Baby Shower Gift List - How rude????

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Had an invite to a baby shower with a gift list - how rude is that?
Surely gifts should be personal according to expenditure and how friendly you are with that person. I cant think of anything sader than a woman opening her presents without her partner being present and how embarassing to fluant your gifts in front of others. Presents should be given to both parents after the birth and all is well. I've never spent more than £20 on a gift anyway. Its another commercialised spin whats the matter with a nice party with fun and food, good old friendship! My husband would be horrified if I had sent a "want list" around and I'd deffinately wouldnt have any friends left either! We should all stick together on this and say NO! I'm not doing this!!

eandz That's really bizarre. Do gifts really mean that much to you? I insisted no presents at my wedding. The cost of travelling for people, hotels and whatnot was more than enough cost for them. I was just happy that people wanted to come and see me off into marriage. That was more than enough.

I cannot believe the reaction to most of the woman on here, how over the top. I'm having my first baby and would love to celebrate this amazing new baby coming into my life over pressies and stupid games who cares, it is a celebration.

Why is it acceptable to ask for wedding gifts but not baby shower, we all know how expensive it is to have a child, I would have no problem picking something of a list within my affordability to help a friend or family get something they need or want.

I'm greek so maybe we think differently, we always give money or presents at weddings and birth of babies to help someone celebrate a new big beginning in their lives, we all do it and it all helps at that time. Its called caring.

Okay Christina so would you expect them to also bring another present when they come and meet baby for the first time? ( even tho they'd brought a present to the shower? Then, as some couples choose to have christening/ celebration parties are we then expected to bring a third present? Where does it all stop?

I didn't want to tempt fate when I was pg and had a nice afternoon tea with my friends but said no gifts as I wanted to get the baby here safely first before people started buying things. That was all I could think about to be honest!

I see absolutely nothing wrong with a gift list! I had one for my shower and it was only created and sent after so many people had asked what I needed, it was also sent with a message of please don’t feel like you need to get a gift etc. Options started from £5 and went up to £120 (it was also being sent to family as well for just general gifting)

I never expected anything off anyone and people bought things off the list and some went rogue, it meant that I got a lovely selection of things we needed and thoughtful gifts. Some people also came empty handed & that was fine! Not to sound ungrateful but a couple of rogue gifts actually cost a fair bit and it’s things I hate/will never use - I’m definitely someone who hates spending money on things people aren’t interested in/don’t need so would always rather be told what to get or gift/receive a voucher!!

Sorry, but I think all the people who have a real issue of wishlists/gift lists are generally the people who spend loads of money on the sh** you don’t like and gets given away or sits at the back of a cupboard 😂

@HolidayHun2020 it’s a zombie thread. Baby shower gift lists were less common in 2008!!