had to eat my words. Keep the running shoes in the cupboard a bit longer and good luck for your scans next week.

dan39 obviously this doesn't really apply to you now that source of your bellyache diagnosed, but thought I would share my tale of aching fanjo anyway - was shaving my bikini line this am as had to take ds1 and 2 swimming- when found a big varicose vein in my groin! Was perilously near it with the razor. Told dh who said he had read a textbook about someone dying after a hen pecked their v.v. (on their leg presumably). Charming - told him good job we don't have hens. Think this may also rule out any prenatal bikini wax

next scan is next tues - should be 13+3 by then, belly seems to be growing but could be because I'm sitting eating ds1 and 2s sweet tin.

thanks all for support and kind thoughts

mm1509 thinking of you today

bleeding has not really got worst here yet, but it is ever present when I wipe, still no cramping, guess I will know what is happening tomorrow at my scan 4 days after the bleeding started

this is why when Alan Johnson came on MN I was keen on talking about the appalling discrepancy in care for miscarriage, to be fair he responded well and several other people also talked about it am very pleased MN started a campaign about this

Thanks for all the messages and thoughts they really do help.

Hi missedith glad your bleeding has not got any worse, mine is pretty much the same but I do have some cramps. Good luck tomorrow.

We are taking DD to the park today,DH is trying to show her how to ride a bike, stops me moping around feeling sorry for myself. Almost wishing the days away but scared what the outcome will be at the end of it, guess I need to try and keep occupied and stop thinking too much. Enjoy the sunshine everyone.

Got scan tomorrow morning. Really nervous about what we'll find. Been going crazy thinking about it all weekend.

missedith Hope you get some good news tomorrow at your scan.
I'll be thinking of you.

Good luck tomorrow missedith and aquababe I've got everything crossed for both of you

tsom thanks for the warning - ewww - funny enough have been in my jammies all day (the shame) and have been considering some down below defuzzing..which will be tricky due to belly overhang (sorry if tmi!)..less keen now as might find something similar!! Need a complicated mirror arrangement to check. Or a willing dh.. Maybe stick with the mirror..

Had a really lazy day watching telly (5 episodes of Life on Mars, didn't see it first time round, and Gray's Anatomy, I LOVE Gray's (Grey's?) Anatomy) and eating cheesecake and baked potatoes, now on sofa with dh who is watching Ryder Cup (yawn). I said to him earlier I wonder what we will be doing this time next year, he looked bemused as I think in his world he thinks he will be doing exctly the same as he is now - bless his ignorance.

Funny, today I think I might be feeling flutterings of movement but as I dunno what they are I dunno if I am, really? I want to feel them, for the usual paranoia reasons - but I also know that lots of people don't cos of placenta positioning (and blubber )so I am trying not to focus on it too much. 'Butterflies' described by the books and other people - I am confused about what this means - if its a light stroking inside like the wings of a butterfly, then I haven't had it. However, if they actually mean nervy tummy like when you are nervous/scared/excited then maybe I have. Or maybe I am nervy/scared that I can't feel any, as opposed to thinking I am not feeling it when I am but I am mistaking it for nerves about not feeling it..

Okaaay maybe I will shut up now.

But, more important than my stupid witterings, I came on to check in on you two - mm and missedith - thinking about you both, I hope you know you both are in all of our thoughts and we are rooting for you both for a good outcome, all is by no means lost at this stage. Good luck with the scan tomoro missedith, let us know how you get on. to both of you.

Good luck tomorrow aquababe and MissEdith, I'd have been going crazy all w/e as well. I'll be thinking of you both tomorrow.

Never felt the butterflies dan39 though keeping my fingers crossed this pg is a sticky one and I'll get that far! (if that doesn't sound too poor me!- wasn't meant that way!)

Dan39 sounds like your baby to me. It is just like bubbles of nerves. Get your lady garden in tip top order before to long it will be like mine. Who knows what it looks like, been such a long time since I have seen it properly

Good luck missEdith mm1509 and Aquababe. I hope you get good news from your scans today.

Hi everyone

Dan - you enjoy your lazy days and fit as many in as possible!! Sounds like you could be feeling some movements, how exciting

Nothing much changed here, still bleeding and to be honest it feels exactly the same as my last mc, hope I am wrong but not feeling too positive atm. I guess we will find out either at or before the scan on Thursday.

Missedith - how are you today. I really hope you get some good news today at your scan, the more positive stories I here at the moment the better. My fingers are crossed so tight for you

Aquababe - hope all goes well at your scan today.

Thank god for sonographers.
They were so nice didn't have to have vaginal (had too frigging many of those)
saw heartbeat and babys growing well. unlike my 1st mc where the baby was showing up with a heart beat, but a little small, this one was actually a little big (I've given dates 3 days out so don't feel pressured for an induction again)
Can't stop crying though I think it just the relief. though as my sis says I'm still not putting all the dates in my diary just yet.

dan flutterings for me started out as that nervous feeling half the time I thought it was just wind, but then as it got stronger and stronger I realised it was my baby. you'll soon be spotting a foot or elbow poking out and wishing you couldn't feel it quite so much.

missedith really hoping for good news from your scan thinking of you

mm sorry it seems to be heading the same way. I hope your wrong thursday must feel like a lifetime away.

As I'm being confident today I'll put my due date on

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Fantastic news aquababe I am so happy for you, now you can start to believe.

Been away for a few days and just catching up

missedith and mm - so so sorry for what you are going through - to you both.

aquababe - lovely news ? so glad all OK for you.

Dan - you gotta love those blissfully ignorant DHs - one doesn?t wish to burst their bubble, but I have bought From Here to Paternity for mine, and left it pointedly lying around ? I might have to move it to his bedside table if he doesn?t take the hint soon

It doesnt get much better from the DH's I'm afraid. My DH still hasnt quite realised that number 3 will be here any day. He was quite surprised last night when I said I was a bit concerned about baby arriving any day. He told me not to be silly it is weeks away yet!!! 14 days if I am being fussy!

Congrats Aquababe. Great news.

Ronshar is the last 14 days going as slowly for you as it has for me? 3 days till DD...... but after so long trying to get this far it seems like it has gone on forever!!
Knicker checking like mad, but for a show this time which is nice. Any new baby news from anyone (convinced someone is going to beat me!!)

Hope all you other ladies are ok?

Rainrain. I had a bit of spotting at the weekend which freaked me out a bit. But didnt post here as seemed a bit insensitive to Edith & MM.
I went in for a bit of monitoring and all good. Hopefully not too long for me now. But how long is a bit of string!!!!

3 days. Excellent. I am sure it will go as slowly as the last 2 weeks will for me
Good luck love.

Just came on to check in on missedith no news yet, am thinking about her today.

Sorry to hear you're still bleeding mm but honestly all is not lost, it's good you haven't had the awful abdo cramps and IME miscarraige bleeds were full on. I totally understand why you feel it is bad news though but I'm so so hoping you get good news on Thursday. If it is you're allowed to rant and say I told you but if it isn't then we'll all have a virtual drink to celebrate. Sorry I think I'm spouting crap just now

aquababe big hug and excellent news, I'm so pleased.

dan39 I hate to burst your bubble but next year your DH may well be doing the same thing!! Or at least he will until you thrust the baby at him and say I'm going out/to the bath/ make the dinner/ do the washing. Or he may be sitting smug cuddling the sleeping baby watching the golf

Well I cried myself to sleep last night convinced I'm having another mmc (should be 10+ wks, fingers crossed). However had to phone in sick to work as had double vision, headache, dizziness and then promptly vomited - well dry retched after my shower this morning. Had some rice crispies to try and settle stomach but no up they came too. Rice crispies at the back of your nose yeuch (sorry if TMI). So am thinking mother nature is having a laugh and I swear if I've gone through another 3 months of feeling like crap for nothing I'm losing my sense of humour. DD ended up staying off school as she too is complaining of a sore head and tummy. So maybe we've both got a bug. In previous 4 pg's I've only ever vomited once. I think she sussed I was in no state to argue and be tough with her and went in for the kill. Can't wait for DH to be home next weekend. I even had to text a neighbour to ask to borrow some bread to feed us lunch. What a sorry state!!

hello all

unfortunately I did miscarry as expected, had a lot more bleeding yesterday evening and no sac was seen today. still have to do another blood test on Wednesday to completely rule out an ectopic pregnancy, which in itself is unlikely anyway

many thanks for all the good wishes, virtual hugs and lovely support you have all show me

mm hoping for good news for you

aquababe am so pleased all is well with you

will get some rest now and work on getting fitter again, might see the doctor for referral if we decide to try again

again I am very grateful to you all and wish you happy and healthy pregnancies

btw real MN name sfxmum

missedith - so sorry - be good to yourself and come back soon to tell us how you are. Will look out for you as sfxmum, too. Take care, and lots of love.

x

missedith So sorry its ended this way. Take care of yourself and I hope you get all the support you need.
thinking of you

OMG missedith, so sorry for your outcome, I really hoped that you would get some good news today. You are doing the right thing taking time out for yourself and then see how you feel. We will probably do the same if we have the same outcome on Thursday. I don't know if it's because we have been going thru this together but I cannot express how sad this makes me feel. Take care and if you feel up to it join us on the emmsys angels thread on the mc log, the girls there are/ have been going thru the same so feel welcome to join in. I will watch out for you.