Too old to have a baby age

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This has been done to a thousand times but when is the tipping point between being quite old to have a baby and being too old...

I think it also depends on when you had your first. I’m 43 and my DC are (technically!) adults, having another now would mean non-stop parenting from early 20s up until 60ish and that’s a terrifying thought! If I didn’t have any children yet then I’d absolutely not feel too old at all.

I don’t generally think the woman is too old at 40 or 41 but what you’ve got to consider is how you’ll feel when the baby is 30 you’ll be 70 or if you have a baby at 45 you’ll be 75 when they are 30. Do you want to meet your grandchildren or great grandchildren? Do you want to be well enough too enjoy them. Also if you have just one child at 40, you’ll be leaving them all alone in the world at potentially 30 or 40 which is so young to lose parents. Just something to consider.

I had my last at 39 and I noticed the toddler years were harder than before. At the time I was fine with the possibility of a Downs baby (higher test scores) but now that the baby is 15 I'm so glad he's fully healthy as I'm 54 now and don't have as much energy as then. And older still means even more chance of a very difficult caring role for the future.

42 absolute cut off in my mind. perimenopause symptoms kick in for most from 45 parenting a young child at that time would have done my head in. You lose your caring hormones.

Am I missing something here?

If your cut off is 35, you will be in your 40s doing the school run!

For me it was 40.
I had dd3 at 39 and 3/4.
Might have felt differently if I did not already have older ones though

I suspect not a genuine poster, looking for attention for being ‘a man’.

Are you not so good at the maths? You’d only be starting the school runs at 40 😆

Bit worried about all these posters who suddenly don’t have any energy when they turn 40. Do you people not move your bodies? Or exercise? Or eat well? I can’t imagine why your bodies are suddenly breaking down at 40… 🫢

We didn’t have a child but from the age of 37 and by 44 I think I felt too old and 45 definitely too old. Had losses at 37,39 and 41.

Just had my first at 32,DH 38. It has been ROUGH. Had alot of issues in pregnancy, and pp. Baby born with a birth ‘defect’ and required surgery, not sure I can face the reality of it again, although apparently it’s just chance that it happened.

We would love a big family but reality has kicked in now. We will try for DC2 when DC1 is 1yr old, if it happens great but if not that’s also OK.

Nature. You’re deluded if you think ageing is a cliff edge when you reach 70.

When you can’t get pregnant/carry to term (I’m obviously not including anyone with fertility issues due to anything other than age).
I had my children in my 40s, as have several people I know (the oldest two being 45 and 46). All but one conceived naturally.

I was 36 when I had DD. DP was 41. We’re sticking with 1 for financial and age reasons.

Twenty five years ago, when I had my first, the thought was your clock started ticking after the age of thirty, and you were an old mum from mid- thirties onwards.

I dont know in many ways im healthier at nearly 40 than I was in early 30s or late 20s. I joined a gym and started exercising and light weight training.

I went in a hiking holiday last year and there were 2 couples in their mid 60s and they were giving the youngsters a run for their money. These were not easy hikes. Steep terrain and uneven ground. The holiday involved being on the van for 7:30am and we often werent back for 12 hours.

The fit 60+ year olds eere a healthy weight and lived an active lifestyle. They managed well unlike than the overwight couple in their early 30s who gave up half way on most hikes, and often held up the entire group. The woman was easily a size 20 and she gave up half way on most hikes and had to wait for hours midway for us to come back down.

It doesnt follow that aging means losing all your fitness. Its how you live and your general fitness and weight.

So it’s a binary choice between a marathon running 60 year old and a pair of morbidly obese 30 year olds?

For me, 30 (had D's at just she of 29) 😂
But it's so individual, dependant on health, finances and personal circumstances.

You made it binary.

It is pure common sense that if you are very overweight you will be unhealthy and unfit no matter your age.

Hence you can be older and fitter than a 30 year old who is morbidly obese.

A size 20 is going to stuggle to haul her ass up a steep mountain path

We stopped TTC when I turned 40. I already have older children. I’d be horrified to have one now at 47

The average 25 year old has more energy than the average 45 year old. We need to stop pretending everyone is an outlier on here, and that chance and probability doesn’t exist, it’s getting silly

The average 25-year-old, having more energy doesn't mean they ll be able to out run a, forty five year old if they're carrying ten extra stone in excess weight.

You need to stop looking at it in terms of omly.age too, because it's getting silly.

This is why I won't be having a child. I would find it so worrying and upsetting to think of my child potentially being alone without parents or siblings at a young age. It's really sad, as I would very much like to have a child (I am an only child myself so have very little family) but I can't simply put my own wants and desires ahead of a child.

Why would a new mum need to be an Olympic sprinter? Are newborns very different to how I remember?

Now you're just being deliberately obtuse.