Due December 2024 - thread 2

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Follow on from the first thread here:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5032929-due-december-2024?page=40

Ladies! Baby is still moving but honestly.. this “slow labour” has seemed to just have stopped!
no hip pain, pelvic pains are minimal… contractions have stopped… Mucus plug stopped…
anyone else experienced this? I’m so confused!!!

@Lunamoon23 thanks! Consider that list stolen 😉 oh I LOVE PJs. I got a John Lewis voucher from my colleagues the other day and have decided baby (and toddler) have enough so I'm treating myself to some expensive jammies and some lovely slippers. I plan to spend a lot of time in them 😂

@Firsttimetrier -
Hello, yes I have been and you're right. When I listen to it and think positively it massively helps.
Just get waves of worry the closer it gets!

Hahaha you are so welcome!! ❤️ and absolutely! Treat yourself - you've carried and nurtured baby for 9 months, you absolutely deserve a treat. That's the way I saw it anyway! Over the last few months I've brought myself little treats along the way, topped up my make up with spares, brought a new pair of trainers 😂 as I know when I'm on maternity leave - WHICH STARTS TODAY! 🥳 I won't be able to freely enjoy spending money on myself much anymore. So why not!

@LilyJessie you're not alone in feeling that way at all, also, it's brave to be open about it, I think as women we're expected to just 'get on with it' but it's scary! I'm also a nervous wreck, I'm having a ELCS, baby is footling breech. And I'm 39 weeks in a week and 4 days and I still don't even have my date. I feel like they're going to spring it on me very suddenly with very little notice which I HATE, because I'd like time to be able to mentally prepare for it rather than a few days notice. Feel very vulnerable which isn't nice. But I keep telling myself, it's an hour-hour and a half of feeling petrified and then I'll be with my boy. 💙 I've got my last midwife appt on Friday and if I haven't heard by then I'm going to ask her to ring them and chase it xxx

@Twinkletwinklelil I feel you. After all the signs my little one has moved out of the battle station and has his head completely free again

I think that’s happened here too!! What are these babies doing 😂

@OnNaturesCourse @Twinkletwinklelil exactly the same here - after thinking I was going into labour last weekend the intermittent "contractions" have stopped now I'm back to normal 🙄 agh.

It’s so frustrating:(
clearly they’re too cosy

@Twinkletwinklelil to be fair it's bloody cold outside

Sorry TMI

But those who were saying the other day that they're going to the toilet a lot for a poo, are your babies engaged?

My midwife said baby is 1/5 and I'm wondering if this is why I've been having this the last week or two

@RedRobyn2021 I was told at my last scan that baby's feet were in my pelvis. He's breech. But haven't seen my midwife since. So can't comment on if it maybe related tbh. For me it was so much the frequency, it was the foul smell 😂

Also, ladies who've had a c section. When did you recieve your dates?? I'm 39 weeks in 1 week and 4 days and I've heard nothing regarding pre op appointment or date. It's driving me mad not knowing..

@RedRobyn2021 i can only assume that was the case for me, baby was head down and pressing down/engaged at the weekend when I was in for reduced movements and I had been having multiple, foul loo trips. I've gone back to being a bit bunged up this week and just found out he's moved out my pelvis again so... 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Lunamoon23 I haven't got my date either, I just know it will be from 13th onward. My midwife did say they're giving dates really last minute right now 😔 can your midwife follow up for you knowing your anxiety around it?

The consultant I saw last time said it'll likely be around the 10th-13th of Dec (I'm secretly hoping it isn't the 13th as it'll be Friday the 13th, 😅) , I'm 39 weeks on the 9th but they don't do them on a Monday at my trust. It's just horrible not knowing isn't it ... I can't understand why they leave it till so last minute with this type of surgery. Any other you'd know months in advance, I understand they have to allow for emergencies etc but that can happen on the day.. and with any surgery I guess? I've got a midwife appointment on Friday late afternoon, if I haven't heard anything by then, I'm going to ask her to call and follow it up. As by that point, I'll be a week and 2 days away from 39 weeks. Surely they'll be able to provide a date by then. Do you know how many days before the csection date you're meant to have your pre op appointment? Can that be day before or does it need to be a few days?

@Lunamoon23 I have absolutely no idea about a pre-op appointment either 😳 forgot to ask about that. Well if they don't do weekends and Mondays then you've it narrowed to 4 days, hopefully they can get you a date very soon to help you prepare 🤞🤞🤞 I'd defo be asking my midwife to follow up that close.

I've to go for another growth scan on the 12th (38+6) after today's scan at 36+5 showed she has slowed a little which seems pointless if I'm due to go for section from the 13th onward but hey 🤷‍♀️

@HelterSkelter224 I'll ask on my appt Friday and share with you what she says regarding pre op. And it's helpful they've narrowed it down but it's just peace of mind knowing for sure isn't it. Hate being in limbo. I'm a planner so this is my worst nightmare 😂 there was me thinking a csection would put me more In Control too haha.
My husband is dying to know too! I'll defo nag my midwife if nothings heard by Friday.

Yeah that does seem abit pointless! But I guess if they are concerned they may get you in as a priority closer to 39 on the dot than allow you to go 39+?

My new pregnancy symptom is waking up around 4am for the day 🙄😩😴

The lack of sleep is honestly the worst, especially as I’m still working so can’t nap through the day to catch up. Just want to sleep until the morning, but just not happening.

@Firsttimetrier ahh I feel for you. This was me last time and for most of trimester 1/2. Later in 3 my sleeps slightly improved..
when do you finish work? I wish I’d finished earlier and napped the days away lol

@Firsttimetrier - this was me during second and into third trimester.
I've just reverted to WFH this week (36+3) as found the commute was starting to really impact me, and I have to admit, this has allowed me to sleep better and actually have a couple lay ins.
Is this an option for you at all?

@LilyJessie today's my last day at 37w, ready now 😴

I can work from home whenever I like but my job involves lots of long drives up into the Scottish Highlands and back in one day (5-6hrs return sometimes), I nailed that on the head in the past few weeks with the colder weather and just general discomfort so I've mostly been at home with the odd trip to the local office. Definitely felt the difference between wfh and office days in terms of how drained I was after a day in the office compared to home recently. Last pregnancy was during Covid so I didn't have to go anywhere and think I majorly took that for granted!!

When does everyone finish?

Yesterday was my last day at work! I only go in 2 days a week and WFH the other 3 and yeah I definitely agree the difference in how I feel at the end of the day is massive depending on whether I'm onsite or not (commute is 45 min train then 20 mins in a friend's car both ways which I think is the worst part, especially because trains are always delayed these days).

Last night was my worst night in months, I really was tossing and turning (slowly and painfully 😂) all night. I'm hoping it was because my brain was so wired and exhausted after handing over all of my work this past week and not a sign that I'll be consistently sleeping badly over the next few weeks 🤞

Tomorrow is my last day, at 35 + 4. I'm finishing early with annual leave.

Tossed and turned all night too (so slowly and painfully) partially due to pressure on bladder, but also pain in hips, ribs, and placement of cat right on feet. I think I'd have been awake anyway though, I'm just wide awake at night.

Just got my elcs date - 17 December at 7.30am. Although it says it's an outpatient appointment- surely not???

@LilyJessie @Twinkletwinklelil I finish on Friday 13th, so not long to go! I am WFH pretty much but will be in the office 2/3 days the next two weeks for social things. I try to nap on my lunch but then my brain is in overdrive from tiredness 😂

Sadly, I can’t sleep in though as we have a 2 year old, and although he sleeps in until 7am, I have to be up earlier to shower and get ready for the day.

Hi lovely. I also have a 2yo who is now cosleeping!!
it’s tough but you’ll definitely have to find some time to rest, even if it’s not sleeping. I’m taking naps when he naps now 😅
not long to go! Hope you find some peace xx