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Husband doesn't want surprises 3rd baby

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Mumoftwoboys12345 · 08/08/2026 11:49

Hello I need some help I am a mum of 2 boys 5 and 6 recently me and my husband found out I’m pregnant with a supprise baby no 3 my husbands first reaction was screaming f* and walked away from me then when he came back he asked me to get an abortion I have always wanted another baby and we agreed that next year we would try he is telling me it’s the wrong time we can try next year and he can’t deal with it right me we have talked a lot I have said I don’t want an abortion but if he’s really so against it I would think about it but I would never forgive him. The next day he’s sending me clinics and made an telephone appointment for me already I never actually said yes I said I would think about it I feel like he’s made the decision for us I thought I was okay with it untill today I just don’t think I can do it, he has also been really struggling with the news he hasn’t eaten really and his blood pressure is very high I don’t want to stress him out and make him I’ll but at the same time I do want this baby I’m so stuck on what to do any advice please 🙏

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BitterTits · 09/08/2026 23:05

DraftLovely · 09/08/2026 21:35

With such an immediate reaction for a baby that he agreed to 'next year', are you sure he didn't have imminent plans that didn't include you? Just my immediate thought. Would you be able/willing to raise three children alone possibly?

Yes, this crossed my mind. Don't be pushed into an abortion until you know the full picture.

IwanttoWFH · 12/08/2026 23:17

SwirlingAroundSleep · 08/08/2026 15:34

I was with you until you told OP she was unreasonable to say she would never forgive him. Like hell would I ever forgive any man who forced me to abort a baby I wanted. Like hell would I ever forgive any man who thought he had such rights over my body. OP isn’t wrong, she’s 100% honest that she will never look at him in the same way ever again if he forces this on her.

That’s not what I mean, no one should be forced into anything or dictate to anyone what happens to their body/lives. I mean they should have a conversation where neither tries to blackmail the other into a decision. So, he should not be telling her to have an abortion and she should not be saying, “I’ll never forgive you”. They should discuss it sensibly, as a couple.

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