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Pregnant again after 2 losses; can someone please help me with my paranoia?

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ScaryHairy · 21/08/2008 21:33

Hello

I have just (a few days ago) found out that I am pregnant again after having an ectopic pregnancy and a chemical pregnancy in March and July.

I'm having twinges - some on my ectopic side - and everything felt very "tight" when I sneezed just now! I also have some backache.

I recall from my last viable pregnancy that twinges are common in the early days, and I know that it is much too soon for another ectopic to be causing me pain.

Can someone please confirm that twinges etc are normal, just to help me put a lid on the paranoia? I have stupidly let myself get excited about this one and it would really help keep me calm until I can get scanned in a week or so.

Many thanks

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gothicmama · 21/08/2008 21:37

Try and think positive thoughts, and try not to symptom spot (hard I know) I have been in your position and found it best to keep as busy as possible until the scan

constancereader · 21/08/2008 21:39

I had lots and lots of twinges with both my pg, sharp pain, period pain, crampy all over pain, you name it I had it! It is worrying I know (I also lost two babies), but it is normal to have twinges!

HTH

constancereader · 21/08/2008 21:40

(realised that was a little ambiguous, although I had two miscarriages the twinges I mentioned were both in healthy pg)

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ScaryHairy · 21/08/2008 21:41

Thank you both.
I know nothing I do is going to help or hinder this pregnancy, but I am soooo oversensitive about every bit of discomfort. I just keep hoping the little bean is burrowing in and that's what I can feel...

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ScaryHairy · 21/08/2008 21:49

I've been off Googling (normally a dire mistake) but it seems that the internet is full of women with funny aches that turn into a sharp pain when they sneeze and they are all fine.
Will just resume deep breathing until the scan!
Incidentally, do either of you know how early they can scan?

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PanicPants · 21/08/2008 21:54

When I was pg with ds, I had a scan at 6 weeks as I had had an ectopic preg previously. They couldn't find anything at first so did a vaginal scan, and did find a very minute ds and could identify a flicker which was his heart beating.

So quite early really.

Good luck and hope it all goes well x

Aitch · 21/08/2008 21:58

NOTHING can stop the paranoia after two losses, scary. but i can tell you that after two ectopics i got pg again and suffered classic ep pain, terrible hcgs, nothing on scan etc etc etc and it was dd. all you can do is wait. i got pg again after dd... had all the same twinges but this time because i knew i'd had dd it didn't feel so frightening.

congratulations.

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ScaryHairy · 21/08/2008 22:03

Thank you. I just get nervous because I did not have any pain at all with the ectopic (well, maybe some backache when I had what I thought was my period but nothing "classic" - my ectopic was quite odd).

But hey, I am really tired, my boobs do hurt, and pregnancy tests are very clear positives instead of the wierd test results I had with the other two. This one at least seems standard so far...

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ScaryHairy · 21/08/2008 22:04

Oh, and thanks for the whispered congratulations. I actually started the May 2009 Ante-Natal group today, which may have been jumping the gun a little but I want to get excited about being pregnant like a normal person!

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Aitch · 21/08/2008 22:09

you're welcome. oh gosh i hope it all goes well for you.

EllieG · 21/08/2008 22:11

Have you seen the knicker-checkers thread? I think it is still out there - will try and find and link for you. Is for people who are PG after MC. Helped me loads.

Congratulations too! Hoping you have a boringly normal and uneventful pg x

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ScaryHairy · 21/08/2008 22:13

Thanks Ellie.
I do mostly have a good feelign about this one.
It's just that when I am tired the paranoia sets in, and the aches get worse! Speaking of which, it is past my bedtime these days so thanks again for the reassurance and goodnight.

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EllieG · 21/08/2008 22:15

here 'tis

Is natural to worry, but that doesn't mean you've got anything to worry about. Aches and pains v normal. Have a good rest x

TillyScoutsmum · 21/08/2008 22:17

Aches, pains, twinges etc, all perfectly normal. I had dd after 2 mc's and can remember the constant paranoia .
Fingers crossed its third time lucky for you. Congratulations

tsom · 22/08/2008 08:18

I had an ectopic at 5.5 weeks in my first pregnancy, none of my next 5 (some were mc plus ds 1 and 2) have been ectopic but have often had similar pain on my ectopic side - I think maybe I have some scar tissue there which gets scretched as things grow in early pg. The pain was mainly in my back with ectopic and became constant, abdo pain was very sharp but aches in subsequent pregnancies have been well aches really.

They can scan you at 5 weeks to see a growth sac but they prefer to wait until 6 weeks to see a hb, always seemed a bit silly to me if your main concern is ectopic.

Hope all goes well, agree clear positive preg test is a godd sign, with my ectopic it was v.v. faint when 2 days late.

Would recommend knicker checkers thread.

tsom · 22/08/2008 08:19

I mean a good sign not godd!

tinkcantwaittofindoutboyorgirl · 22/08/2008 08:41

hi scary hairy congrats great news
i am sure that all will be well this time

ronshar · 22/08/2008 10:39

Congrats to you Scaryhairy. It is always a very hard time when you first find out you are pregnant after MC. I had two MC last year and am now 33+5.
Do come and join us on the knickerchecking thread. There are a few ladies in the very early stages of madness so you will be in very good company.

becaroo · 22/08/2008 17:35

I had two losses last year too and am currently due in 4 weeks....I still dont really beleive it and dont think I will til I actually hold my baby.

I also had those sharp pains all the time early and it was fine - I think its your ligaments stretching?

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ScaryHairy · 22/08/2008 18:54

It seems to have gone away today so I reckon the stretching theory is right.

Thanks again for all the reassurance.

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kittyDug · 23/08/2008 18:10

I just want to join this thread, have already joined the knicker checker one!! Think I'm going a bit mad too.... I had 2 m/c's in the last year so I'm a nervous wreck also. I have being having the same darting vaginal pains as I had during last 2 m/c's. I just hope that these pains were not connected to the previous m/c's. In my head they are but they could also have been the pg progressing. The first m/c was at 5 weeks and the next was a mmc at 7 weeks with no hb.I had 2 hcg tests done in the past week and it is increasing which I suppose is good. it's so difficult to stay positive (as you all know)if youve been there, I have another scan on Tuesday week, had one last Tues but could see no sac as it was too early, I have a 32 day cycle so this is also putting me 4 days behind... time is going soooooo slow.

Pheebe · 23/08/2008 21:27

Glad you're feeling better scary

Just browsing about and wanted to share my experience. I've 8 mcs and an ectopic. Only the ectopic hurt and that was a stabbing pain, with the others the bleeding was the first sign of a problem.

I also have two healthy boys both asleep upstairs, with both of them I had lots of discomfort, period-type pains, low back ache and generally twinginess. So for me all those things were good signs.

scotlass · 23/08/2008 21:41

Pheebe -sorry to hijack op - can I ask you, were your sons born in between your mc's or after you had the 8 and ectopic? I think I'm having my 4th mc in a row (am 6+3wks and has some fresh bleeding). Beginning to give up hope but I hope you can inspire me.

Hello scary am with you on knicker checkers and trying hard not to make everyones paranoia worse. It's worse than torture pg after mc isn't it!

Pheebe · 24/08/2008 08:25

Hi Soctlass
Sorry I went off to bed last night.

I can indeed inspire you, I had 3 mcs then an ectopic then conceived ds1 then had 5 more in between him and ds2 who is currently chewing a shoe! My first mc was at 11 weeks and was the most traumatic and the one that lives with me every day. The others were all early (6-7 weeks) and fortunately for me didn't require any medical intervention and were more like heavy periods.

There is always hope, don't give up, the fact you can conceive is a good sign. Have you had any tests yet? I had my thyroid checked and the blood clotting issue checked out. I concevied ds1 straight after they were shown all clear so didn't have to go any further.

Hope that helps

kittyDug · 24/08/2008 09:11

Hi Pheebe,

Hope you don't mind me asking, Did you have any pain leading up to those m/c's? I had 2 m/c's and now 6 weeks p/g again. I have the same type pain again but don't know if it is just the normal p/g pain. darting vaginal pain coming and going. Glad to hear you were so strong dispite having 8 m/c's. Don't know if I could face that, it's so difficult even having 2 m/c's. I'm a nervous wreck, finding it very hard to relax about it this time.

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