Due December 2024

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Anyone else tested super early and due December 2024? This is my 2nd pregnancy after a mmc 2 days after my 12 week scan in December and actual miscarriage in January.

Hoping this will be the 1 that sticks and is healthy. Think my due date is Dec 3rd

@RedRobyn2021 omeprazole, just take it once a day and now I’ve got no acid at all x

Yes! I buy them in bulk now 🤣😂 they taste better too which helps but I must admit I'll be happy to never take one again

@RedRobyn2021 I had the exact same as @HopefulElle and my GP prescribed me the same. I take it once every morning, then to be extra sure I take a rennie about half an hour after eating.

I certainly notice a difference if I haven't taken the tablet that day! It's vile. X

@Bluesea14
Mine is on that Grow 2.0 website?

And no, I need to get a wiggle on re batch cooking!

For the second time mums, with no antenatal classes, how are you preparing for birth and postpartum? I feel like I've forgotten absolutely everything. Will it all just come back to me or is there some kind of refresher course / book/ site etc. To the point I just watched a reel of someone burping their newborn and I just flat out forgot that that's something we need to do 😬

It's literally just in the past few days chatting with you girls that it has dawned on me that there's a baby coming in a few short months 😱

I’ve bought the course from Positive Birth Company, but I’ve not had time to do it. Need to block out an hour a night and practice the hypnobirthing stuff but I’m so exhausted after doing dinner and bed that I just want to lay watching trashy tv 🙈

@HelterSkelter224

I did the positive birth company course last time, I'm going to do the birth ed one this time

Also need to download the Squeezy app again, it reminds me when to do my pelvic floor exercises and I attribute it to the reason I have no problem with holding my wee after my first birth

Also need to get some more oil and start doing the perineal massage

I think I need to do more work on breathing this time around as last time I really struggled to slow down my breathing and I think this made it a lot more painful

@HelterSkelter224 aside from the birth I feel like I'm just as clueless about how to dress the baby for bed etc

Ladies this is my 3rd baby (4th pregnancy) and believe me when I say it all comes washing back to you.

I didn't do the classes or the books even with my first, and my 2nd was through covid when nothing was available anyway.

Just be sure to allow time to settle in like you would have done with your first, and not expect to hit the ground running.

Each baby is different.

@OnNaturesCourse that's reassuring! How did you find going from 1 to 2? Any advice on a smooth transition?

Does anyone have a nursing/ rocking chair?
And if so, what one?
I love the idea of having one.

@RedRobyn2021 honestly I found it easy...ish.

My eldest was 3 at the time but has always been very mature so that definitely helped.

I think giving yourself grace is the best advice, sit on the sofa and cuddle both your children or take that walk with the buggy to the park if you can. The house can wait, just get the basics done to survive.

Try to prioritise basic self care - my top tip was to bathe myself with baby while toddler stood and splashed the bath water next to us. Simple things to just get the basics done.

Don't be shocked or afraid of elder child regressions with things either. It happens, don't push too much, go with the flow and things will return.

Another bit of advice I was given was to put my eldest first as much as possible. Baby won't remember if they have to gurn and moan for a few minutes but my eldest would notice/remember if I dropped my activity with them to go running to new baby.

I won't lie, it got harder for me as 2nd DC for older. Around the 9 - 18 month mark was the hardest for me to accommodate both needs but I had somewhat found my groove by then so managed to just ride it out. I think it was because DC2 was mobile and napping less and less it was harder to juggle.

Thanks @OnNaturesCourse, great advice ❤️

I LOVE our nursing chair, honestly it was one of our favourite purchases. It's the tutti bambini Noah rocking chair and we used it for feeding but now for snuggles and stories before bed. The rockers come off so eventually it will become an armchair.

@HelterSkelter224
Thank you so much!
I was looking at Tutti Bambini! The Noah, the Jonah and the Oscar.
I like that you change to an armchair after too!

I love it @LilyJessie it's totally my happy place now

@OnNaturesCourse

Great advice thank you 🙏

My daughter is 3 (she will be a few months off of 4 when her sister gets here) and I was thinking the other day about naps and what I did with my first, I was thinking 8/9 months might be tricky. Fortunately that's around the time DD starts school so I might get lucky 🤞

At the moment I lay with my daughter until she goes to sleep, did you do this with your first? I'm worried this might be difficult when the baby gets here. I just want to make sure she knows I love her and I'm not replacing her

@RedRobyn2021 no, we never did that with our first. She was always pretty good at going to bed (but I should stress she was still in her cot so I think that helped as she wasn't up and down after baby arrived)

Maybe put baby in the swing in the DC room while you lie with her to get her off to sleep? Or just cuddle them both but this idea always freaks me out as I'm paranoid about falling asleep with baby in bed.

@LilyJessie I got one for my first and I literally never used it. I'm kind of glad we didn't tbh because nursing sends me to sleep (it releases a hormone to help you fall back to sleep) and we ended up co-sleeping from 4 months, it would have been quite dangerous if I'd fallen asleep in a chair with her.

Sold it after 2 years and bought DD a play tent for her room

It's so hard to know what you will and won't use

@OnNaturesCourse

Oh, I hope my next one gives me an easier time with sleep 😂

Once your youngest was on the move, how did you manage toys and sharing? My DD already has things I would expect to share like a kitchen, like I can't get 2 kitchens but also it is hers?

It doesn't help that I'm an only child 🙈

Ladies is it true you need tonnes of Muslim squares??
I've got about 10, is that sufficient or am I needing more?

I've also got some muslim bibs and normal bibs too.

Also anything that you wouldn't really think of as a must have that you recommend? I think I've got everything I need but being a first time mum you never really know 😂

@RedRobyn2021 just never made a massive deal of it to be honest. Naturally DC2 started to play with bigger things as they grew and DC1 adapted as we went. Sure there were sometimes a complaint or arguement but I'd always just say "it's nice to share but I can see you don't want to right now..." or similar and move DC2 away. Kinda going back to that statement earlier of DC1 is old enough to remember whereas DC2 isn't. But the rule I had was if DC1 wasn't sharing then she wasn't allowed to play with DC2 for a while - as I found most of the time when I moved DC2 attention onto something else (away from the thing DC1 wasn't sharing) DC1 would suddenly not be interested in the original toy and wanted whatever DC2 had. I think she soon figured out it's better all round if we share.

Still to this day though there is times when a arguement breaks out over sharing and I just revert back to the above. I don't believe in "making" them share but rather encouraging it as even as a adult there are some things I just don't want to share or time when I want to do things myself. It's also a good lesson to learn from the other side too, sometimes there will be people who don't want to share with you, or play with you. That's OK, we move on and do something else.

@Lunamoon23 they are handy, and baby will spit up a lot. 10 will be fine.

Newborns really don't need a lot (!!) you'll figure out what you need as you go and there's always Amazon prime to get stuff to you if there's something you think you're missing.

Are you planning to breastfeed? If so make sure you have a huge water bottle to stay nice and hydrated.

@Lunamoon23 I had tonnes... And I used tonnes. Once the baby stage was done I still used them as cloths etc lol. I picked lots in places like primark etc as they wash up just as well as more expensive ones and I didn't want to pay lots for what is basically sick rags lol. I also had a few of the massive ones, like swaddle sized that I used as swaddles in the summer or to place over things like public changing tables or playmats etc. I always had one, folded so it was in a long line, tucked across the mattress under babies head for nighttime spit ups. (always tucked tight, well under the mattress edges and secured sometimes with a small nappy pin or similar underneath) and same design in the pram bassinet.

I can't remember how many I actually had but I'm 3 years down the line of my last baby and I still have about 10 in various places of my house so you imagine how many were here when DC2 was a baby lol

Should add that I didn't use bibs until baby started teething or solids. I just used the muslins tucked under their little chins. Always found bibs just a farce when their heads and necks were so small. Buts that's my opinion.