Am bloody knackered - trying to think of ways to get help - or should I just tough it out?

[FrannyandZooey]

I am coming up to 38 weeks pg and suddenly feel crashingly tired all the time
just taking ds to nursery leaves me feeling like I want a lie down
I have managed to arrange for some kind of help every day this week (someone to have ds for a couple of hours) but am still feeling daunted by thought of getting through the week
poor dp has been great help and taken over most of cleaning etc, but I am struggling to do ANYTHING
eg breakfast dishes still in sink atm
not much food in house
I can't manage shopping I don't think

anyway what I really feel I need is to just have a couple of days doing NOTHING at all and then I might be able to rally a little
I don't normally feel like this, I like to be doing things and don't like asking for help all the time so I am wondering if I should actually trust my instinct
dp could take time off work but we would obviously miss out on this time when the baby is born, also it is wrong time right now for him to take time off as he is trying to meet targets

oh dear
I am getting some paid help twice this week and I think that is all we can really afford

shall I just shut up whinging and do my best to get on with things or shall I carry on trying to find a way to get more help? I don't know what to do

hoorah there is hope for us
now if I can just turn back the clock about 2 weeks and erase all these pesky stretchmarks....

well i don't think you're whinging and if it makes you feel better to get it off your chest i think i'll join in.

this is my 3rd baby and ive never felt as tired as this. midwife said she'd inform me if i was anaemic, but no news, i take it im not?

i am really deadbeat after doing one or two tasks. like some ladies already said, do breakfast dishes, hang laundry out, i'm ready to have a break. It doesn't help that ive got quite severe SPD either, i really cant stand for long without pain.

my husband has many great qualities, but he doesn't offer to do domestic chores. frankly i am so tired i just can't do it physically. i prefer to do things on my own. but im desperate. he offered to vacum but, coz id done most i said its ok, you clean bathroom please. he said sure. then i go there, and i cant smell detergent, windowsill still has same water marks, there toothpaste spat where motherinlaw left it. so i ask did you clean it i cant smell nothing. he said he used some washing up liquid, and he forgot to clean toilet bowl he got in shower then remembered. i was disappointed to the point i was in tears. its not the first time. why do men cut corners with cleaning? ok it wont be my standards but paleeze use the bathroom detergenets for cleaning, not kitchen cleaners.

so there i was crying, cleaning the bathroom round 2, before giving the kids a bath. welcome to motherhood.

if i had money i would get paid help at this moment likewise.

Hi Franny I'm glad you're feeling a bit better. I feel your pain, and I'm only 32 weeks! Getting some iron in you really helps though, doesn't it. I felt like I just wanted to lie down on the floor and die before I starting taking iron supplements seriously.

I need to take a leaf out of your book and have an afternoon nap, but just like you said, it's nice to have some time to yourself, and dd's nap time is the only time I get to read, have a cuppa and biccie in peace, go on mn, watch an episode of SATC ...

Please do start a whingers thread, I've been dying to have a whinge on here! I don't actually have anything real to whinge about really, but I'm so damn knackered all the time entertaining dd (2.2 years), dp works 6 days a week and gets home at 9.30 every night. Can't afford childcare, no family nearby (can you hear the violins?)

And the tmi bit is that I have really sore vulval varicose veins and my poor swollen bits ache every time I get up, and my thighs have rubbed together so much in this heat (live in southern Spain) that I have really bad chafing and can hardly walk. Attractive, eh?

Sorry for whinging on your thread, but I admit feeling really sorry for myself today!

This could be me talking! I am 32 wks with DC2 and absolutely exhausted - and not in a 'normal' way (I don't think) - i am mildly anaemic so i assumed it's that but the iron tablets havent made much difference (apart from grim side effects). Started on the liquid supplement today (Flora-something?).
I do hope this passes. I feel marooned at home as I don't drive and live on a steep hill, so haven't been into town or to the supermarket for over a week.

This thread is just over 2 years old! Franny's baby will be 2 about now!