All New, Sparkly Fab and 40 + : Mums, Mums to Be or TTC. Come say Hi !

[jeanjeannie]

Hello all - well, this is our third message board..so it's a popular topic.

If you're a fab forty something then please come and say Hi!

The thread lives in pregnancy as that's where it started....but it's certainly no longer confined to just being about pregnancy. It's for anyone whose a gorgeous 40 something. So get a cuppa, bring some biscuits - or cake - and have a chat x

mmmmm cake for breakfast I see before me

'mwah' and 'mwah' (kiss for both cheeks but only air ones natch). Glad you had a fab b'day dear. Not sure about the brazilian waxing kit. Would rather poke my own eyes out as it's less painful and anyway, why rip it off when only DH gets to see it (and even then it's once in a blue moon)? Life's too short for that kind of pain for me I take it a good day was had by all? Have you tried out the nose/ear trimmers yet to be truly fuzz free?

We're off to 1st hospital appointment of the week. Hurrah! ECG's all round. Hoping she'll be discharged from Cardiology today. Fingers crossed and all that.

I'm LOVING Tess on BBC1 on Sunday's. It's marvellous. I'm loving Sunday's full stop now as Antiques Roadshow is back on too. I'm just so easily pleased.

Katherine has a new strategy lined up for us but forgot to tell us; sleep all morning and afternoon, then grizzle and gripe and feed until you are fit to burst - one bottle after the next - all evening. It's a good game without doubt.

Decorator is set to land in an hour or so. Should show willing and at least clear the breakfast dishes out of his way. I'm asking DH in whiny voice "do I have tooooooooooooooooo"?

Oooo Ouch ooooo argggggggg that's what I thing of the old Brazilian wax thing. Not that I'm racy enough to have tried, I'm with you JW why would you do that to your self????? my DH is incredibly short sighted anyway so wouldn't see down there anyway.

Glad you had a good birthday JJ, I would like you to know not only did I hoover the car I fitted the baby car seat on the back seat too (as it was cluttering up the house). Ben "Helped" with the car seat fitting so I re-did it this morning when he had gone to school, we currently have a king penguin occupying it, that will shock anyone having a nose in at the cute baby.

Hope the hosp went OK JW and MrsB have another shiny from me for still being in your jimmies at 3pm.
I have just got some delicious mini chocolate and caramel cake things for tesco the question is shall I eat them all before Ben gets back from school???? I think I should save him from bad ways

All this cake talk has got to me so I baked a Lemon Drizzle, not because that was my first choice but because it was the only cake I had all the ingredients for. It smells so good and I am really struggling not to start on it before friend and her dd arrive for tea.

Happy birthday for yesterday jeanjeanie. Lucky you with your smart pressie. And the cake sounded delish. Wish I could sort out my photos, we have all our wedding pics on a disc and I still haven't printed a single one.

Got caught by the HV earlier today, didn't recognize the number on my mobile. Schoolboy error! She had phoned 10 days ago after the GP told her about Elizabeth's lack of speech but I had 'forgotten' to call her back. We have made an appt for her to come here on Friday week, I love it when they come to you. She sounded quite sensible and calm so hopefully all will be ok.

MrsB I love a pyjama day. Grace thinks they are a huge treat and I am hoping to train Elizabeth up to feel the same way.

Still feeling wobbly about the impending CVS, will obviously need lots of cake to get me through the next few days.

Thanks hedgepig. We're back at hospital in 6 weeks. Think it was rather too optimistic to hope we could cross that one off the list so soon in Still, all seemed to be ok and they're happy to leave her another 6 weeks.

We bumped into one of the transfer team nurses at the hospital with her portable incubator and her little passenger (not Katherine this time I hasten to add). She had a peek inside K's pram and jumped backwards! She couldn't believe how big K had got. Mind you, last time she saw K, she was still on the vent in ITU and a scrawny 1lb something so not surprising she was taken aback She also made me smile by asking if I'd lost weight. Ding ding! That's the second person to ask me big cheesy grins

We're all off to have flu jabs! Wooohooo! I rang this morning and after hmmm and ahhh's, nurse said it is imperative we have them If this is the case, I wonder why hospital didn't tell us this on K's discharge? I only rang on the off chance after reading one of the Bliss threads. Strange one huh?

I've got my weeks mixed up what with all that's going on and it's next week the decorators are coming. Here was me all ready for them at 8.30am. Nice clothes and full make up. Usually I'm scaring the dog.

Glad you've been busy hedgepig and that your feet are up and the cake is out on the china plate. Good show getting the car seat in and piloting the penguin run until LO takes over.

hello all,

Good to see the cake addiction spreading
Planning to finish my latest marks and spencer fabby cake discovery today (so that there's none left and I can legitimately buy another one tomorrow when I pop into town)

Have been discharged by the midwife today Darragh is now 8lbs 5 (so he is bigger than his birth weight and has put on 10 oz since last week). He appears to have put himself on exactly the same feeding/sleeping regime as Katherine jw - and his cheeks are getting chubbier by the day

Midwife also said to me that my face looked much thinner and that I had lost "that puffy look". Hmmm good news but it doesn't make up for her terrible faux pas.

We have to register Darragh's birth tomorrow, then the Health Visitor is here on Weds afternoon., we have the hearing clinic on Thursday and a load of OH's elderly relatives arriving on Friday to inspect the sprog. OH is v miffed at having to spend his paternity leave occupied in this manner...I haven't stated the obvious - that this type of thing is kind of what its for...

mrsboogie dare I ask how your OH would like to spend his paternity leave? Does it involve the local pub, his friends, hogging the remote to watch sport (insert football, snooker, golf, cricket, tiddlywinks as applicable)???? Obviously he has to turn that blind eye to you slaving over hot stove, doing the washing and parading around like the strumpet of the boudoir like nothing happened 2 weeks ago

Am I right? Or am I right?

They're all the same........sigh.

I've run out of cake today so I'm fed up. I'm off to the shops to stock up. No time for baking this week (plus I lost all my cake tins in the house move). However, DD1 has offered to make me cakes as she's just treated herself to a new piping bag. Can't wait

Bargain of the day: 12 various sized Motherease wraps. New. £1.30 each plus p&p on Ebay. Yay!

SWEARING ALERT
arggggggggggggggggggg just back form taking DS to swimming and some B&(&&((& has driven into my car, trashed the bumper and driven off without claiming responsibility, and I parked it at the far end of the car park on purpose so it was out of everyone way %$%&$&)(&&£%^))()()(-!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am well F()(& off and blabbing like a girl

sorry girls I just had to get that off my chest

oh hedgepig ffs - that is terrible. What kind of effing kn*bhead would do that? I don't suppose there was any cctv trained on the spot? Poor you

jw I would say the paternity leave would ideally be spent alternating between staring adoringly at his firstborn (and feeding and changing him, to be fair - he does half the work) and playing the odd computer game. Pub hasn't been mentioned and I am stood down from all strumpetry duties for at least another couple of weeks . I think his main complaint is having to get up early every day and do house work, he's not really a house work person, but then neither am I .

unfortunately I expect the effing Kn*&head is another mom taking her precious offspring to swimming. I hope her car blows up on the way home grrrr (she and her family get out OK obviously, I'm not that vindictive!) but she has a long walk in the rain to reflect on her wrongdoing.
I hate house work too and I don't iron, I just hang things in the cupboard until they look presentable .

I never ever iron anything...I find most things don't need ironing and the creases fall out after a bit anyway. Anything that does need ironing doesn't get worn ..

I know some people find it therapeutic (my mother for instance irons absolutely everything including tea towels, socks, underwear, duvet covers - there's nothing she doesn't iron but then she does have housework OCD) The only thing I have ever ironed was my son's school uniform when he was at school) Apart form that life's just too short for ironing, or window cleaning for that matter.

hedgepig was your car parked in the swimming pool car park? If so, you may find that there was a cctv camera up in some hidey place that you never knew was there. Ask anyway Sorry that some twonk has done that to you. There are some bastards still alive and well it seems.

Ironing? What's that? Tbh I used to love it. Ironed even the dog...now, haven't time. Straight out of the dryer and onto the hanger before the creases have a moment to think about it. I do confess to liking housework though. Not obsessed but once I get going, it's really good exercise. DH doesn't like it and lets me get on with it

Not noticed that DH stares longingly at Katherine. I suppose he would if I put her in front of the tv or the pc monitor. He says he has to earn money and there's a time and a place etc etc etc etc. You can tell he's a real old, dyed in the wool, romantic can't you?

maybe its partly cos Darragh is his first - he is just amazed by it all - plus he really looks like him .

He has taken to the hands on daddy role like a duck to water (I knew he would - which is why I was so keen to get pregnant). Having raised a child on my own without any input from the absent ne'er do well father I was determined that the father would be fully involved if I had any more kids.

your OH sounds lovely MrsB. My DH is pretty good too, with nappies and all that sort of stuff, he is getting really excited about this baby, where as I can't get too excited yet I'm just waiting to see how it all turns out.
I've been really bad and had a glass of wine, I was so wound up I needed to calm down, I feel much better now [relaxing emoction]

Good for you mrsb It's nice when it's your first although not sure I can remember that far back!

I'm being quite the rebel today. I've gone against all official advice regarding not making bottles up in advance. I did it for my other 3 so not sure what exactly has changed in the intervening years. So, there's 4 in the fridge

Bad me.

Johnworf that's very very naughty! but I will be doing the same if I go the bottle way. I think the reason is that they have found some traces of contamination in some powdered milk so the idea is if you make the milk up each time it has less time to hang around but who has that much time in their life with a hungry baby screaming for its bottle??????

Yep hedgepig you are right. It's not like they're in there for days. Once I've swiped the mold off the teats and wiped them down with a filthy dish cloth, they're good to go

Blimey - it's been busy today.

hedgepig OOoo that's sh*T! Have you questioned the King penguin?! Mind you - I suppose you replaced him with your DS!

A twonk slammed our car the other week. DP pulled out the dent with a sucker from one of Iris's toys You enjoy that glass of vino.

ladymac when are you due to have your CVS? Please don't worry too much (easier said than done - I can appreciate that first hand) just that the actual procedure is very quick and simple and the odds are on your side

Ironing????? Nah - over-rated. Never do it. I believe I saw an iron in a cupboard somewhere in our utility room - but there's definatly no ironing board!

johnworf good to hear it all went well at le hospital - even if you've not yet been discharged. And yay for the flu jabs - all good for your 'no germs cross this threashold' isolation house

Oh and I always made up bottles and popped them in the fridge. Even SCBU told us it was unrealistic to think that you would make it all from scratch - especially at night.

Yee Haa, Verity took a bottle .... SO pleased. Now I can go out on Friday MIL bought us tickets to see Mark Steel (comedian) for my birthday - so an evening of adult entertainment awaits......Oooer...not THAT sort of 'adult'

mrsboogie your OH sounds fab - and throwing himself right into his paternity leave. My DP was similar - although he didn't (couldn't) award himself any paternity leave for at least 6 weeks, cos Iris put in an early appearance and he'd taken delivery that day of a huge conservatory to put up for a client. Honestly - if she'd just waited till he'd finished it life would've been so much easier!

ahh yes - the no making up bottles in advance rule - I have been wondering when the change came about. I mean everyone used to make them up in advance now suddenly its a problem? I have never heard of a baby getting ill from this practice. We have been trying to do it bringing the bottles of sterilised water up to the bedroom at night with the powder but it gets to the point where you are wondering whether or not its ok to use the second half of a bottle if the LO decides to take a break in feeding. I can't see us sticking to it so rigidly for long. Also if you are going out you have to bring powder and water in separtate containers. An awful faff it is.

Err I need to ask you guys a bit of a tmi question. My bleeding has been very light almost since I got out of hospital and was almost tailing off until today. Now it has gotten a fair bit heavier suddenly. I'm wondering if I should be worried since with the manual removal of placenta thing they said I should be on the lookout for heavy bleeding because I had "ragged membranes" I think they mean that some of the placenta could have been left inside). Don't know whether I should be worried now? Is it normal for it to get heavier after ten or eleven days?

LOOK AWAY NOW IF YOU ARE SQUEAMISH

mrsboogie my membranes were also ragged as I had an abruption and the cord snapped as they were tugging on it. My bleeding went on for what seemed decades....and yep, mine did the tailing off, then starting over again until, I'd say around 4 weeks mark, it started on the brown old blood when you know it's coming to an end. The flow was variable depending on what I was doing but markedly heavier after I expressed.

Unless you think there's a problem, I wouldn't worry yourself. I think you know instinctively if there is. I was told if my loss got smelly or changed colour then I was to inform midwife but being me, and just to be on the safe side, I'd often whip down my knickers and show the MW my pad whether she wanted to see it or not (always felt like doing the sound effect of TA DAAAAA! but refrained).

Where you been hiding today JJ??? Most unfair you have a pass out this week. My DH has guaranteed mine when Katherine starts school!

Sorry, I meant my placenta was ragged. My membranes were complete with Katherine inside them.

Another TA DAAAAAA!

oh phew thanks jw have been sitting here getting a bit worried. They used the term ragged membranes several times - I'm sure they were referring to the placenta. Anyway although its heavier now than at any point since leaving hospital its not got to the scary stage so I will sit tight. Can't say anything to OH as he will panic.

Oooo - placenta chat - can I join in with my "mashed jelly" placenta?!

With Iris my placenta literally disintegrated so when they came to remove it in the C Section they has to pick it out, bit by bit. It was decided by all in the theatre who saw it that mashed jelly was exactly what it looked like

Like you mrsboogie I had light bleeding - and then an onslaught. Apparently because it wasn't removed all smoothly there were bits left to come away and that could take a couple of weeks - which it did - messy

I'm thinking ragged membranes are probably similar. So, without further ado - let's take the next medical question - as I'm so qualified

Seriously - if it looks wrong or smells rank - then run to GP. I reckon it's just an untidy exit! FWIW I bled for 12 weeks after I had Iris!

johnworf where have I been today? MMmmm, good question - scarily - doing housework. I thought it best before Kim and Agie come round and start showing me the cleaning properties of a bit of lemon and bicarb and writing their names in a year's worth of dust

mrsb is your MW checking your uterus is shrinking as it should do? I guess she has and she's probably asked you what point your loss is at (mine did). Believe me, if there was some left inside you, you WOULD know by now. You'd be in agony for a start and the smell wouldn't be pleasant.

I too had increased bleeding after about 9 days having almost stopped I was still in hospital and one of the midwives had a prod and said my uterus had contracted down fine and was told like the others if it smells funny or I feel unwell then to come back to them it you are at all worried talk to your midwife or GP (my placenta was complete [and enormous])

oh retained placenta also effects your milk supply badly SiL had it and poor James took an age to gain weight