Piercing ears on a baby.

[mommabear14]

I'm due to have my baby in November and my baby dad is saying he wants the baby to have pierced ears which I am not ok with. Am I wrong in saying no? Everyone has there own opinions on this but I am 100% stuck on my decision that I do not want my baby to have their ears pierced. ( when they are older of course but not as a baby ). Am I wrong for this? First time mum here.

@teaandtoastwithmarmite maybe her dp family are pressuring her too as she said they are a different culture it might be normal in their culture. Op light be young or find it hard to stand up for her own views /for her baby.

It's definitely best to let baby choose.

@RosesAndHellebores this was a topic we did not speak about before having a baby and only got brought up the other day, it won't be a big deal as he will respect my decision but just wanted to know if im wrong for saying no

Please dont for many reasons

1.. the babys ears grow and change shape. The holes are likely to be unsymetrical when shes older

2.. they are a choking hazard

1. They might notvwant them...its the babys own bidt let them decide

own view .they look so tacky on a young baby

I agree I’m just saying she shouldn’t question her own decisions and beliefs. She will have to get used to making a lot of decisions for her child.

You should know you aren't wrong.

It is actual bodily harm and should be illegal. Do not pierce your baby’s ears.

Well personally I wouldn't have gone looking for other posts but maybe the poster in question just happened upon the other thread (no clue where it is and don't care either) and noticed the discrepancies.

The OP made a couple of really unpleasant jibes at the other poster. That's not ok either.

I'm not, my decision is final! When my baby is older of course why not but not as a baby.

Sorry you are being troll hunted OP.

I agree that pierced ears on babies are a terrible idea. I had mine done in my teens and it hurt a lot and I knew why the pain was being inflicted and actively consented.

Babies are super cute all by themselves without any need for accessories!

So @K0OLA1D do you think that's a nice way to speak to anyone? I don't.

@Runnerinthenight I'm going to stick up for myself if someone comes to my post trying to trip me up as I called my partner husband in my other post and then baby dad in this post, like so what? Then bringing up my old posts asking why I'm looking for free dental care when I'm paying for private birth. She isn't interested in my answers, she is just wanting to pick digs at me. What has her comments achieved in the first place? Absolutely nothing

@LauderSyme haha it doesn't bother me it just says a lot about their own lives which I'm so thankful I'm not living 😂 yes!! Totally agree

Hell. TO. The. NO!

Did I say it was? I said they were bound to stick up for themselves after being mocked and troll hunted. I do find it rather sad looking up another posters posting history to try and trip them up. I've had it done to me. They failed.

@mommabear14
Definitely stand your ground and not allow your DH to get your baby's ears pierced.

There's sticking up for yourself and there's being rude. I wouldn't have made the comments she did, but I wouldn't have responded the way you did either. It's confusing when people post different versions of their stories. I don't give a shiny shit personally and probably wouldn't have noticed anyway, but it's pot kettle here!

That's the risk you run when you post. I find it rather sad too but it's open to posters to do it. If you want your personal life picked over then I suggest you be judicious and consistent in your posting.

@Runnerinthenight but why would someone else's post confuse you? Why would you be so bothered and invested in it? If I seen that post off someone else, I wouldn't even think twice about posting trying to trip them up, like I wouldn't give a shit I'd just move on, but that's the difference between two people.

@Runnerinthenight I also did not post two different versions of a sorry. I called my partner husband in my other post and baby dad in this post because If I called him my husband in this post people might comment 'is he the baby dad' so I was just making it easier from the get go

I was. I said I had a professional job on a tattoo thread and a poster told me I didn't because I'd put my salary on another thread. Didn't lie on either thread, but the other poster thought that they'd got one over on me. It's not a nice feeling.

The OP has just called her dp different things by the looks of it and the pp had misunderstood the ops dates!

Neither would I - I couldn't be arsed to look a poster's previous posts up, but some people do. You pulled her up on the term "arguing" if I recall correctly - that's maybe the reason. And people do argue if they are having a disagreement!

In that case, the OP could have simply put the other poster straight, instead of insulting her personal life?

@TheShellBeach she made a dig saying 2 months pregnant and already arguing. It's not an argument. He agrees to have them pierced and I disagree, it doesn't mean he's mad with for that, he respects my decision, and I specifically asked in my post ' am I wrong' that's it. Not that he's mad and we are arguing about it

She could yes. Just as the other poster could have just not said anything at all. Or all the other posters mocking the op could have just scrolled past. But like you said, posting opens you up! Same both ways. Don't give it if they can't take it

Personally I don't like the term 'baby dad' - it has connotations of some randomer who's not really involved. If you had said husband, in reference to your recent pregnancy, I think people would have got it.

Anyway, moving on. I already said my piece - I would not be letting my newborn have his or her ears pierced, and I'd be adamant on that.

Good luck with your pregnancy.