Gender disappointment

[isabela0]

Anyone else dealing with this? I just found out my second baby is a boy. I have a 21 month old daughter that's my mini me and best friend I'm a girly girl and my daughter is too. I love it. I always saw myself as a girl mom and my husband as a girl dad.
Now I'm dealing with so much worry. I don't know how I'll develop a bond with a boy. I have no experience with boys. It's so foreign.
Can someone reassure me?

Don't worry, it's normal to worry you won't love the second one as much, whatever the sex. You will.
There was a thread recently where someone was pregnant with a girl and worried she'd hate her for being a girl and that her and the dad would be mean and cruel to her. That is not normal and was much more worrying. Although bizarrely some people were telling her it was normal..

I wonder why 'gender disappointment' is always when it's a boy? 😕🤔

(In western culture anyway.)

@Fernhurst I posted on that thread and didn't think it was worrying. I take it you're lucky enough to have never experienced childhood trauma at the hands of your own parents?

The poor girl your taking about didn't say she was would be cruel to her own daughter, she said that her own mother was to her so she was worried she wouldn't be a good mother to a little girl as she never experienced that herself. You do realise this is an ananomas forum so people tend to post things they wouldn't often to say to friends and family or even out loud. What a nasty unhelpful place this forum is becoming!

*anonymous

Only for women. Stats show most men want boys, and are far more likely to leave the family unit if their offspring are solely female.
OP should be breathing a sigh of relief.

The increase is 1.8%. I wouldn't call that far more likely. Not really enough of a difference to breathe a sigh of relief she definitely won't divorce either.

Fernhurst Within five years that rises to 5% and by 15 years it's at 9%.
Even if not divorcing, the underlying male desire for boys can make for a less harmonious relationship over time as they increasingly feel left out. That I have seen.

@Sunnnybunny72

LOL!!! These 'statistics' are a load of made-up tripe, perpetuated by people who hate girls and women, and who think boys and men are better, and more important.

Even in these silly, made-up 'reports' (of which there are few that have zero actual evidence,) the chances of divorce if you have girls is only a tiny amount more than if you have boys. One says you have a significantly higher chance of divorce if you have girls, and then goes on to say it's a 2% higher chance! 😆

Even so, as I said, it's all utter bull. And as a pp said, it's farcical that you said the OP must be breathing a sigh of relief! You seriously think that she won't get divorced because she has sons?!!! 😂

It's 1.8% over the entire childhood. Personally I wouldn't want to be married to the tiny proportion of men who are so misogynistic they'd bugger off if they had the wrong sex of child. Even if you had the right sex they'd bring that child up to be a misogynist too. A miserable life for the mother.

Have you had your baby OP? 🥰