Due July 2024 - part 5

[Oatmilktea]

Starting a new thread as the old one is filling up.

Many of our July babies have already arrived, hopefully the rest make their arrival soon 🩵🩷

@Nocoffeenotalkie
oh goodness. It’s relentless isn’t it. Being a first time mumma I felt so silly complaining about how hard this is but I knew deep down there was an added something as I just could not soothe her, it’s heartbreaking. honestly don’t know how I’ve survived the last 6 weeks. It seems to be easing slightly but yes same here, ‘the night time chase’ I call it 😩 red faced screaming bubba is also all my hubby saw for a while. I’ve tried some probiotics and she seems to be feeling better (that or her tummy muscles are just much better, who knows with these things!)
yes! Im persevering with a carrier, I have like 5 now 😂 they aren’t great around my C section (maybe just me as I notice others are fine 🥴) but I mentioned above that the ring sling carrier is a game changer for me!!!!

@MixedCouple2
awww thankyou for the tip! I was looking into weaning earlier as I’m first time momma. I’ll read up about looking for cues, thanks 😀
i find myself wishing for the future without reflux but equally these early days are so precious 💔

cluster feeding today here too 🤭 dreading tonight 😂❤️

Hi ladies!
Gosh, it's been long since I popped in here. Needless to say, I've had no time to pick up my phone. I'm pretty much only on youtube being hands free. I'm sure you're all kept on your toes with your babies! :)

My little one is doing well at 8 weeks in the weight criteria but he has a stuffy nose. Been giving him nasal saline drops and taking a steam shower once a day (we stand near the shower not in it). Does anyone have any other suggestion? Apparently it's not a cold, but a dust allergy which can be hereditary. DH also gets it often.

DS is also very stuffy all the time, I wonder if he has a dust allergy as I used to when I was younger! I’m forever putting saline drops or spray up his nose before feeds which usually clears it. If he is looking or sounding extra snotty (usually through the night) and if feeding doesn’t clear it, I use the Frida baby snot sucker which works a treat. If the snot has hardened a bit I will use saline drops or spray followed by the Frida baby nose picker. Both disgusting but satisfying 😅

Interesting you should say that @ceruleansky and @Oatmilktea my DD is my snuffly. Her nose sounds constantly bunged up. Whenever I mentioned it, I was told it's due to C-section and it's common for babies to be mucusy. However, at 7 weeks, I'm not sure that can still be the reason. I was going to speak to Dr about it at 8 wk check.

@Nocoffeenotalkie I was originally putting it down to c section however DS is 12 weeks tomorrow. I’ll ask the HV when she comes next week!

My son still has the issue, unfortunately. We don't seem to have any solution for it other than saline nasal drops and suctioning the mucus out

Hope the snuffly are doing better.
DS had his first set of immunisations yesterday. He seems to be ok, although was a bit hit in the night and does a sad little cry before every poo.

They ladies. Omg I want getting notifications. How is every one?

@Jess725 hope you wnd little one are ok? Silent reflux getting better?
Can't believe little ones are getting poorley already. Dreading the winter months.

@ceruleansky thats all I did with DS1 Newpipe (open source YT platform) listening to podcasts and docu series. Helped me get through the cryng spells with DS1.

DS2 just turned 6 weeks! It has been so different to DS1. It has been an absolute pleasure and enjoyed these last 6 weeks. He is the calmest baby. Loves his naps and bedtime. Waking up once or twice. His growth spurts last couple days and then he settles back into the normal routine. With DS1 I hated the first 3 no tha I didnt enjoy motherhood or the newborn phase. This time I am actually enjoying it. So different. I didn't know anything else existed.

They both nap at the same time after lunch long nap. DS1 naps 1 hour and DS2 does 2-3 hours. They also got to bed same time. Fall asleep 10mins a part most nights. It is working out so well. I was so worried and scared. Managed a few solo parenting days just them 2 and it all is fine. It gets tricky when they both need me at the same time. Doing a nappy change and DS1 also decides he needs the toilet to.
The jealousy is calming down and he loves his little brother. We have had a slight regression with toileting. Gooing it doesn't last much longer.

I was told breast milk is good. Otherwise saline, humidity using a humidfier and some essential oils.

@MixedCouple2
i wasnt receiving notifications either 👀

Happy 6 weeks!! oh wow so glad you’re enjoying it more. Such a lovely set up it sounds 🫶 love that the growth spurts soon settle.

the reflux settled slightly and we had a few nights of more sleep but it’s back with a vengeance. Perhaps it’s just the 8 week growth spurt 😬Maybe another trip to the GP is in order.
We are so tired running on maybe 4’hrs a night and not many naps. She fights her sleep even in the carrier but thanks to those who recommended 💕💕

how’s the little ones doing who had sniffly noses?
My daughter has one too over the last few days but I think reflux related xxx

@Jess725 - is there an 8 week growth spurt as well? Hoping I can write off our last couple of nights no sleep for that reason too.

mine fights sleep both day and night as well. I get one or two short naps a day and that’s it and night sleep is hit and miss. I have found he loves a baby bouncer though - tried one out at a stay and play before splashing the cash but got him a Joie dreamer and that with the vibrate on gives me time to help his brother with things, use the toilet, shower or make a cuppa etc without having to do it one handed or with screaming in the background. Still won’t sleep but at least gives me 5mins hands free a few times a day

@Morningcoffeeaddict aww amazing re the joie chair! I’m glad it give you a min to breathe with a cuppa! It’s difficult when you cant get many naps in the day isn’t it, I’m really going to try today 😬

hmmm I do feel like this is the 8 week leap yes..
I so hope it is for you too and your little one settles again after!

my little one seems to be textbook with the regressions however, she hasn’t slept well from the start so I’m only noticing the extra fussy/hunger rather than less sleep (always less sleep here 🤣😢)

@Jess725 - hope you managed to get a nap! 9 weeks today and hoping we’re coming out the other side of the 8 weeks madness. I didn’t see him every hour the last couple of nights at least. Napping in the day is still tricky though. I keep getting told it gets easier at 12 weeks so hoping that’s true

@Morningcoffeeaddict DS is 14 weeks tomorrow (where does the time go 🥺) and it definitely got much easier around the 11 weeks mark! It’s still a tough old slog at times but nowhere near as tough as the first 8 weeks or so!

@Oatmilktea - that’s encouraging to know! Can’t quite believe he’s 14 weeks already!! 9 weeks today here and he’s been asleep most of the day. Keeping my fingers crossed he’ll sleep as well overnight as well but not convinced that will happen - eek!

Baby is two months old and doing well! He's smiling, giggles from time to time and did the cutest thing earlier. He grabbed his dummy, put it on my arm and then put his hand on my mouth. Seemed like he was trying to give me his dummy. My friend told me to stop putting adult thoughts in his head. 😅
Yesterday (Thursday) was a grumpy day. The morning went well. Finally unpacked my clothes as little one was kind enough to have a nice long nap. (I've moved into my new flat) and I was sick of bin bags everywhere. Then things went downhill as he couldn't burp after a bottle, was miserable and whining and got on my nerves, so I got grumpy, then I got sad because his father is a waste of space. I mean, yes I've got my own flat now, and it's lovely, minus the fact there's bare screed on the floor. But I wouldn't be in this position if my baby's father wasn't so useless. He wanted us to have a child, or so he said. He also said he wants to marry me (the day I was admitted to hospital in order to have baby) and yet never talks to me. He's seen his son a grand total of four times. I had a proper meltdown (autistic) and cried a lot. I hate it when I'm like that. It scares my baby and he picks up on my emotions. 🥺 But then he fell asleep on me and that's been that for the past few hours.

@Oatmilktea yay so good to hear! I have hope too.
I think I just have been having it rough all the way as the 8 week mark for me seems similar to all the other weeks 😂 send help 🤣

@Jess725 hope things settled with the reflux. Things started to improve for DS1 around 8/10 weeks and by 12 weeks it was no longer an issue. We did have Cranial Osteopathy.

I can't believe some of the babies are nearly 3months old!!!!!!

Baby boy is 8 weeks old on Saturday! The HV visited today and he is on the 98th centile. He has grown so much since 4 weeks! She said it was fine and not abnormal. He was 75th at 4 weeks.

Still lucky he is sleeping get at at night waking at 1-2am and then sometimea at 5am. If he wakes at 5 he sleeps until 9am if he do want wake at 5 he wakes at 7am.
DS1 is nearly 3 and he is proper naughty and pushing so many boundaries. He decided to be a nightmare with the HV visiting. He was ok before but as soon as she arrived he went nuts.
DS1 is the handful child DS2 is so chill and way going.

@SapphireSeptember awww bless the smiles and giggles are the best. When they see you and their face lights up is the best feeling ever. That and also when they say I love you for the first time. ❤️
So sorry to hear about babies father not being present. Thats horrid. But you will manage and you will realise your baby only needs you. I hope he comes around for the sake of your baby. But he is the one missing out and he will regret it. Have a cry and allow yourself to grieve.
Try to do it when baby is asleep as yea they can pick up on stress and it can stress them out. Especially breast feeding mums you can transfer cortisol to baby and stress them out.

Interestingly nursing reduces stress for me. I find I am more chilled out.

@MixedCouple2 Thank you. ❤️ It's been really hard some days. What hurts the most is him telling me family are important to him, but ignoring this part of his family. 🙁 But he's missing out on my baby growing and changing and being adorable!

To top things off I think I've got a hernia where my c section incision is. There's always been a little bump where the stitches were, but that got bigger overnight and it's really sore and red around that area. Not what I need right now. 🥺

@SapphireSeptember sorry dear I missed the notifications. Has his family spoken to him? Are you in contact with his family so they have a relationship with you and the baby? Of course it is not going to be easy. You will navigate and make a way for you both.

Oh no what has happened with the hernia did you get it seen to? Do you have a support belt? I got one from Amazon just to hold and support my tummy until it atarted to feel normal.

@MixedCouple2
No, I'm not in contact with any of his family. His daughter met her half brother once, and that's been it. 🥺 I found her on Facebook and keep wondering if I should message her. He said he might be able to visit me in November. So he won't have seen his son for roughly three months?

It wasn't a hernia, they looked at it and sent me on my merry way. It did pop the other day though! A support belt sounds like a good idea though. 😊

Also had my birth reflections appointment on Monday. The midwife I was talking to is also autistic, which was a nice surprise. So when I was explaining how I've been feeling she understood. She said it's very likely DS will be autistic, especially as it runs in our family, but I'll know what to do. And if I don't there's always Mumsnet!

@SapphireSeptember if you feel it will be beneficial and not harm your well being no harm reaching out. That's all you can do and your know you tried.

It popped? A cyst? Has the wound reopened? What did the hospital think of it? Keep an eye on it.

That's great you had that support and you felt it helped. Autisim is very common these days and diagnosis is being done earlier so the support can be put in place a lot earlier. I will say in different areas of the country the support is lacking and access to support ia limited.

DS will be 12 weeks this saturday and I just dont know where the time has gone to.
He has been amazing. Still a happy choppy he is always so happy even when changing his nappy at 2am! He has a massive grin in his face with the sweetest dimples. I have noticed sleep changes and that 3/4 month sleep regression will soon be upon us!
DS1 loves his little brother so much and it is all he knows I don't think he remember a time without him. There are the odd moments of jealousy but very short lived.
Things have settled with him and sleep and finally at 3years kid DS1 is putting himself to sleep and not longer needs us to support him to sleep. We are so proud of him. It feela like he is a proper child now. He is doing so much independently and having such strong feelings and opinions he truly is his own person

@SapphireSeptember I'm sorry you're having a hard time at the moment. It's hard when you are let down by your child's father. I hope things get better for you. Make sure you keep an eye out for that wound!

@MixedCouple2 you sound like you have the cutesttttt little DS!! I also live for my DD smiles, she's got one dimple and it's the cutest thing everrrrrrr. A friend of mine has a 4 month old is going through sleep regression - she's having a tough time.

As DD was preterm (20 weeks but 15 weeks adjusted) I am keeping an eye out for sleep changes but it's going fine at the moment. She is really dribbling though. Think teething is already started.

I'm really enjoying her! I want her to stay like this, it's the best! She's like my little best friend. I hope I like the next stages too though. Hope you're all wellll