Due July 2024 - part 5

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Starting a new thread as the old one is filling up.

Many of our July babies have already arrived, hopefully the rest make their arrival soon 🩵🩷

@MixedCouple2 The worst part of this nonsense is he kept telling me how important family is to him. He fell out with his adult DS when he divorced his exW, and now he's treating my little boy shabbily. He's not on the birth certificate, so I have all PR, and reading some of the threads on here about useless husbands I feel glad it's just me and DS. (My exH was a useless cock lodger so I know how that feels.) I had to tell him how to change a nappy in the hospital FFS! I'd only just learnt that myself. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think it was a cyst or a boil or something like that. The wound hadn't reopened, it was a separate lump very close to but not on the wound. It hasn't done anything since, thank goodness.

Yup! Me and my mum have our theories about why it's getting more and more common, but it's good it's getting diagnosed more so more people can be helped.

Your two little boys sound so sweet. 🥰

@ExpectantEs Thank you. 😊 And I will do!

According to my friend's scales, DS has only put on 3lbs in three months? But 14lbs is the average weight of a three month old boy, according to Google, so I don't know.

@ExpectantEs good to hear from you and that all is going well for you both! I agree DS2 is so easy breezy and I literally put him in the carrier and go out and he is happy as long as he is close to me. I will miss these months so much.
With DS1 we had awful sleep from day 2 until he was 2 years old. I never knew or understood any regressions as his sleep was awful permenantly! So nothing was abnormal to me 😂😭
I hope DS2 keeps sleeping well. He is great as he set his own routine and we follow it. He starts the day at a set time and he tells me when he done for the day and it is alqays the same time.

Has anyone ateiggled with the clocks going back?

@MixedCouple2 I had a bit of trouble yesterday but DS seems to have adjusted to it today, which I wasn't expecting!

@SapphireSeptember DS2 has adjusted now but DS1 woke up at 6am. My DH deals with toddler while i deal with baby so wasnt my problem 😂 DH gets him ready and takes him downstairs to play while I sleep an extra hour. I refuse to wake up before 7am 😂

Have 2 sick babies here. I got it first from the toddler play group. We were all very sick over the weekend and still not budged. DS1 is super lethargic and whingy and DS2 is very needy. He is happy and content but needs to be held and comforted. He has been nursing for comfort loads in the day. He geta frustrated when milk squirts out.

@SapphireSeptember wow he does sound like a right piece of work! Were you aware of his past relationships and thr status of his first son?

Glad it isn't anything serious. But be careful boils/cysts can turn ugly and need drainage and antibiotics.

Please share your theories. I have friends who speculate a few things. Also have family friend who is a dental therapist for disabled children and children on the spectrum and she hears it often from the parents that for them they truely saw the change right after immunizations.

HV should be visiting soon 3 months so they can check it and compare. But yeah that doesn't sound right.

DS was last weighed at 8 weeks he was 13lbs 13oz and his next apt is at 13 weeks - next week. Curious to know as he is starting to outgrow 3-6 month old clothing. He is super tall and there is no room in his Moses basket any more and his changing mat he fills it up head to toe so we use a large travel changing mat instead now.

My 3 year old has hit threenanger stage and he has became a nightmare overnight. We missed terrible twos so now accumilated at age 3 with this threenager stage. 😭

@MixedCouple2 Yes, I knew about him falling out with his son a few years ago.

I think it's an ingrown hair. Had another thing come up and pop the other day. There's a few of them now and they look like ingrown hairs, although I can't see them properly.

We think genetics (it runs in my family), a higher paced life making it more obvious, (would have been different back when people worked in fields or cottage industries) and the nuclear age being a part of it, with the amount of radiation that's been released over the years. There's also birth injuries that occur to the baby as it's born, that are put under the umbrella of autism but could well be completely separate, they just share similar traits.

Oh no! Good luck with your threenager! 😱 Hope your little ones are feeling better!

Mine grew out of his Moses basket about two months ago! He's a long baby. He's also chubby and happy and developing normally. Still think gestational diabetes has an awful lot to do with it, but I was never diagnosed with it.

Hope everyone is doing ok. 🩷 Wow we’re all around the four month mark!!

my little one still has reflux and it still causes lots of wakes at night and I’m still not getting much night time sleep. So little that I ended up getting shingles 🤕 I wish we could have afforded an osteopath, seemed to help others ☺️
my daughter is SO smiley so makes it all worth it.. working on her giggle too!
@MixedCouple2 im glad your second is still sleeping well 🙏🙏wahoo!!

@Jess725 Indeed we are. My little boy is attempting to roll and is getting good at holding his head up, especially when he's on his tummy. He's decided he likes fleecy blankets, especially to chew on, and when he goes for a nap he likes to put them over his face. (He naps in the living room where I can keep an eye on him, and I watch him until he's asleep and pull the blanket down.) At nighttime he's in a sleeping bag so he can't pull it up!

@SapphireSeptember ouch DH at sounds painful I hope the ingrown hairs have reaopved. I know they can be pretty uncomfortable. How are you doing and how is the little one?

That makes sense if it runs in the family it is more likely to occur.

Toddler has settled a bit but we have had flu and he managed to catch Oral Thrush past weeks which was worse then any sickness he has ever had. He stopped eating for 3 days and barely had water. Drs were useless and we had to go Private.
Baby is 4 months and 3 weeks he has outgrown 6-9 months. So we are using 9-12 months now. He is still on 98th centile for height and weight.
I had lots of blood tests and they were fine not GD and no other issues. It can be very normal.

Has anyone hit the 4 month sleep regression? Baby boy was sleeping through the night then 2 weeks ago bam! Very unsettled and wants cuddles a lot at night. Takes 3 attemots to get him down in bed and then he wakes up every 2 hours all night. I was truly spoikt first 3 months!!! 😭 his naps are awful at the moment. But I know it will pass soon.... Hopefully.

He is rolling onto his side and rolls back. I encourage him with toys on either side or my phone, but not quiet there yet the HV said chubbier babies take longer as more weight 😂 he laughs so much and he is still super chill other then his sleep.
At least my toddler and him are bonding it is so nice to see them interact and "play".

@Jess725 sorry to hear silent reflux is still affect your little one. How are things now?
Oh no not shingles you are very run down be careful flu is going around. Hope you are feeling better.

Hope everyone has a lovely peaceful holidays.

@MixedCouple2 We're doing alright! DS's first Christmas was lovely. We spent it at my friend's house and I think he had a nice time (he was smiley, giggly and chatty all day!) My mum got him an elf babygrow so he wore that until he weed on it. 😅 He seems really hungry at the moment and I'm contemplating giving him solids because he's on eight scoops of powder/240ml at the moment and it's insane. He might have a cow's milk protein allergy and is on prescription milk, and I don't get much in one go, so hope his prescription is ready tomorrow because I'm running out. 😭

His dad hasn't contacted us at all since November. Pissing me off. He's missed our son's first Christmas. And last Monday my creepy ex contacted me which I really did not have time for!

DS is six months old today! Can't quite believe it (and still asleep, if you can believe it.)

Hello ladies,

Hope you're all doing well.
DS turned 6 months on the 7th of this month. We just started solids.

I've been good all these months and suddenly, I've been having a lot of issues. Had a really bad fever last week and tested negative for everything. I came out of the fever only to experience the worst dizziness I've ever felt in my life.
I can't take 2 steps without feeling faint.

Anyone else going through something like this a whole 6 months postpartum? I thought I had gotten past the hardest phase physically.

@ceruleansky 💐 Sorry you're feeling so rough. I haven't had anything like that. Have your periods started again? My first thought was severe anemia! Mine started up again in October and they are so heavy now. It's like lochia all over again! (I was always lucky to have light periods.) The result of this is anemia and iron tablets.
If it's nothing like that disregard what I just said, but I hope you get to the bottom of it, whatever it is. ❤️

@SapphireSeptember
Thank you, hon!
No mine haven't started yet. I'm dreading that. I'm sorry to hear that yours have been so bad. I heard the first few cycles after pregnancy can be so rough.
I don't have anemia though, apparently it's just vertigo. Not sure what causes it. Could be lack of sleep, diet, exercise. Although I thought i was doing pretty good..

How are you and how's your little one doing?

@ceruleansky You're welcome. 😊 Glad you know what's going on even if you don't know the root cause just yet. My diet has been rubbish since DS was born, not eating enough and what I do eat is crap. I've put on weight and it's not good!

Yup, they've been rough! The cramping is really painful now, compared to before, although I think that might be LinkedIn to having a c section as well.

I'm doing alright, DS is doing really well! He's had some problems/concerns. Dropped a few centiles and they think he has a cow's milk protein allergy, so he's on special milk formula, (I think I had undiagnosed gestational diabetes and that's why he was so big when he was born.) He's also had an MRI scan because he has such a big head compared to the rest of him, but that was all normal. And he's been seeing a physiotherapist but he's doing really well with that as well.

He's such a happy content baby, sleeps well, very chatty and alert, loves cuddles with his mummy. 😊 He likes sparkly things as well! And fluffy blankets. ❤️ It's such hard work even with an 'easy' baby, but it's worth it.

How's your little one doing?

@SapphireSeptember
I'm a lot better now, it's been diagnosed as BPPV, basically vertigo from an inner ear swelling. No clue how i got that but I did have a cold.

Oh my, I'm not looking forward to that. I wonder when mine will start. Honestly, with the PCOS, it was never regular anyway.

Oh, sorry to hear that.. I was told not to give the baby cow's milk for the first year. Some babies can't digest it apparently.. I'm glad your son is adjusting to the formula..!
Aww poor guy, he sounds like such a cutie. 💗
You're lucky he sleeps well!!

You're right, it is hard even with an easy baby. I'm pretty sure I have an easy baby as well. He's going through something now that he's started rolling over. Sleeps on his belly all the time and when we put him down on his back, he rolls onto his belly and wakes up sometimes. DH spent all of last night on a recliner because baby refused to sleep in his crib.

We've started solids so that's exciting!

@ceruleansky Glad you've found out what's wrong! I hope you're feeling better now. ❤️

DS is eight months old now! This weaning lark is fun. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I feel like it's hard fitting in his milk feeds and his meals around everything else. He's also napping a lot at the moment. The health visitor doesn't want me to drop a bottle yet because of his weight (he dropped from the 99.6th centile to the 25th!) Still think it was gestational diabetes.

Most formula is based on cow's milk, it's just processed in such a way most babies can drink it. Cow's milk itself has too much fat and not enough of the right nutrients for babies. The formula DS is on is fully hydrolysed, which means the milk protein has been completely broken down into amino acids. It tastes disgusting though! Thank you, he's very cute. 😊

Meanwhile I'm starting to feel more like myself. I painted my nails the other day. 😊

I have been told if they roll onto their tummy and fall asleep that way it's fine, as long as they can roll back. When DS was tiny he slept on his front on my tummy, it was the only way I'd get any sleep!

Time has flowen! Hello ladies!

DS is 10 months tomorrow! How is every one dong? Soon approaching the toddler stage! And well be 1 years old.
Whats new with everyone.

My LO is so different my first and I am enjoying seeing the differences and his quirky personality. He is so much more extroverted and out going. He and FEw are play fighting and wrestling already. Getting o each others nerves. Already trouble lol.
He is a massive foody took to food right away. And he dropped a lot of day feeds. On the weekend he had 3 feeds in the day and 2 at night. He would rather eat solids and have water. So dofferent to my first who want bothered with food but always nursed.

He is crawling, pulling himself up, climbing stairs, waving, clapping, woofing like a dog (mimicking me). Loves the outdoors. Super super chill. He doesnt care where he goes as long as he can see me but he barely cries. Again massive difference to my first. Sparation anxiety has hit hard, stranger danger to the max! That's the only time he screams and cries hard.

And omg water baby! He loves the water. We went on holiday and he was loving the pool and sea snd the sand (eating it). Bath times are a nightmare when it ends. He is not happy about that. I will dress him and he crawls fast back to th3 bathtub stands up and grunts and calls for us to put him back in. Such a funny little chappy.
He sleeps fantastic once asleep now noise wakes him up. Which has been great with my noisy 3 year old!

He has attemoted to stand unaided a few times and managed 5 seconds alone. I just can't believe how quickly things have happened. So busy with the eldest i just cant enjoy it fully. We are so happy with our set up we want to add another baby soonish. Me and DH have said to start TTC in a couple cycles.
I would have liked to wait until he is 18 months before TTC again BUT I am 39 soon as yeah not got a lot of time left. If i was 4 years younger I would wait and give a good gap.

Hello @MixedCouple2 ! 😊 DS is 11 months today and can get about really fast, even though he still commando crawls. He likes pulling my books off and shelves and pulling my hair. He can walk across the room while I hold his hands, though hasn't really tried standing up by himself.

Food wise he loves food, but doesn't like chewing! So baby led weaning doesn't really work, although I still try giving him bits and pieces, and spoon feed him so I know he's eaten something. He likes bananas and they're soft enough for him to eat by himself. Took ages to get him to drink water and now he loves it. He makes noises that sound like words.

I feel like I'm preoccupied by day to day things and don't spend enough time playing with him, but then if things don't get done we won't have food or clean clothes or milk bottles/cups and plates and things like that. Need to remember I'm doing everything!

His sperm donor is being an arse. Came to visit us in April, pleading poverty, and was saying he couldn't give me any money for DS. I went to the CMS, so he tried guilt tripping me by talking about suicide, and told me I need to find another man to look after me and DS. (That pissed me off so much. One, I don't want a man in my house, two, when am I supposed to find the time to catch a man? He's told his daughter, who's also pregnant, the same thing, when it turned out the bloke she's been seeing is already married.) That didn't work, so he's decided to deny he's DS's dad and wants a DNA test. Funny how he's got the money for one of those! The company the CMS uses charges over £300! Twat badger!

@SapphireSeptember good to hear from you and about your little boy. I remember being tild by the Dr and HV that boys can be a bit lazy with some things. That's so adorable. I found with ny frist I coukd enjoy time with him by baby wearing. So always had him in a carrier or wrap when i needed to do chores. He would nap there and when awake be babbling and I would often talk to him about what I am doing and hand him a toy or something.

Sorry to hear about the 'sperm donor' dilemma. sigh. Sounds like a right headache and added stress for not reason.
Ummm yeah not his place to tell you to "find another man,. Blooming cheek. Is he implying that he was a man?
100% ignore the sob stories and go ahead with CMS. Someone needs to hold him accountable.
I hope you're doing ok otherwise.

My toddler, well not sure if I call him that anymore, has become such a nightmare. Really getting to the push boundaries stage to the max and thinks he knows better! Already! Wasn't expecting this stage so soon.

@MixedCouple2 Well, DS's first birthday has been and gone, he's nearly 15 months old!

Your DS sounds like mine. 😆 He's getting very cheeky and will cry when I take something off him or stop him from doing something, and sometimes when I lie him down to change his nappy. At first I thought I'd done something to hurt him but nope, he just doesn't like it.

The sperm donor situation has resolved itself. It was a bit of a headache, I had to go to Cambridge (via Uber which was expensive, but I did not trust the buses) to get the DNA test sorted. But the results came in the post yesterday and my ex is 99.9999% likely to be DS's biological father. He had ridiculous theory that because I'm still married to my ex husband but separated (since 2018) my ex husband might have been DS's father. Idiot man. But he's been paying child maintenance the whole way through and wasted over £300 on this test, because it has to be done by a specific company that the CMS approves. A fool and his money are soon parted. Although it might not have been his money, if he's as skint as he says he is.

We're doing alright. I feel like I've calmed down a bit. Autism and a demanding baby (nearly toddler) don't mix very well sometimes. But things have been going a bit smoother as of late. DS is getting very good at walking, although not yet by himself, and can climb on the sofa now. If I leave the room I have to put him in his playpen.

Hey everyone,

not been on here for ages, but a messaged popped up this morning.

Hope you are all doing well! The twins are just over 15 months and it’s carnage, both never stop but it’s so lovely at the same time! I’ve also just found out recently that I am pregnant again (just one this time 😅) took us 3 rounds of IVF with the twins and this was a natural surprise ❤️ very grateful but also a bit scared 😬😂

Congratulations @User491 ! I wonder if the IVF helped your body figure things out? Good luck with your pregnancy. ❤️

Glad your twins are doing well. 😊

Another thing, DS is getting more aware of stuff. I bought some plastic Halloween cups in Tesco the other day because when I picked them up he got really excited (ditto when I put some bananas and easy peelers in the basket, so i knew it wasn't a fluke.) Wasn't very excited when I was buying some Halloween/autumn themed clothes for him though. 😅 (I got myself a dress and some hair grips, love Halloween stuff!)