How long was you with your partner before having a baby?

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I mean planned pregnancies:)

This is absurd. People have babies during wars. My father-in-law was born in London at the height of the Blitz. People will always have babies. Doesn’t matter what else is happening, the urge is too strong. Nature is very clever like that.

We'd been together 13 years. TBH for me it's not so much the time together but not being married that I cannot understand. Inevitably most mums make financial / career sacrifices when they have a baby. If you're married and split, you are entitled to a fair share of collective money etc. but if not married, there's no guarantee.

5 years with first, 9 years with second. Now married, been together 12 years total.

15 years. Married for 8 years.

17 years.

DD1 was born 2.5 yrs after we met. DD2 3yrs after that. We’ve now been together 10yrs.

If everyone had this thinking then the human race would die out. The world has been unstable since it began. Our standards of living now are vastly improved and worlds apart from time in history.

I had my third with a new partner after only being together for 16 months. Terrible idea on paper as everyone kept telling me but still together 23 years later and very happy.

We had been together 14 years when we had our first and 19 years with our second we got a civil partnership after 16 years together

This was right for us as we have been together since we were 18, it took my partner 8 years and me 10 years to qualify and it wouldn't have been practical for us to have a baby then. We spent another year living apart as our jobs were in different parts of the country.

I find it more helpful to separate out our relationship into phases. We had the student days (0-4 years), then our living together phase (4-10 years "bf/gf stage), then our joint life phase (10+ years, firmly "partners" now).

Obviously with a bit of blurring. In the student days we were living fairly independent lives. In our living together phase we had a mix of independent and dependent lives. We opened our joint account for bills and split everything 50:50, we lived out of our personal accounts and didn't get involved in the fine details of one anothers lives. We made decisions based on what was beneficial for one another and adjusted the relationship to make it work. During this time lives got more intertwined and by the 10 year mark we were living as a married couple aside from not being married. It was then that we started making joint financial and personal decisions and started discussing and planning children. We bought a house together and our daughter came along 2.5 years later.

Your age and circumstances dictates how long is right for you to move through the stages of a relationship.

So let's just keep having babies when "humanity" is failing and raise them in a world with absolutely shite prospects and extreme violence against women and children? Brilliant idea.

Ok you do you. You do realise this is a parenting forum?

We got married after 2 years 5 months and started trying immediately as we were in our early 30s. Unfortunately it took 15 months for me to get pregnant and then even longer for our second child. I always wish we’d met earlier so we could have started trying earlier.

7 years.

Engaged after 2 weeks, married six months later, honeymoon baby, so 9 months after wedding firstborn came along. All in 15/16 months from first meeting to birth of first child...we must be doing something right though, we are still together, and happily so 24 years later

10.5 years

9 yrs.

But TTC took 2 years and fertility treatment

3 years. Our 17 year old (that baby) thinks that was fast, but we were 35/6- together 20 years now with another one who came along 2.5 years later.

10 years! But we met young ☺️

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We'd been together for 8.5 years, married for 2.

Met in September, engaged in November, married following November, baby born in July! So one year ten months! I was 39 when we met though so not much time to spare. We had another 20 months later.

Together 11 years, married for 6.

10 years. Married 3.
No way did we consider it before, no way.

We’d been together 6 years, got pregnant on our honeymoon.

I guess it’s different depending on many factors. Some women in their mid to late thirties don’t have time on their side.

I was with my now DH 13yrs when we had our first child but I was only 17 when we met. If also took a while to get pregnant. I would have had kids a few years before but I was studying for professional qualifications. The idea being that once qualified I would be on good money and cld go part time without it effecting our lifestyle.