PIP when working and looking after small child

[Lakes24]

Hi

so I know loads of people who get pip for mental health who have children but I applied as I have wrist weakness, underactive thyroid, b12 deficiency, reflux & ADHD

so I have to have medication every day and am exhausted I still look after my child but it is a struggle I. Explained that I’m anxious but still to work as I think staying in would make me worse don’t cook big meals as my partner does as my wrist gets worse and I’m easily distracted. My partner manages budget. I only drove to shopping with my partner and only place I go on my own is park as it’s local and once every few months I’ll go my friends house on my own. I said I can wash and wash my son but my partner runs bath for us as I’m just so tired by evening and my partner reminds me to take medication as if not I’m sick I’ll forget

I wasn’t awarded it so how do people get it, they was obsessing on me working and driving

I’d work full time but I can’t as by the 3rd day im
making lots of mistakes and exhausted

Well since 43% of the people with ADHD who apply for PIP get an award, the DWP (not known for their generosity) must know something you don't.

As a stand alone condition, surely not? How would that be considered a serious disability? ADHD does not prevent you from doing anything a normal functional human can do.

All of your conditions sound very common and non-debilitating....in fact, I've got all the same other than a 'weak wrist' and it wouldn't occur to me that I needed financial help for it.

I'm guessing you want it so you don't need to work?

Well since 43% of the people with ADHD who apply for PIP get an award, the DWP (not known for their generosity) must know something you don't.

It could be plenty that have other conditions as well as ADHD though. ADHD alone, even as the main condition, doesn't always mean an award, but if you are 2 points short and you can top the scales with points for something else, you are considered as part of that 43%

It's not as clean cut as 43% of people who apply for ADHD are awarded. Too many variable

I can never understand how someone can meet the descriptors of pip but can look after their children and have a job and drive.seems very contradictory

It's not an out of work benefit, neither is it enough to replace a wage

Because pip don't assess whether you actually have extra costs - it's whether you meet the criteria

I know, but I'm assuming that's why the OP wants it. As the money won't help with any os the 'issues' she mentions

Driving a car doesn't negate my eating disorder, so I get points on both the preparing food and taking nutrition descriptors.

Stuff like that, I have a lot of examples but people who have these very simplistic views are rarely willing to learn, so I'm not wasting my energy today

It's not just about the exhaustion but also the recovery time. For example I have a chronic pain condition that causes exhaustion.

Today I've taken my son to the shops, I have to sit in the shops, stop, use a stick or trolley. We have a break between shops. He carried the shopping, emptied the boot ect. I'm exhausted now, my daughter is cooking as I will need recovery time, I'll still be exhausted tomorrow and I wouldn't be able to cook a small meal now in an acceptable time frame.

People don't see the extent of my poor health because I fight it as hard as I can but behind closed doors it's completely debating. These are the things that pip takes into account

I can't find a job I can currently do and it's hard to parent my children but I'm lucky they are all old enough to muddle through together

I just mean the people who can drive virtually everyday which requires a certain amount of concentration and look after their children without having them removed or looked after by someone else or hold down a job without getting fired.
I have autism and possible ADHD myself, I cook once a week for the whole week, there are times I can’t concentrate to cook, I will leave the bath running and forget about it, i will cause fires. I could learn to drive because some days my concentration is better than others but not everyday, if I tried to work I would get fired because I can’t manage my time and I get burnt out extremely easily. And by burnt out I don’t mean a bit tired, I mean, can’t think anymore, can’t read, can’t articulate myself, can’t look after myself at all

Must do, I suppose.

@EmmaMaria
Oh bless you. Sounds like your having a bad day. You misunderstood and that's ok. I hope you have a better day tomorrow👍

Extra expenses associated with ADHD - (ADHD Tax!) -

Impulse spending

Impulsively Setting up subscriptions for various services and forgetting or experiencing extreme overwhelm when it comes to cancelling.

Repeatedly losing personal items and having to replace them, including expensive electronics etc.

Losing house keys and having to pay for a locksmith to change the locks.

Damaging carpets/cookers/saucepans by forgetting that the cooker is on and burning food, forgetting that hair straighteners are on etc.

Those who cannot drive due to extreme lack of concentration need to rely on taxis etc.

Impulsively signing up to various activities/buying items related to activity and quickly losing interest/moving on to the next thing.

Buying items and forgetting where you have put them or forgetting that you’ve bought it in the first place and buying the same items over and over.

Executive Dysfunction when it comes to tasks like cooking a meal/relying on expensive takeaways and food subscriptions.

Getting into debt through impulse spending.

Trouble holding down a job due to poor time keeping/lack of concentration/inability to retain new information/lack of social awareness etc. Higher risk of losing a job.

Plus many more!

Anything to do with disability benefits is a claxon to a certain type of person, well done for illustrating that with your posts.

@talentedcharisma
What are you walking about?

Yes, I'm perfectly mobile, thank you

@talentedcharisma
😂
We are allowed a difference of opinion. I think those with serious conditions like stage 4 cancer should be entitled to PIP or some other form of benefits under whatever name they want to call it. If you don't that's your business.

We've not engaged on the topic, I was just commenting on your bullying of another poster.

Ad hominem attacks don't bolster your argument.

What you want PIP for is not what PIP is for. Your conditions are manageable. You can drive, work and look after your child. I’m not sure why you would expect to qualify?

@talentedcharisma
Sure thing honey. But your mistaken I think you mean how I was talking to another poster and your 'friend' who I have apprently bullied decided to comment to me and explain PIP to me in a condescending way. That poster felt the need to comment and now so have you so not quite sure I'm the bully in this situation. Nice try though

I don't have a 'friend' on here.

Your communication would be much more effective if you just made your point instead of patronising posters, but I appreciate that we're not all equal on here in terms of communication skills.

@talentedcharisma
Sorry my English isn't up to scratch. It's not my first language nor is it my second. How distasteful of you. I wonder how many languages you speak? I'll go first 9. Well I thought I did apparently it's 8 plus a little bit of English according to you.

16% of people receiving PIP do work so that’s simply not true and perpetuates the myth that PIP will not be awarded if you work. I receive PIP and work full time but my disabilities don’t prevent me working with adjustments