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Following Ms Dynamo's wonderful news of her pregnancy and all the rest of us who are coming out of the woodwork ...a new, morale-boosting thread for those of us in our 40s currently going through pregnancy.

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mrsjupiter I too find it hard to believe I am pregnant it's taken so long for it to happen and I am now 30 weeks not only really looking pregnant but also getting tummy trembling kicks from time to time.

babycakes please take care hun you have protein in your urine and headaches as well as the high BP. When are you having it checked again? Can the midwife come to you an check it you may find it is lower at home. It is fairly common in pregnancy but with the other too symptoms I think you need to be a little more cautious. Don't want to scare you but please read this on Pre-eclampsia it's honestly not worth taking the risk over although it is horrid having time in hospital this is the one thing that would have me in and behaving even to the ward I hate We lost a Mum years back through it her BP was a lot higher than yours and she had been in hospital on strict bed rest and was desperate to go and spend the afternoon of her daughters birthday at home

White coat hypertension will usually raise the upper figure rarely the lover figure (although it can because mine goes up when I have a consultant appointment)

I refuse to read any posts that mention boobs you smaller ladies do not realise how lucky you are I have been in a 40L since 12 weeks and they don't make them any bigger unless you have them made

Well just cancelled my GTT again the midwife never got back to me about what to get other than lucusade (local chemists being useless) I forgot I was not supposed to be eating and had the usual snack at 4am. I had a chat with the nurse (and a nurse friend couple of weeks ago) and have made up my mind just because it is part of the protocol for us women who have a raised BMI is not a good enough reason to be put through feeling crap all day (because I will if I don't eat 2-4 hourly). Got a consultant appointment on Monday an going to make a real pain of myself they want me to have it they are going to have to do some proper convincing and give me the bloody research which proves it is needed.

Hi all
My bloods came back from hospital today all OK nothing showing. My weewee test is apparently showing raised white cells however which could be an infection so got to drop in another sample. BP seems to have lowered a bit in last few days as I have been resting although still got awful headache Back to see MW on Tuesday morning to get BP checked again but better to be safe. Thanks for the link Kaz. Apparently my urine is only showing a trace of protein at this point so fingers crossed.

And as for boobies - mine are a big and buxon 36E at the moment according to my latest bra fitting and growing....sure I'll fail the pencil test though as not much perkiness going on with these lovely maternity bras haha

kaz1967 are you having the GTT as they've found glucose in your urine already?

If you have, I do advise you to have it done. It showed up in mine at 16 weeks and I've just had my insulin increased again (twice in 3 days). It's def worth keeping an eye on it.

Glad to hear that it might just be an infection babycakes and nothing too sinister. Not sure how many weeks you are but I had terrible headaches between 12 and 19 weeks. Just hormonal I think (high b/p rarely displays itself as a headache, it's a myth).

As for boobs, you ladies are def out of my league with those huge milk machines . I feel very inferior now with my 40D's

Just chuckling away to myself on the boobs conversation.....at least our DH's aren't bothered (or are they? Mine hasn't mentioned anything but he's glad of any sexual attention at the moment after starving for months!)

Welcome to the north pwcbird. Did you bring grey clouds with you from down there in the south?

haha Johnworf you just made me chuckle with your 40Ds lol - Your LO is in for a treat

I am 19 weeks tomorrow so I guess the blooming awful headaches could be hormonal - not had any before the last week so lucky I suppose.

I'm in the North too - not much blue sky around today to welcome you pwcbird

Hope you have a relaxing weekend all - off to treat DH to some much needed 'attention' hahaha - if he's lucky!

johnworf No never had glucose in urine or any of the other reasons for having GTT on the leaflet such as family history, large baby, excess amniotic fluid the only reason they wanted me to have one is my weight. Checked my blood sugar last week (I had sticks and was testing for a while mine drops does not go high checked it was still in date) and it was 3.6 in the morning after having my normal morning snack 3 hours before and 4.5 pre supper and had had snack 2 hours before so hardly high. If there becomes a clinical reason for having one fine I will have it done, but not eating makes me feel really really unwell, add that to having a large dose of sugar in one shot my blood sugar will plummet (because it always has since I was 13) I will feel sick and be unwell for a couple of days. I do not do well being told because like you would a child. If they wan me to have this then they will have to give me the research to read and assess for myself. Ok maybe not something everyone wants to do but I am an ex nurse and very used to reading and assessing research. It irritates me that I am being treated one way just because with no rather than being treated as an individual. It was the same attitude I had at the first consultant appointment when I was told they would get a epidural in as soon as I got into hospital. I don't bloody want one unless I feel the need for the pain relief of that sort I have a chronic back problem the last thing I need is to be confined to bed for any reason.

Blimey kaz2967 they seem very bossy at your hospital. I'd tell them to eff right off if they were telling me I'd 'have' to have an epidural. What happened to birth plans?

Your blood sugars seem fine to me and well within the normal limits for before and after food.

I'm now on 8 units of insulin AM and 6 units PM. It seems that now I've hit 22 weeks then I'm told, that 23 weeks is the time when it starts to escalate. They've said I'll prolly be put on both the long and fast acting (so I'll be on two lots) insulin soon.

I really do feel like a pin cushion right now; fingers and legs. I've been advised by the MW to start injecting into my tum but can't do it cos of baby...it's only psychological tho..nowhere near the LO.

I really do hope that you get what you want for both your pregnancy and your birth

Hello all,
Babycakes26 - glad to hear things are settling down. I have just had a similar situation, but more pleasant. My BP was up on Wednesday morning (I'm 20w) and the GP said to go to antenatal on Thursday morning. They kept me in and I finally was let out today at 5pm. I actually enjoyed my time in there. It was nice to relax and be fussed over. They have doubled my Methyldopa and that has brought my BP down. I have to go back next week.
It was good to hear baby's heartbeat several times while I was there and he seems fine.
Babycakes - your BP doesn't sound high to me. Maybe it depends on what it was before. Mine is usually a bit high.

gawd...poor old johnworf and kaz1967 you two really are going through it. Don't know how you're dealing with it all - in addition to just being preggy... Hats off to both of you.

And babycakes - pleased things are looking better....not too much 'attention' for DH now...remember your BP

Am having stange hormonal rush....one minute I'm all needy and next wanting to kill DP...poor lamb. Saw midwife and head has engaged....not comfy!

Want to start scrubbing everything....but once on hands & knees I've no hope of getting back up again Had a teeny noggin of red wine last night....and I actually feel hungover!....literally half a glass....what a wuss!

Enjoy the weekend girls x

morning ladies. Only get chance to check computer in the morning. Yesterday had a bbq and it didn't light so we had to grill everything. Today we have planned a picnic and it's currently raining. My sojourn to Lancashire land is not is so far not working weather wise - but keeping the faith that the sun will shine later.
Worse still had some kind of hormonal explosion yesterday and spent the day wanting to weep for no reason whatsoever.
johnworf kaz1967 and babycakes you all relax this weekend and chill. Ta-ra chucks (as they say up here..... am I being too regionalistic-????) xx-

Hello girls. Am back from a few sunny days in Somerset. It was lovely. But now am feeling really depressed. Had a stupid argument with BF last night. He's really annoying me at the moment. I am so irritable all the time. At the moment I keep having phases of wanting to be on my own and not have a man around. I wonder if there's something wrong with me? Emotionally and financially it would be a disaster for me to end up a single mum.

Hehe...I love all the hormones flying around in here I wanted to kill my poor DH until I was around 16 weeks, then I loved him more than anything. He calls me a witch! And I most probably am!

jeanjeannie I'm definately in nesting mode although not as much as you it seems. I went on a big buying stuff for baby shopping trip on Thursday - I HAD to as I explained to DH. This child will have far too many clothes to wear in 0-3 months...ah well I enjoyed it

Now I am writing lists of things I NEED to get. DH thinks I should wait until 30 weeks but no, I have to get it now in case 'something happens'. What? I have no idea.

As for the house, I just want to knock it down and start again. Already bought a new suite (yes, the baby needed it), and in the process of getting the decorators in. Oh and the garden needs digging up and starting over again...you get the picture girls and I'm sure you're on my wavelength

pwcbird it was lovely here OOP North until Friday...dunno what happened to the lovely sunshine

Was up at 5.30 am today to take DD and her B/f to the airport for their week in the states. Yes, I shed a tear after we dropped them off....she's only a baby at 22.

msdynamo the mood will pass honestly. Now, back away from that bread knife !!!!!!

Oh btw jeanjeannie glad head is engaged. Does that mean it won't be long now?

And talking of not being long...anyone heard from didoreth? Wonder if she's had her LO yet?

One last thing (baby brain, sorry), we've finally settled on the only girls name we both agree on which is Gaia. It's pronounced Guy-ah.

The few we've told pull a face at it.

Any thoughts ladies - and I'm not fishing for anything nice, just honesty?

I know it's a little unusual, in this country anyway. But we've already got a surname that we have to spell out anyway.

johnworf - late reply to your question re tumbledrier. i have a clothes horse in the spare room. but think it's to do with upbringing aswell as my mom had 3 of us and no tumble drier! she always said how expensive they were and i try to be a bit green but may give in with little one.

love gaia - really unusual but not wacky which is the sort of name i'm going for.

had my 20 week scan on friday and ended up in the loo in tears they couldnt get baby to move, went for a walk - emptied half my bladder - very difficult!! and still wouldn't move so they then couldnt check the bottom of the spine. now i'm trying to tell myself that it was just the position and that's why i have to go back but what if they spotted something and need to investigate more!?
sure it'll be ok but i was just so excited and left feeling really deflated.

lou222 he/she was probably asleep and nothing more!

I would have thought that if there was a problem they would have told you about it and talked you through it. But I know why you're worrying as I worry about everything myself.

It's just the position your baby was in. Btw my sonographer couldn't get to see my baby's spine properly and I had to roll on my side where he said hopefully the baby would move round. She did in the end but only after he dug that wand thing in my tum to get her to do it! Ouch

Hope at your next scan the LO behaves itself and co-operates!!

Thanks for your comments on Gaia. You're the first to like it up to now

thanks johnworf but i did have to roll about loads, got poked loads and still didnt move!! also the baby was in same position at 12 week scan so now i'm thinking has he/she moved since then ? !!
god so much to worry about and once i'd got passed 12 weeks i'd stopped worrying !
i'm back next friday so will find out then
one friend said if there was a problem they wouldnt have me waiting a week but i just want my mind putting at ease really.
have you thought of a middle name ? i always think it has to go really well with first name.

Evening all.

johnworf I like Gaia very much. Like you we've a last name you have to spell....it's Serbian, so there are some hilarious attempts on the phone with people trying to ask for DP

Names are soooo difficult and so personal. You want people to like it but then again, you really you shouldn't give a stuff! And they change so much - any of you girls with older children noticed the diffent vogue for names now, compared to a few years ago? It changes year on year. I mean i can't imagine back in the 60s/70s anything other than children born with a silver-spoon in their mouths to be called Henry, or Torquil, Isabella or Arabella.....but now they're more common than Paul....or Sarah!

We're awash here in Bucks with Chester, Baxter, Wilf and Monty along with Izzies, Alexa, Beatrice and Violet. DD is Iris....and if it's a boy we're going for Ivan....if it's a girl..... eek PANIC!!!

lou222 I'm sure it's just a wriggler....DD was like that - had to go back - and drink loads - and jump up and down!!

pwcbird hope it's not too grim 'Oop North'....as we say where I'm from 'hey yup me duck....yer, all-ri-yurt?'(hello duck - are you alright?)

msdynamo it's hormones...HONEST! do NOT kill - it'll pass. I've been a real stroppy cow this pregnancy....and I'm usually lovely x

lou222 I really feel for you try not to worry. Your not alone I had the same problem with this little monster on my 20 week scan it was their face they had trouble looking at though they think they saw it all in the end but the horror was lying with it's face firmly tucked behind a fibroid Walk and cold drink did not work for me wither and ended up on my side with the sonographer trying to get the probe down inside my hip bone which bloody hurt and left me with a lovely bruise

Thanks for your reassuring comments, jeanjeannie and johnworf.

All instruments of possible maiming and torture have been put away. I spent the day alone, peaceful, calm, snoozing, and am feeling somewhat better.
From now on, I've decided, the hormones are taking the blame for everything

Morning girls. I'm up and about early again. I really have no excuse as there is nothing to get up early for - everyone is asleep. Perhaps I'm in training for the LO's arrival? Anyone had their bedtime/early morning routine re-arranged now they're pregnant?

Glad you're feeling a little better msdynamo. Ah yes, it's just another of those joyous side effects of pregnancy

jeanjeannie we've got a surname that nothing seems to go with. Myself and DH had a bit chat about names last night as I was working myself up into a real tizz about it all and much as we love the name Gaia we feel that the poor might will end up spelling it for the rest of her life! Seems you're excluded from this if you're a famous pop star/actor. Emma Thompson's daughter is called Gaia and bet she has no trouble! So, as I said, after much deliberation, we've plumped for Katherine. No middle name yet but should be a tad easier methinks

lou666 honestly, I think your friend is right. They'd have you back much sooner than 1 week to check on LO. And I think they'd give you an idea that something was amiss that they were looking for. I know it's easy for me to say as it's not me going back for one, but I think a week is a long time to leave a potential problem - IMHO.

So, today the blood sugars seem to be rising faster than British Gas prices. I phone my weekly results in tomorrow but have a feeling they're gonna increase my insulin again. That'd be 3 times in a week. I just hope she is ok in there and not growing like a weed into some sumo wrestler. Will have to wait another 6 weeks for first sizing scan to find out I suppose

btw, I had a big chat and it's a poor mite.

Now I'm pregnant, I have no control over my hands nor brain it seems

johnworf...are you mad? Good lord, there's no early routine here at 'slob towers'...not at le weekend DP gets up and gives dd her breaky....then I come down and moan at the state of her - as she's usually mashed cereal over her face...as the two of them watch Trans world sport - they were watching Jack Russell hurdling racing this morning..........!!

Now I'm biased towards Katherine....as DD is Iris Katharine.....so I think that's a great choice too

Fingers crossed for the old blood sugars...you'll be turning into an insulin addict.

DD has decided she may give walking a go...in garden yesterday and there she was doing it beautifully Once back in house...totally refuses to get on feet. Are some children just plain lazy??!

PS. DIDORETH.....are you out there??? Any news....anyone know?

jeanjeannie so glad you like Katherine (with a K). I'm trying to be vogue by going all retro! Maybe I'll team it up with 'sharon', 'debbie' and other names of girls in my class of '79.

I like the sound of the set up at your house. I came down this morning to not one, but two nice presents the dog left me in the kitchen.

My two DS's when they were small were still bum shuffling at 18 months! Now it's hard to get them out of bed as teenagers... She'll do it - on her terms in her own time (like all head strong girlies )

And yep, I feel like an addict, sticking needles in my legs. I'm trying to avoid DSS seeing me do it in case he tells his teacher and they think I'm on something stronger . Have to be 1 step ahead in this parenting malarky!

JACK RUSSELL HURDLING??? What channel is that on?