Piercing ears on a baby.

[mommabear14]

I'm due to have my baby in November and my baby dad is saying he wants the baby to have pierced ears which I am not ok with. Am I wrong in saying no? Everyone has there own opinions on this but I am 100% stuck on my decision that I do not want my baby to have their ears pierced. ( when they are older of course but not as a baby ). Am I wrong for this? First time mum here.

Medically unnecessary body modification without consent.

teaching about consent starts on day 1. We teach even our youngest children they have the right to protect their bodies and to make their own choices.

We talk about how a very few trusted caregivers help them with certain things but that no one else should ever touch them under their clothing and with caregivers only when necessary.

we teach them that hugs and kisses are choices, not obligations, even from people we love.

do not damage this message altering your daughter’s body before she can even speak and say no.

@Runnerinthenight she insulted me making me feel like something wrong because we are 'arguing' two months into pregnancy Trying to insinuate that's wrong on a post where thousands of people can comment and have an opinion which status more fire.

@Runnerinthenight Thanks for that. I appreciate it. This comment would have been lovely as your first comment. 😂 x

FWIW I agree with you too.

I saw a baby/ not quite a toddler get its ears pierced when I took my 12 year old to get hers done. The child looked so shocked and then got extremely upset. That upset my daughter and I got upset too seeing the shock on her little face. It was awful. I'd say stick to your guns OP.

Very tacky. Stand your ground and wait until you child decides whether they want pierced ears or not.
He sounds immature.

HNRTFT but if you are not comfortable with this then a big no . Am not going to give my personal opinion because it’s irrelevant.

Everyone is different I think it's more like culture, I hard mine done same day I was born with midwife, she asked my mother if she's okay to have it done in hospital or she wants to be done when I get home where I came from baby girls had them done early because it heals less than 7 days after fully healed the put 22 carat gold earrings.
My daughter had hers when she was 8 weeks old was very hard to find someone in UK cold do ear piercings for babies. When wait until they old they will have to nurse the wound but for babies body it fully of water healing process is quicker.

I had my ears pierced as an adult, so that made me the instant expert who had to deal with every 7-9 year old girl who had gucky pierced ears at the school in which I taught. I swore that I would never let a person for whom I was responsible have their ears pierced until they were old enough to take complete responsibility for them.

Just wanted to add, I was meticulous in following instructions but still ended up with a slight infection from the method of piercing that was popular at the time.

OP do you even know if you're having a boy or a girl? Would he want to pierce a boys ears? Sorry if this has already been asked , I just can't see any mention of the baby's gender.
Either way I agree with you that piercing a child's ears before they can decide from themselves is in poor taste. Even the cultural angle doesn't wash as well in this day and age

Not sure the gender yet but it might not even matter if it's a boy!

Depends. I’m from southeast asia and its common for baby girl to get ear pierced in the hospital after birth. If i have baby girl here in the uk i wouldn’t do it. But if give birth back home i will do it. Just follow your heart.

Sex. Not gender.

This makes no sense.

Why would you put holes in your baby in one country but not in another?

Because back home we do it in hospital. With doctor and stuff. I dont know about doing it here. The only place i know its claires and that kind of shop. I’m not gonna pierced baby ear in a shop.

whether its cute or not I couldn’t careless. I’m okay with ot without. Because i’m used to see it.

@TheShellBeach i believe there are only two genders, male and female. If you think differently that's ok too. 😊

There are two sexes.
Male and female.

@mommabear14
@TheShellBeach i believe there are only two genders, male and female. If you think differently that's ok too. 😊

(cough!) apparently these days there are dozens of genders - too many to keep up with 🙄 .........
^^
but @TheShellBeach is indeed correct - it's sex not gender that we're talking about here

and@mommabear14 you're correct in that there's only male and female

I can barely cope with seeing her vaccinated let alone choosing to have needles stuck through her ears. Absolutely not. It's tacky and awful in my opinion. My DD is 1.

@penjil I totally agree with you, thanks for your comment 😅😄

Hope you are proud of your comment and feeling good about yourself 🙄Rude and unnecessary!!

This. When baby is old enough they can decide for themselves. I’d never do it to a baby.

@Noyokymum some people are just bored and unhappy with themselves right? 🫣

It's very much a cultural thing where in from. My Hispanic friends couldn't belive how late I'd left it (5) and my non Hispanic friends couldn't believe I did it so soon. When I was born it was actually done at the hospital before you came home. I'm late 40's by the way. It's a personal thing and if you don't want to you should not. I hope your baby's father respects your choice!