How quickly after MC did you conceive? And what did you do (if anything) to increase chances?

[Anythingpink]

Just as the title says really.. I had surgical management for MMC at 9 weeks pregnant two weeks ago and just curious how long it took others to conceive after a miscarriage and if you did anything to increase your chances? Keen to conceive again quickly x

I had a mmc at 10 weeks, discovered at 12 week scan. we had medical management. we didn't have sex until after my next period. then in the cycle after that period, I tracked ovulation very closely, as I had been told that ovulation can shift after a miscarriage, and that turned out to be true! I ovulated 3 days earlier than usual. we had intercourse everyday from 3 days after my period, up to twice per day in the 3 days before I ovulated. I got pregnant, and so far so good, although im not sure you ever quite relax after a mmc. I think for some couples they prefer to wait after a miscarriage, to heal mentally. I totally get that, but my partner and I are 40, so we didn't have that luxury, and there are differing perspective on this but some medical professionals think you are more fertile after a miscarriage. Im so sorry for your loss.

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Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss, MMC can be so hard to navigate and I remember being so confused about what was happening with my body during that time, and for a while after. Please take some time to grieve (for both you and your partner) if that feels important to you - you've experienced a major shift in your future so please don't feel like you need to be 'okay' immediately.
To answer your question on timing, first time round it took me over 8 months because mentally I didn't even understand the grief I was experiencing and so it wasn't until I started to talk to people around me that I was able to conceive again. When it happened whilst trying for my second, I did so much more to allow myself the time and space I needed, and then we were lucky the following month.
So each scenario will be different, but please do ask for help if it feels like it is weighing heavily on you.

@DMBZ1985 thank you for sharing this and congrats on your pregnancy! 🥳. I can imagine mentally it’s hard after going through what we have, never fully relaxing. I am 34 and it took us 3 years to conceive this second pregnancy (I already have a DS already - who was conceived immediately) so it’s been a journey as it is x

I didn’t conceive until 8 months after my miscarriage, despite my period returning back to normal straight away and tracking my ovulation extremely carefully. I remember all I was fixated on in those initial few months was people suggesting ‘you’re more fertile after a miscarriage’ and was just absolutely devastated when that was clearly not the case for me. Don’t pin all your hopes on conceiving again quickly is all I’d suggest, but try and remain optimistic.

The month after, but sadly was another loss.

Thanks @Anythingpink we had a long journey over 2 years with ivf and so on, and so getting pregnant naturally was great. It happens differently for everyone, and it's so hard to manage the feelings along the way, so much of it out of our control and I find that the hardest part!

@scott2609thanks for sharing this, it’s interesting to see how everyone’s body’s are so different with this. And it’s good to be realistic - so easy to get focused on wanting it to happen straight away and I hope it does, but I also don’t want to fall into a hole of desperation etc if it doesn’t happen as fast as I’d like! So happy it happened for you 😘

@Prelimah I am sorry x

After 3 years TTC I had a miscarriage. The following month I had an unsuccessful cycle of IUI (we were on the waiting list for IVF). The month after that I conceived DS. So only 2 months, and after a long period of TTC like you OP. Best of luck.

@KindAndCalmthank you so much for your reply and for sharing this! Sometimes I find it difficult to know if I’m moving forward in a positive way or if I am burying it a bit. Maybe a bit of both but I am trying to allow myself to feel it when it comes up and thankfully my partner and family (the close ones who know) have been a great support. Still I have moments where it feels unreal and the pain hits again. I’m worried I won’t fully feel ok until I am pregnant again x

@kiwibluewow this is so encouraging, thank you so much for sharing this. Especially as we’ve had similar time scales. So sorry for your losses along the way, im so happy that you got your DS in the end 🥰 xx

I had an MMC at 8 weeks and had surgical management at the start of Jan. We then got a positive pregnancy test early April. Now 40 weeks and waiting for my little boy to arrive.
We didnt track ovulation or anything and just went with the flow.
Sorry for your loss and good luck with the future OP xx

Sorry for your loss

I started TTC age 32. My dismissive, now ex GP finally did a day 21 blood test, said it was normal and I should go and relax! No referral despite me asking.
Took 4yrs to conceive naturally. I had medical management at 12 weeks for TFMR due to patau syndrome.
TTC another 12mths then got pregnant- but MC at 7 weeks that time.
Then pregnant via IVF but MC at 9 weeks- despite seeing a heart beat 2 weeks earlier
Further IVF rounds but didn't get pregnant again

I was working abroad briefly, so paid for tests their and everything was normal- tubes clear, AMH above average for my age, sperm count normal etc etc. Things I tried:
-Read the book 'It starts with an egg'. You can get 2nd hand copies from ebay for a few £'s.
-Other than multivitamins and folic acid, I also took Ubiquinone Coenzyme Q10
-I started DH on lycopene supplement. Its naturally occurring in red fruit/veg, but 'some' studies showed it could help with sperm motility etc
-We both lost weight before the 1st pregnancy, cut back alcohol and DH changed from cigarette smoking to vapes

Others have tried acupuncture, yoga, osteopathy but I never did specifically to TTC.

I did alot of reading during those times and lots of people say 'you are really fertile after a loss' but I actually couldn't find any medical papers to support this. From being on MN years now, it did seem that those than conceived straight away, especially without a period in between, often went on to MC yet again. Obviously, there are some lucky cases, but I do think the body/uterus needs time to fully recover before TTC.

Wishing you the best of luck x

@Lulusunflowersthats such lovely news, congratulations. If you don’t mind me asking, did you try to conceive straight after? Or wait a few cycles? X

@JDM625 thank you for your reply! I’m so sorry for your losses, it sounds like you’ve been through it. Me and my partner have also had all the tests done and thankfully now we are all clear - I had stage 4 endo and had a laparoscopy to remove at the beginning of the year, DH also had a vareceole (sorry can’t spell it!!) which has been corrected - so we’ve had various things along the way! Weve taken all the supplements and then some, I’ve done acupuncture, reflex, kinethetics, fertility specialists.. then the month I conceived this last pregnancy I threw the towel in and didn’t bother with supplements, ate and drank what I wanted and couldn’t care anymore! Then boom.. and now this. It’s just so hard after everything else we’ve been through. Just grasping onto hope that we can conceive again soon but I know it’s better to be realistic. Anyway sorry for my waffle and thanks again for sharing, it sounds like you been through a lot too, sending love 💕

I had a MMC with medical management (got pregnant first cycle) it then took 6 months and like 8 cycles as my periods shortened from stress.
I actually paid to see a private consultant as I was so worried something was wrong with me and he said to throw away all ovulation tests, no temperature measuring and have sex every other day. I got pregnant the following cycle lol

@Marmite1992 congratulations 🥳 ah yeah I can understand, this was me also! I stopped tracked everything and just relaxed then it happened.. obviously it didn’t end how I had hoped but it goes to show how much stress can effect things. I don’t want to fall back into that stress, it’s so hard though x

I was so stressed and in a really dark place. If I could go back in time and talk to myself id say to live your life to the full, relax, eat and drink what you want (still have monotonous sex every other day 😅) and it will happen for you! I'm sorry you're going through this it really is the worst but one day when you have your baby you'll look back and wish you hadn't spent so long feeling so awful.
It is always useful to have basic fertility tests so you know everything is ok and to give some reassurance but then just focus on enjoying your life

@Anythingpink so we waited until my cycle started again before trying. It took a few weeks after Surgical management for my cycle to return x

OP you sound exactly like me a couple months ago. I had a MMC followed by surgery in September and was desperate to get pregnant again as I felt it was the only thing that would fix things. For me that desperation subsided over a short period of time. It helped me to book a nice holiday to take my mind off things, so I would advise you to plan something you enjoy to focus on.

Pleased to say I’ve just had a positive test on cycle 3 of trying (but the first one was an off cycle where I don’t think I ovulated). Shame I’ll be facing severe morning sickness again whilst on my holiday! 😂

Wishing you all the best x

I had two miscarriages trying to conceive my second last year.
I stopped contraception in April, conceived in June, miscarried in August, conceived in October miscarried in December, conceived in January (no period in-between) and he was born in September.

I didn't do anything differently, I had started to change my diet a little bit more eggs and fish, tried to include protein if I was eating sugary things but I had conceived before starting these ... I was nearly 8 weeks before I found out I was pregnant again.

I've never tracked ovulation or tried to have sex in my fertile window but have been lucky enough to conceive in 1-4 months every time I have tried just by having regular sex when feeling in the mood

@tillstwo if it is any hope I had severe sickness with my first born and both of my miscarriages but not the last pregnancy. It's part of why it took so long for me to realise I might be pregnant as with the previous pregnancies by 5 weeks then sickness started and by 7 weeks I was bed bound

@tillstwo that’s such lovely news congratulations on your pregnancy 🥳 it’s so reassuring hearing about other people’s positive stories when you’re in the thick of going through it. That’s great advice and thankfully we do have a ski holiday coming up to take our minds off things and just relax and have fun. Hopefully you don’t feel too poorly on your hols!! Xx

I had a mmc and started acupuncture a few weeks later. I fell pregnant after 3 cycles. I would 100% recommend it.

Conceived two months after miscarriage. Ate two Brazil nuts a day for fertility! Best of luck.