Hi everyone. I’m currently 13 weeks pregnant with baby number 4. We already have three DC under three, so I know we are firmly in "madhouse" territory and this isn't a situation many would choose! It wasn’t exactly our plan either, but I’ve always felt our family wasn’t quite complete, and our children are our absolute world. The reason I’m posting is that literally nobody knows yet apart from the midwife, sonographer, and DH’s boss (holiday planning). We are genuinely struggling with how to tell our families, and I'm losing sleep over it. To give some context on why we're dreading it: *The Parents:* Both sets of parents have made comments in the past about us stopping at three. Nothing malicious, but enough to make us feel they think our hands are full enough. Before my last C-section, I did say I couldn’t imagine doing it again, but I never got that definite feeling of being “done”. This pregnancy was a huge surprise, but very much wanted. *DH’s Brother & SIL:* They have been struggling with infertility for around 18 months and have recently been told they’ll need IVF. I feel an immense amount of guilt about announcing another surprise pregnancy when they are going through this heartbreak. *DH’s Sister:* She sadly miscarried her third pregnancy earlier this year. Her DH has since had a vasectomy. There is already historic tension/drama on DH's side of the family, and I’m terrified this will trigger more. *My Sister 1:* Sadly lost her first baby at 37 weeks. I completely understand that grief stays with you forever. Because of this, whenever I’ve announced a pregnancy, she has never seemed happy—usually a long pause, no congratulations, and an immediate change of subject. It's painful, even if I understand the root of it. *My Sister 2:* Was overjoyed with my first two, but when I was pregnant with my third at the same time as her, things got awkward. She was upset she heard it from DH rather than me, though we were pressured into announcing before we were ready. ^(Sister 3 is lovely and incredibly supportive, thank goodness).^ I'm starting to show already. With DC3, I managed to hide it until 20 weeks, but DH's grandad guessed before then and started commenting on my weight, so I don't think I can hide it for long this time. We’ve already decided that for DH’s brother and SIL who are facing IVF, we will absolutely not tell them face-to-face. We're going to send them a separate, sensitive text beforehand so they have the time and space to process it privately without having to fake a happy reaction for our benefit. As for everyone else... DH keeps joking that we should just drop a scan photo into the family group chat and mute our phones for 48 hours! As tempting as that is to avoid the awkward silences and raised eyebrows, I know we need to handle the rest of the family carefully. I just don't have the mental energy for drama right now. Has anyone else been in a similar position with a fourth baby? How on earth do we handle the remaining announcements sensitively without compromising our own joy?