Am bloody knackered - trying to think of ways to get help - or should I just tough it out?

[FrannyandZooey]

I am coming up to 38 weeks pg and suddenly feel crashingly tired all the time
just taking ds to nursery leaves me feeling like I want a lie down
I have managed to arrange for some kind of help every day this week (someone to have ds for a couple of hours) but am still feeling daunted by thought of getting through the week
poor dp has been great help and taken over most of cleaning etc, but I am struggling to do ANYTHING
eg breakfast dishes still in sink atm
not much food in house
I can't manage shopping I don't think

anyway what I really feel I need is to just have a couple of days doing NOTHING at all and then I might be able to rally a little
I don't normally feel like this, I like to be doing things and don't like asking for help all the time so I am wondering if I should actually trust my instinct
dp could take time off work but we would obviously miss out on this time when the baby is born, also it is wrong time right now for him to take time off as he is trying to meet targets

oh dear
I am getting some paid help twice this week and I think that is all we can really afford

shall I just shut up whinging and do my best to get on with things or shall I carry on trying to find a way to get more help? I don't know what to do

Bloody hell, what are you doing here at this time of night? Get to bed woman! No wonder you are tired in the day!

oh
am normally asleep by 10
but I had a 2 hour nap till about 5.30 - I am not sure if i will sleep if I go up now

Then you go up and rest girl!

Have you got a beanbag cushion or similar? I simply could not sleep lying flat in late pregnancy (because of bad reflux and SPD) so I would sleep lying on one of those huge beanbags you can get.

oh I have to have TWO pillows between my legs (mild spd)
I hate it and it wakes me up every time I turn over
am starting to feel fed up of going to bed
need a good slap I think before I whinge myself to death

No you dont need a slap. You sound remarkable civil about it all. I was like a bear with a sore head. Is it pain that wakes you up when you turn over, or just the arrangement of the pillows? If pain on turning is a problem, sleep in satiny nightwear and slip a polythene sheet under the bottom sheet.

An expert in this field, moi?

it's just the big stupid pillow and it gets stuck in the sheets
then I need to get up for a wee anyway
then dp starts snoring or something

grrrr
anyway he is off this morning and I am lounging, then I'll have ds this afternoon

LOL are you feeling any better today?

not sure
dp has been doing things round the house (god knows what, just pottering from the sounds of it) and so ds has been in my face tbh which was not a rest
they are in the garden now, I wish they would go OUT

I also want results of blood test so I know if there is physical cause or whether just a pg thing
not meant to ring in the morning for bt results so am kind of twitchy

thanks anyway DG

I hope you've had a better day today F&Z

thank you I had a sleep and had ds for 3 hours this afternoon so dp could work
got through it basically, that was about it

blood test results show iron has dipped a bit but nothing major
have a friend taking ds for 2 hours tomorrow, will try to sleep then
am worried about rest of afternoon tbh, I will have him for another 4 or 5 hours after that and I think it could be tough
what a wimp I have become

Even though your iron level may show to be in the 'normal' range, your body might like it a bit higher. Maybe take some floradix and see how it goes? It can't hurt trying it.

You're not a wimp, you're knackered - there is a difference

I've bought some spatone - it felt like I was at least doing something

I am knackered AND a wimp

oh FRANNY this is SUCH a hard time, having the baby OUT is 10000 times easier

I remember it so well, just felt like I had poison running through my veins

It won't be long now... xxx

oh bless you all
i really feel I am being a failure at this part of pg
as if anyone cares whether I am doing 'well' at it or not

Don't want to teach you to suck eggs and all that, but remember to take the spatone with oj, not tea, coffee or milk. Apologies if you already know this

Why don't you go get in the bath (with lavender oil if you've got some), chocolate and a trashy mag/good book? Help you relax?

Echo MP although I used to get so tired at the end of pregnancy that I would panic that I did not have the energy to go through labour. That was not the case though before you add that to your list of worries!

I know every day feels like a week, but you really only have a few days to go. You are doing brilliantly to have only started this thread at 38 weeks.

yes I will ask dp to do me a bath when he gets in
he is out running
like a normal person with legs that work and stuff
thank god he is kind functioning adult, I think I would be hiding under my duvet otherwise whimpering

Snap snap snap! I am nearly 38 weeks and have had a metaphorical crash into a big hard brick wall too. No intention to hijack your thread, just to let you know that you're not alone in feeling wimpish. DD (17 months) had her one day at the chidminder today (kept it up so she doesn't feel to pushed around.) I came home and either sat on the sofa or laid in bed. Couldn't move, physically or mentally and am a bit worried about tomorrow now.

Hope you begin to feel better soon (and not just because it might mean there's vague hope for me!)

And of course we care at how well (or badly) you are doing.

Well, I care anyway!

well ALMOST 38 weeks
have rounded up a little bit tbh

I am worried about being too tired to labour effectively, yes

ah robino
sympathies
sounds like you have it tough

DG I meant "as if anyone is going to give me a score for doing 'well' or look down on me for doing 'badly'"
you know what I mean

Nooooooooooooo you will be fine. Listen, if I could do it 4 times, you can do it one more time. I didn't know about MN when I was pg (it wasn't actually around when I was on Nos 1, 2 and possibly even 3?) but if I had, everyone would have known about every detail of my exhausting day. But when you get to labour, adrenalyn takes over.... or something like that.

Echo MP although I used to get so tired at the end of pregnancy that I would panic that I did not have the energy to go through labour.

oh yes yes! I remember that too! I remember thinking "labour is like a marathon, and I can't even make it to the front door!"

no tougher than you! must be careful or I'll turn this into a mutual sympathy thread

This is bloody horrible isn't it, this stage of pregnancy, just don't want you to feel like you are the only one, my iron is completely fine I'm just worn out.

Felt like a completely useless Mummy today did hardly anything with the DDs, snapped at them all day, feel like I have spent the day telling them "No" "stop it" "get off of there" "maybe tomorrow"

I know I should go to bed early but just like a bit of time to myself at night without someone crawling all over me.