Piercing ears on a baby.

[mommabear14]

I'm due to have my baby in November and my baby dad is saying he wants the baby to have pierced ears which I am not ok with. Am I wrong in saying no? Everyone has there own opinions on this but I am 100% stuck on my decision that I do not want my baby to have their ears pierced. ( when they are older of course but not as a baby ). Am I wrong for this? First time mum here.

He wants to do it because it looks cute!!!! What about the infection risks, baby accidentally pulling them out.
How old is he...15?
The culture I grew up in did it and there were lots of babies with painful messy ears.

Does he have his dick pierced? If not say you might consider getting the baby’s ears pierced if he has his dick pierced and fitted with a Prince Albert.

😂 he totally respects my decision on not wanting it done. Men don't understand things like us woman haha

Absolutely not and you'll find a very rare shop who will pierce babys ears now.

Its down to personal preference of course, but no tell your baby dad that its not an option for baby to have their ears pierced.

I used to work in a nursery and saw a 6 month old have her ears pierced. I was furious, down to infection control when theyre babies, they do tend to pull on their ears with sticky fingers. Unless you're there to clean them all the time theres no point.

Im 27 i had mine done at 3 months old and as an adult ive worn earings maybe 3 times? I dont bother with them, i have no reason to bother with them, they feel uncomfortable to wear and i have yo wear proper silver in my ears otherwise they get really sore.

Really no point. Let your child choose when they get older!

Child abuse and chavvy

It's not a doll

Definitely it's not a child abusing or chav! It's decision individuals makes for our kids, I did had my daughter ear piercing when she was 8 weeks,,she's not near chav, regrading your comment I will say she's class than you. Knowledge is powerful

It should be made illegal to do it in this country in kids under about 8. Its horrible.

Wow. Some really rude and unnecessary comments on this thread.

Op, in direct response to the question you asked, no, I am not a fan of this and would rather a little girl make up her own mind about wanting her ears pierced when she's old enough.

However, if your husband/partner is from a different culture I can understand why he would see it as a normal thing to do. If he respects your wishes that's great and you can have a discussion about it a few years down the line.

@KOOLA1D
I did took my daughter to the Pharmacy for her ear piercing I was happy with the environment and people they have been doing ear piercings over 40yrs and was straight forward which only cost £40 and other option I had were most of celebrities go was £300 that price including a glass of champagne for the mum😄
Midwife and health visitor did say anything only person wasn't happy was my mother in law almost had a heart attack at end of the day she's not her baby was our decision .

My statement still stands.

Ear piercings on a baby is repulsive.

@ KOOLA1D
You should definitely contact your local MP will help you with this issue at UKParliament lol🙄

God people are such snobs
you all know what baby dad means
it gives me the ick when posters say hubs or hubby but I leave it alone. People have jumped on this. Stop going through peoples posts it’s weird.

Is this not the sort of thing most couples sort out before getting married and making babies?
no? My dh talked about a lot, to the point other people thought we were a bit odd how much we’d discussed, but we talked about things like religion, parenting and discipline styles, general health care like vaccinations but funnily enough piercing a new borns ears didn’t come up.

and the bleating on about purposely inflicting pain on a new born or how he should get his dick pierced then is so melodramatic and poorly thought out.

op it wouldn’t be for me, but if it’s a cultural thing and tradition I can see what he wants to do it. Is there a compromise, like an age you would be ok with to discuss it again? Or conditions that would make you happy to have it done? If he’s happy to wait then I think that’s a good idea for now, she can always have it done later if she wants to.

Thankfully. I think it's a dying trend. Not seen a young baby or child with peirced ears in a long while.

@ KOOLA1D
It's not a trend it's culture depending which part of the world original people we all have different cultures where I'm from it's normal, ear piercings, breast feeding in public you will never see anyone turn head around to check what's your doing, I promise you it's normal but I do understand UK it's different which is okay we can't all be the same the world will be so boring.
To wear 22 carat gold earrings where I'm from we believe that stone it's good for health nothing to do with trending at all.

Be it cultural or otherwise. Its wrong. And like I have said, seems to be thankfully dying out.

If anything ever makes you feel a bit uncomfortable or unsure around treatment of your child, it's never wrong to stand your ground and say no (with possible exception of medical treatments/interventions that you are not fully trained in etc - even in that case, I would advocate educating yourself from various reputable sources to reach your own decision... But I digress).

Side note, I finally had my ears pierced aged 27! My Dad offered to pay at a nice jewellers and it felt really meaningful that I would always be able to associate wearing earrings with thinking of him.

Personally, I think it looks tacky on babies/young kids and the care aspect of fresh piercings would also be enough to put me off!

Men don't understand things like us woman haha

I don't think most mums or dads want their child to be put through unnecessary pain and infection risk, plus injury risk of them pulling them, to be fair. It's not a man / woman thing, it's cultural I guess.

Fucking grotesque.
Dump him. He's a wrong un.

I agree 😊

I agree!

Until your child is old enough to ask for and CONSENT to pierced ears, understands it will hurt, and about the healing process involved, is competent in helping to take care of them, and keeping them infection free, it's an absolute hard NO.

I hate pierced ears on babies and toddlers... inflicting pain, and altering someone's appearance purely for cosmetic reasons, on someone young enough to not be able to consent to it, is abhorrent. I'm surprised there hasn't been some sort of reform on this, and until the child is of an age to consent to it, it shouldn't be allowed. Not just due to the pain, it's the fact a parent can decide to do something that permenantly alters their child's appearance, before that child can agree to it. It shouldn't be acceptable, why would anyone want to take that decision away from their child is beyond me. My daughter asked for hers to be done at age 9. We spoke about the fact it will hurt, (no point in sugarcoating it) and researched into the healing process, and she understood that she would have to take a great deal of care looking after them to avoid infection, no swimming initially, and having to put plasters over them for p.e etc. She decided she wanted them done, and that was her decision, made with her consent. It was an exciting afternoon out for her, and an experience I'm so glad she got to have through her own choice. Her sister hasn't asked for hers done, and may never ask for them to be done, that will be a choice of hers and hers alone, if she decides she wants to have them done.

That "personal preference" should surely be up to the child in question, no? Considering it is THEIR body. It's not a decision for adults to make on the behalf of a non consenting infant, it's not a medical procedure, or an immunisation to protect them from disease, it's a completely unnecessary cosmetic procedure, that should only be allowed with full consent by the actual person who is having it done, no one else. That child's body is not there for adults to do whatever the hell they like to. Cultural or not. It's absolutely barbaric.

What I can't get my head around, is if a parent took their 10 year old child to get their ears pierced, and they were crying and begging them not to be done, told the piercer they didn't want them done, and pleaded with them not to do it etc. They wouldn't do them. But, an infant who can't speak for themselves just gets pinned down and maimed as they dont have the ability to refuse. It's cruel. Nothing else to it.

Personal..
Yeah to the person who's body it is. Not for anyone else to decide on their behalf. "Cultural thing" doesn't really cut it. It's disgusting to take that choice away from someone who can't consent to it. You can't dress it up as cultural to try and justify it. No one who actually cares about their child's autonomy would consider it without giving them the opportunity to express their own views and wishes around it, and making a decision based on that, and that alone.