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Fiance is angry and playing blame game

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Mandyadj89 · 12/12/2024 18:46

For some, you will read this and say, wow! What a crap man and others may not but here we go.... Fiance and I have been together 5 years...... In these 5 years I have had 4 medical abortions all due to his choice and me being so sad about it. I was on birth control but we stopped taking it about 2 years ago as it was giving me massive head aches and a whole lot of pregnancy symptoms. At that time we discussed other options. I kept telling him if he does not want another baby ever, why not get snipped. He refuses.... This has led me to take endless amounts of plan B pills. Ive taken 12 plan Bs in the last 12 months...... The last medical abortion I was so angry with him and told him this will be the LAST TIME I put myself through this..... Well here we are. I actually took a plan B pill during ovulation week but I think we may have taken it after ovulation had passed thats the onlyyyyyyy thing I can think of as to why it would have failed.... Im now what the Dr. would consider 5 and a half weeks pregnant. The second I thought I was late, I told him I think we may need a test and why... He didnt mention anything else for over a week. Now that he knows for sure that I am pregnant my Fiance has not spoken to me in over 24 hours. He keeps telling me he is done with me, Im a manipulator, im trapping him and soooo much more. I feel hes had many chances to protect himself and still chooses not to pull out and depends on a plan B to save his ass. 4 times I gave him his way. This isnt right! I dont feel I should abort again. I need help, reassurance, in all, Im not sure what I need other than to not feel neglected, lied to about love, and alone at the moment. Is anyone right in this situation? His only child is about to be 7 and she is autistic. I think his anger may fuel from fear that this baby may too have autism. I look at it as something in this world wants his daughter to have a younger sibling to watch over her once we are gone from this world. Why cant he see the positive?

OP posts:
LoyalTaupeTiger · 13/12/2024 09:30

Icanttakethisanymore · 13/12/2024 07:12

Shes had 4 medical abortions (as well as taking the morning after pill various times). I am pro choice and I’ve had an abortion myself but this is a shit show.

I am pro choice, and would rather a woman had 4 abortions safely if that was best for her. I may not understand why she hasn't taken other precautions and would think she's got some other issues.

I'm pro choice, have not had an abortion because luckily enough for me I have never needed one. I don't put restrictions on choice.

Icanttakethisanymore · 13/12/2024 09:32

LoyalTaupeTiger · 13/12/2024 09:30

I am pro choice, and would rather a woman had 4 abortions safely if that was best for her. I may not understand why she hasn't taken other precautions and would think she's got some other issues.

I'm pro choice, have not had an abortion because luckily enough for me I have never needed one. I don't put restrictions on choice.

I’m not saying she shouldn’t have access to an abortion, of course she should. I’m saying this situation is a shit show.

Missmarymack2 · 13/12/2024 09:59

LoyalTaupeTiger · 13/12/2024 09:30

I am pro choice, and would rather a woman had 4 abortions safely if that was best for her. I may not understand why she hasn't taken other precautions and would think she's got some other issues.

I'm pro choice, have not had an abortion because luckily enough for me I have never needed one. I don't put restrictions on choice.

Agree It is better to have 4 abortions safely and women should always have the choice regardless of the amount of abortions they have had previously. At the same time it isn’t sensible to put your body through such procedures repeatedly when pregnancy can be prevented by using contraception and there are multiple options available.

Notaflippinclue · 13/12/2024 11:41

IMO abort - get rid of him - and get some help

Arlanymor · 16/12/2024 14:34

LoyalTaupeTiger · 13/12/2024 09:25

Why use 'actual medical reasons' there's no need to have 'actual' and by adding it, you therefore are saying (possibly unintentionally) any reasons that are not medical are not 'actual' reasons.

You could have put ' termination for medical reasons' which is very well used, so much so it has it's on acronym TFMR.

Hate is a strong word, I prefer judgey.

That’s how I speak. You seem to want me to use different vocabulary to explain my situation and are now trying to school me in now to speak about my own situation. Why not use the words I use to explain what I went through? My actual words and how I felt? They are neither wrong nor offensive.

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