Due February 2025 - Thread 3

[UrbanSquirrel]

Following on from the two existing threads, welcoming all the intrepid ladies due in February, for further excellent support 🤗

Ditto for Frugi leggings. I bought a second pair over the summer and have decided this is what I am going to live in for the next 5 months. Might get some leg warmers when it gets very cold. 😁

I do prefer clothes with a summer baby. Last time I had a July baby, so I didn't buy much maternity winter wear, and over the summer I lived in maternity summer dresses that showed off my enormous bump. Now I am thinking ahead to autumn and winter - I might just live in over-sized cardigans and see how I get on rather than buy too much. I'm not sure what to do for winter coats.

Same, for our first-born we used a borrowed pram for the first 8 weeks and then discovered slings and carriers which I much preferred. This time we'll see how we get on with just a stretchy ring sling for the first few weeks and change to a carrier later.

@Piluka I'm over the moon for you! Thank you for keeping us posted as well, you've been in my thoughts x

17 weeks today

Had a gender scan and we are over the moon to be having another girl.

This means we will have 2 of each, bought a couple of outfits.

It's all becoming real now 🥰

Morning, so happy about your results @Piluka

Congratulations of all of the gender scans as well 😍 lots of girls I see.

I'm 15 weeks today, and do not feel pregnant at all, my anxiety is creeping up. Anyone feel the same? I thought I had a little bump the other day but now it's vanished. I do have another scan in about 3 weeks but starting to worry a little. My clothes don't fit but thats because I'm eating too much.

Wonder if this anxiety will ever go 🙈

Thanks to all of you who have been worrying and now happy for my good news! Honestly, this group is a blessing! 😊❤️

@herewegoagain123456 i don't feel pregnant either. Just I gain some kg, however last 2 days I started feeling nauseous and this reminded me about it. Not the way you want it.

Btw, anyone of you have started thinking (or already posses) those pregnancy pillows and a belly band? I started to feel quite discomfort while sleeping (I tend to sleep lying on my back and it's not good for pregnancy) and I read the pillows are great for this. Anyone used one before? Or using one now? And the belly bands when should you start wearing one?

Thanks! 😊❤️

@herewegoagain123456
Yep same here, I don't feel anything. I do have a bump as I was pregnant this time last year so my body never really had time to recover.
I'm convinced it's a boy as my symptoms are the opposite to the pregnancy with my little girl

15 weeks tomorrow and you'd never know I was pregnant, so you're not the only ones. Literally just going about business as normal!

@Piluka I love my pregnancy pillow! I have a full body one, and in fact my husband bought me it in-between pregnancies, I never actually had one during one, as I suffer with back pain. It's been so useful though, and I can only imagine it'll be worth it's weight as the preganancy progresses.

@herewegoagain123456 I don't feel anything either, although I have started having dreams of giving birth to various things (only one of them a [Spanish speaking!] baby so far).

The other day I did think, 'wow, I look HUGE/how am I possibly going to get any bigger?' - but then I watched a couple of those bump time lapse videos and re-evaluated my relative size. 😅 I really have no idea what I'm in for.

Less than two weeks until 20 week scan. Just need to keep reminding myself that there's no reason to suspect there's something wrong.

@Lidlisthebusiness which one do you have? I have been looking through amazon and I saw so many that I am not sure which one to get. Any particular brand or shape would you recommend?

I have a pregnancy pillow from when I had my little boy 2 years ago.
I actually need to find it out as my sleep is dreadful and I'm getting awful restless legs at night.

I don't feel pregnant at all. Not had any movements if I'm honest and I thought I would with this being my 4th.

I feared the worst before my scan yesterday and everything's perfect.

The sonographer showed us every part of the baby and said that it all looks good.

I haven't really put on much weight in terms of numbers but my ass and legs are much bigger, which is annoying as they were big to start with.

I'm really not liking my body at the minute, I'm not feeling comfortable or look nice in anything.
Finally found some decent bras though which is a positive.

I have the fat bump at the minute, the one where you can't actually tell I'm pregnant 😫

Really want to get back into running but my energy is non existent due to having epilepsy as well.

Sorry for the long post, I don't really have anyone to rant to about how I actually feel as I'm usually so positive x

I feel very strange in my body too, I know I’m pregnant but I still just feel fat and bloated!

What bras did you go for? I have enormous boobs now and need comfort!

My friend recommended a b b hug me, she’s using it as a feeding pillow now too and highly recommends. It’s on sale on boots, £130. Expensive but she’s used it everyday since 16w pregnant and her baby is almost 6 weeks and it’s still going strong!

@Piluka this is very similar to the one I have, same shape and size. I love it!

Pregnancy Pillow for Sleeping, 53in 100% Cotton G-Shape Maternity pillow with Velvet Cover, Detachable & Washable Full Body Pillow for Pregnant Women, Support for Back, Legs, Belly, Hip - Grey amzn.eu/d/758p9NE Pillow

@orangeslices998 yep, that's how I feel 😪
I got the bras through a link on Facebook. They are nursing bras. They were from mumifiq
Shipped from abroad, they was a good deal. I got 3 bras and they worked out at £13 each.

Lightly padded and apparently leak proof.

I've not got massive boob's but they are really comfy x

I’ve been silently watching for a while just keeping up to date with all of your posts and not posted anything 🫣

We had our gender scan today and it’s most definitely a little boy 😆

Congrats to all who have also had their gender scans, time is passing by so quickly I feel like it’s been 2 minutes since I first posted at 5 weeks 😯

Ah fantastic news! So happy for you!

I’m still breastfeeding my toddler too. It became really painful weeks ago but I’ve persevered. I’m really strict on getting a good latch and no nursing gymnastics as it’s too sore otherwise! Grit my teeth at the start and it gets a bit easier after that.

Has anyone else felt movement? I’ve just started to at 16 weeks, very exciting.

I'm so sorry you've been feeling anxious but I was just coming on here to say the same thing! If it's any consolation! I'm 15 weeks as well.

Idk about you but I actually feel like the anxiety has only really come on in the last week. I've gone back to work (as a teacher) and I feel like my body is being pushed/restricted in ways it wasn't over summer, things like bathroom access, lifting book boxes which I've now been told not to do, being told to walk around class all the time and playground duty. I'm worried about secondary kids bumping into me.

And I've had a couple of scary pains that were potentially from not drinking enough water, one was abdominal pain when I sat up suddenly from lying down and was like 3 contractions, then went. We got checked out and a scan and everything was fine the next day. Then I had some stabbing chest pain after my first teaching day, my heart rate was about 110bpm I think then the pain went away, and from googling it seemed like it could have been me under-drinking to be able to need the bathroom less.

I think it's normal not to show until 16-20 weeks isn't it? I'm starting to show a little now with a small bump you can see in really fitted clothes. We've told more people and I'm nearing the point where it will be visible even to people I don't want to discuss it with (eg my students!). I've also finally seemingly got past the nausea and vomiting and food aversions. So it's seeming a lot more real but also I don't have the comfort of thinking the baby probably is okay because I still feel like shit today.

We'd like to go for a private gender scan soon, I want to wait since our last one was at 13 almost 14 weeks and I don't want to go too often. But I wish there was more easy reassurance! We've both felt the odd flutter in my stomach but nothing really obvious.

Lastly (sorry it's so long) has anyone felt a bit overwhelmed at the conflicting advice already? I spoke to my best friend who has not had children yet about the anxiety about going back to work etc and she brought up my rough plan to give birth in a highly rated birth centre rather than in one of my local hospitals which are rated worse for maternity outcomes and asking if I'd considered if something went wrong and being near a doctor. I've made clear I could only do it if I end up being low risk and my medical team encourages it, and I'm prepared for a hospital birth if I'm anything but low risk but it just felt like it was adding to the worry about something that's relatively far away, can't be decided yet and happens to be something I actually felt okay about atm. I would also like to know when the anxiety starts to reduce but I sympathise in the meantime! Hope you're okay today.

@GodspeedJune same here, it’s almost like she’s a newborn again with the pain at the start! We’re only on a few feeds a day now so I’m powering through but my goodness it’s not comfy is it! Hopefully this at least means when the new babies are born, breastfeeding won’t hurt then haha!

retrievermum I knew breastfeeding took dedication but breastfeeding during pregnancy definitely feels like next level dedication 🙈 I saw some ladies in the extended feeding group on FB say that the soreness eased off after the first trimester, no such luck here! Yes definitely can’t wait for the hormonal switch and getting back to non painful feeds! Apparently toddlers are very helpful with engorgement so at least there is a silver lining 🙌🏼

@Piluka someone recommended the dream genii pillow it's £35 on Amazon. I like it, it's not too big and does help me to stay on my side. Although I do miss sleeping on my back and front!

I'm almost 18 weeks and still not really felt any movement. I'm glad that I was told at my ultrasound my placenta is at the front which might mean I won't feel movement until around 20 weeks, but still can't help but worry. Hoping I start to feel the little movements soon!

@ridl14 I'm also back to work as a secondary school teacher this week and not looking forward to it. It's always such a busy term, but hopefully your colleagues can help out if you need an extra toilet trip. If you're struggling, it's good to let your line manager know as they should be trying to support you. Hope you feel better soon x

Yea mine has only been in the last week too. I just don't feel pregnant just fat and bloated.
But then yesterday what I thought was a bump just disappeared after a 💩 so now I'm worried it's stopped growing in there.

Yea work is not enjoyable ATM, I'm trying not to tell people until 20 weeks, mainly because I'm a beauty therapist and the tedious conversations annoy me.
I'm anxious about them not coming back to me after maternity too.
Whether I can afford to have much time off as self employed.
Just not very enjoyable ATM.

Also another one ...I'm super sensitive about my fiance doing stuff without me, anyone else? Like cos now I can't do much and he's still playing rugby (I used to play) I'm so jealous and annoyed at him.

Rollercoaster ATM

I would in the loveliest way not take advice from someone who isn’t a medical processional and doesn’t have kids. A midwife led unit is a safe place for women experiencing low risk pregnancy and birth, and your choices are YOURS and based on your intuition and guidance from medical professionals. I got a lot of peoples opinions thrown at me when we planned a homebirth for my 2nd, but I knew all was well & that it was riskier to try to get to the obstetric unit and risk birthing en route than staying at home and having the highly trained midwives come to me! I had all the equipment they could need at my house, but we didn’t need any of it! And I didn’t birth in my car which was my big big fear.

All that to say, you don’t need to justify your choices to anyone. Your friend is obviously concerned for you because she cares, but your pregnancy and birth is yours.