Pregnant with third baby and struggling with possible gender disappointment

[MellowCyanSwan]

I’m currently 14 weeks pregnant with my 3rd. I have 2 beautiful boys already and kept the gender of both a surprise. It meant that I was the first to know after they were born and it was just wonderful.

we chose not to find out the gender initially because I was concerned about gender disappointment in my first pregnancy and I knew it would not matter to me when the baby was actually born.

This time I’m convinced I’m having another boy. Someone looked at my 13wk scan and said it looked like a boy. I just can’t believe how sad it has made me feel, which is ridiculous. I have always said I was destined to be a boy mum but clearly a part of me always hoped for a girl.

How do I get out of this ridiculous funk? I will love my baby whoever they are and it shouldn’t matter.

I think it's natural to want to experience parenting both. I have a daughter and we are ttc our second - I'd love a little boy next. But ultimately a happy, healthy child is what matters most.

I think I agree with the poster saying don't find out, it'll be much harder to be disappointed with a boy when he's snuggled up in your arms than on a scan picture.

Sorry, but..."someone" told you?? who was that someone - a health professional or a random person?
You may be getting upset over nothing.
But now that you know how you feel deep down, if I were you I would consider asking at your next scan so that you can manage your feelings and be emotionally prepared for the birth whatever the sex. As others have said, the most important thing is that they arrive safe and healthy.
Yes girls and boys are different and we understand that you want to experience both, but in truth it's no more different than children of the same sex in my opinion.

So a divergent opinion - on a thread asking for an opinion on a subsection entitled "AIBU" - is invalid?

You aren’t giving your opinion though. You are trying to make her feel guilty for having feelings because you lost a baby. That’s not her fault.

This is the pregnancy board. She asked how to get out of the funk, not AIBU.

Thank you for pointing that out, that was my error.

Since when do newborn babies have a 'gender'? Surely they have a sex. I'm afraid it makes me cringe when people use gender rather than sex as the word 'gender' has so many negative, creepy connotations these days. I'm sure you don't want to be aligned with the mad Labour politician, Dawn Butler, who stated on TV that babies are born without a sex!

Posting this for the OP:

https://x.com/TheEXECUTlONER_/status/2032644478838694002?s=20

I completely understand OP, you aren’t alone.

personally I would find out the gender so I could process in private and absorb the news