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Following Ms Dynamo's wonderful news of her pregnancy and all the rest of us who are coming out of the woodwork ...a new, morale-boosting thread for those of us in our 40s currently going through pregnancy.

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Thanks ipanemagirl

Did wahwah say what she's named her LO btw and I just missed it in the post?

Ok, just spoke to diabetic clinic person and I'm going up to 18 units - 10 AM and 8 PM. Have to ring them Friday with my inbetween results and depending on what they are, they're gonna bump me up (again) and start me on the fast acting insulin. I wonder if that means twice as many injections? Really hope not as legs are resembling teabags already.

Just off to enjoy my carrots and peas on toast. Don't ask

hedgepig hope you're having a fab day off and putting your feet up! Lovely weather for it too

yes! I have tided up the pile of papaer work that was about 3 months old so I can have a look at mumsnet again
johnworf try not to get obsessed about the injections although it must be tough. My boss who has been a diabetic since she was 11 is very philosophical about it working on the principle that she would be dead if she didn't do it. at least with gestational db you can see an end to it. You should actually get better control with a mix of long acting and quick acting insulin.

Yeah I'm ok about it all really hedgepig. Like your boss, I think you just become resigned to the fact you have to do it. Otherwise I suppose it'd be detrimental to the health of both myself and the LO so there we go...no contest!!

The pram I really wanted to get is not on offer anymore and thus, is another £200 more expensive. I did want to buy it but DH wanted to hold off for a few weeks until nearer to the birth and now it's gone - see source of row on previous post.

Now it's back to the drawing board and researching more prams. Actually it's not a chore as I'm such a crashing bore, I loves it

He thinks we buy some old crappy plastic thingy that'll last 2 minutes and doesn't lie flat...I'm thinking classic chassis pushchair or a Bugaboo Chameleon but mixed reviews on the latter so dunno yet.

how disappointing it is not on offer anymore. I notice you are having a cs, I had one last time and found my 3 wheeler (which I like a lot and will use this time) was too heavy for me to lift into the boot even after the 1st 6 weeks when it was OK to drive. So I would look at the weight of anything you buy if you are going to be having to put the buggy in and out of the car a lot. I'm planning for a VBAC this time but I'm thinking about a light weight buggy thing suitable from birth just in case I have a cs again. As you can see from the "buggy thing" description I have done no research at all!!

Yes, on my travels around pram shops, I've noticed that weights do really vary. I have given it a little thought in that I won't be able to lift for (I think it's) 6 weeks. So the lighter the better. TBH a lot of pushchairs I've found and tried are quite heavy.

More research needed methinks. I can already see DH slapping his forehead and exclaiming 'oh no, not again'

There is an actual thread somewhere on here about worlds ugliest prams with links and pics! I was LOL at it. Have a look and see if you can find it if you have time. I especially loved the 'swivelling commode'.

Good luck with your VBAC. I'm sure you'll be fine but if things look a bit worrying, they'll give you a section won't they? At least you know what you're letting yourself in for. Getting LO out through the 'sun roof' is a whole new experience for me

Gosh - what a barking, hormonal lot we are! I don't remember being this bad last time round!

johnworf I can put a good word in for the bugaboo Chameleon I'm going to be sad to see it off the road....nice to handle and although you have to separate the seat from the wheels...it makes it much lighter to get in and out of car. I couldn't lift some of the umbrella fold ones once they were down. And I had a c-section, so found it fine after the 6 weeks.

Was so happy this morning that the skip in our back garden was going....but it's being replaced by another one.... There is just soooo much stuff - but that's the price I pay for getting a nice kitchen I suppose. All I want to do is nest and clean but no way with all the sawdust and bits of wood everywhere!
If we were burgled I reckon it'd take about a week for us to notice...

johnworf I have no idea what I am letting myself in for. Briefly I got to 40 weeks last time then ds movements stopped being "normal" i went in for a check to find he was an un-recognized breech and I had no amniotic fluid (I have no idea where it went) so they whipped him out that afternoon. I have never had a contraction so I have no idea whet to expect. although medically it was the right thing to do I still have very negative feelings about the whole experience, but I have have been positive and made an appointment to see the midwife counsellor after 1/2 term to see if I can get my head straight over this before this LO comes.
So we are both going to have a new experience this year, I hope it is good for us both.

hedgepig I will most def second that emotion!

How did they not recognise a breech? Seems crazy in this day and age to not notice. Can't really describe labour and all it's aches and pains. Like describing toothache. Plus I suppose everyone is different too. Only advice I can give is breathe and try and relax through your contractions. Don't fight it and it'll be over much sooner. It worked for me

jeanjeannie I've decided that yet another trip to Mothercare is required so I'm going to get them to take the Bugaboo Chameleon off it's stand and test drive it. Only worry I have with it is the carrycot seems a bit low down and not sure if I'll be up to bending after a CS? What was your experience after yours?

Been there, done that with the kitchen - last year. I was ready for committing myself. We had bathroom done at the same time. Theory being the house would be upside down only once....no loo and no cooker does not make johnworf a happy girly. Still, that's in the past now and we all sit around and laugh about it now.........NOT!

Good luck with it

Hello everyone.
I'm back 'daan saaaf Lundun'. Had a lovely weekend but tiring and today been super housewife washing and putting away and tidying and all that and just feel pooped. Just read all your messages - so much to catch up on.
msdynamo I've been gardening and wore gloves which were useless (Tesco own brand - should have known better) and mud seeped onto my fingers and I just had to scrub wildly. Slightly concerned but basically nothing I can do about it now. Just be careful.
hedgepig Let me tell you. Contractions hurt. No, that's wrong. They HUUUUUURRRRRRT Seriously though, the pain is unimaginable but, I don't know, you just do it. Just when you think you can't go any more you do. Something sort of basic and deep inside takes over and you can stand it. Let your body deal with it and you'll be ok. We are designed for it, after all.

Thanks pwcbird I sometimes think i am mad wanting to know what labour feels like but it is part of the process I missed last time if that makes some sense.
johnwolf how was a breech missed I have no idea but there was a spate of them in my area of the time at least 2 others due the same week as me this is one of the things I want to talk to the mw counsellor about when i see her it just makes no sense.

WB pwcbird. Glad to see you're back darn darf. Did you change your money over at the Watford Gap and surrender your bounty of whippets and black puddings?

hedgepig lord only knows how you can get feet mixed up with a head! I could do better than that and I'm def not a midwife Hope you find some answers with the counsellor

Good on you hedgepig giving a vbac a whirl. Braver than me. But I did experience a bit of labour (8-9 hours) and it blinkin hurt....but sort of like a more direct strong period pain. Then it all went a bit Pete Tong and had Emerg c-sec. I had a de-briefing with head of midwifery at my hospital 2 weeks ago to go through my appalling after-care....it really, really helped....AND they owned up to a lot of mistakes

pwcbird hope 'sarf London' was nice & sunny for your arrival back. Oooo, I do occasionally miss a bit of SE London life.

mrsjupiter is everything alright where you are? Did you feel the quake?

Hi everyone
just checking in to see recent news - not been on this weekend so loads to catch up on! Been laughing my socks off about the hormone rows or 'hormone wars' as they are called in our house now haha happy to see I'm not the only mad moo oops sorry just better take that kitchen knife out of DH's back - bless him poor love.

Wahwah wow many many congratulations to you honey - well done so pleased for you.

Hey Johnworf what's all this about whippets and black pudding up North? I'm off to 'groom' my spaniel and eat some choccie pudding lol.

How have you all been coping with the heat? I slept surrounded by fans last night so had a nice cool sleep - woke up dreaming I was flying an aeroplane with huge propellers - the sub-conscious mind hey?

Still got my bloomin' awful headache been rotten most of weekend Used to suffer from migraines a few years back so wondering if it's a resurrection? Off memory very similar and my light sensitivity is not great at the moment with same old nausea as I've had for the last 7 weeks or so. not much fun at the moment - still waiting for my pregnancy bloom to kick in!!! Talking of which has anyone noticed an increase in dark patches of pigmentation on your face - the lovely sounding 'pregnancy mask'? I had minor pigmentation BP (before preggers) but I seem to have picked up a lot of it in recent weeks with no sun exposure....anyone else?

JW - also love Katherine btw but also love Gaia - I'll share my name thoughts after 20 wk scan next week if anyone is interested ;)

Just going to change the subject for a mo and have a quick grouch: saw Mum today and though I'd told her about my decision to have a cvs (in a weeks time) with the scan, which at the time she was all in favour of and told me she thought it was the right thign to do, I don't think she really realised what it was and today, having talked to someone, understood more. She was completely 'oh I shan't sleep for anxiety over it.... oh I am so so so so worried about you having it....WHY are you having it?, oh this is such a worry' etc etc. Now, this isn't a debate about why I'm having it as we've done that before on here I just want to ask the question to you ladies about if any of you find that your nearest and dearest, who you know will always be there for you, but sometimes when you'd like them to be supportive and calm and full of positive vibes actually make you more anxious than you were in the first place? I feel I'm going to have a week of her building me up into some kind of frenzy of anguish over it. Just like to say Mum and I are v. close and friendly - have a very good relationship. Why am I 40 and still feel like a little girl with my mum?

Anyway - grouch over.

Question 2 - being true Brits - when are we allowed to start moaning about the hot weather and being pregnant??

oh yes and very naughty of me to forget wahwah muchos congratulations! Terrific news. babycakes26 it's down to me going up north for the weekend to visit the in-laws so johnworf was teasing me.

I'll join your moan pwcbird can;t stand the heat at the moment - petrified how i am going to cope in high summer when i will be much bigger

You mum is probably just voicing her concerns out loud to you - mine does it all the time as if it makes her feel better (in a non-selfish way - it just comes out) - she sometimes panics me more than she calms me so I tend to limit the info I pass to her now despite being very close to my mum and dad too. Also I think scans, tests etc are all a bit too much for my mum's generation to cope with as they didn't experience them - I presume your mum is the same? You're not being a grouch by the way - I can completely relte to this having discussed my high risk NT results with my parents at length - good luck by the way - what day are you having it?

pwcbird oh complete sympathy over your Mum I have had this since I told them I was pregnant. One of the things I had got months is "I don't know how we will cope" We don't have to cope I do There have been a continuous list of worries she has anyone would think it was her pregnant not me. Latest one is when You have moved up north what happens if something happens cos she wont be able to just drop everything and get there. She already told me she would not be able to with me living under 2 hours away and I don't have a problem with that this is my baby and my choice. But the point is I am moving 5 mins from my best friend who is more like a sister. I went up to her when she had her first, she has sorted it so she is not working nights immediately after I am due. I am hardly going to be on my own.

Think Mums just have to worry about something. Mine certainly does not sure she would be happy unless she was worrying.

Thanks babycakes26 and kaz1967. I know she is just concerned really and as you say, it's hard for them to understand it as they didn't have it in their day. Mums like to worry. I worry about DS and of course it never stops. And of course better to have a mum that worries than one who didn't care. I'm just a bit tired today and sure after a nights sleep I'll be brand new, as they say.

Oh I love Waking the Dead. DH finds it so gruesome but I totally am addicted. If one can say that a scary murder cheered me up, then, well, I have to say it did!

im afraid to say i just cant imagine my mum either supporting me or against me or just plain even talking to me ive no idea where she is but i guess pwcbird is right better to have one who worries than didnt care

but on the other hand im a mum and my daughter is pregnant it just so happens we are pregnant together very weird for me at first
now all we talk about is babies we are having a scan next monday my 31 wk one and her 12 wk one then we toddle over to ante natal together my DH will be there and her partner
shes glad i understand it all as im going through it so i guess we are very supportive of each other
we baby shop together and im handing down al my maternity clothes to her
its not very conventional as im not nagging her or telling her not what to eat or worrying at all really
but it works well

On the subject of mums, I have a perfect set up with mine; I very rarely see her. It's a mutual thing. She's not bothered and neither am I. I do however miss my mother-in-law who died a few months ago.

I guess it's down to being a mum however old your child is..you just never stop worrying about them pwcbird she's just showing she cares about you that's all. Take it with a large pinch of salt and tell her that you're fine now you're a grown up girl
With regards to the CVS hope all goes well with it - which I'm sure it will.

Hot weather . Not been too bad here as there's been a light breeze accompanying it. As for sleeping, I've replaced duvet with a lovely cotton top sheet which seems to be sufficient. Even DH commented on it (blimey, must be good). I have however got a bit of a (sweat?) rash under my boobs. It itches like crazy so have DH smothering my them in sudocrem He's getting his cheap thrill outta my pain. B*$tard!!!

We're off to Cornwall in a week or so for a half term with DSS. They're taking their bikes and I'm taking the comfiest deck chair I can find and a pile of Philip Pullman books. I plan on doing sweet fanny adams - so looking forward to it.

johnworf that sounds lovely - Cornwall. Let's hope the weather stays. I went to Cornwall for a week a few years ago and it rained every day
We've booked to go to Spain on 30th May for 2 weeks - all being well with the scan etc. It's the only time we can fit a holiday in and don't think there'll be another one for the forseeable future. I used to read all the time but since DS haven't read a book. I'm determined this holiday though.

As for Mums - just to finish off - I know I'm very lucky really as she's very supportive. She'll always probably see me as her little girl - I was the youngest etc etc.

Off to the shops in the glaring heat today.

disneystar you sound like you have a great relationship with your daughter - just as it should be. How weird and fab you both being pregnant together. You're going to be a new mum and a grandmother all at the same time!(which of course you didn't realise until I just said that now!!! )

i tried to book a week away in miami but virgin woudnt let me fly

i guess il have to wait till october when we are next scheduled to go back
well he goes to georgia i go to miami
thats a good deal while he works i sunbathe

cornwall is lovely i have a caravan there and i havnt managed to go in a year we are up in bude the beaches are lovely and i think cornwall is a tranquil place bit a bit of peace
johnworf that rash is something i get drives u nuts doeant it and i also found sudocrem good to