Due July 24 - Part 2

[MixedCouple]

Started a new thread as the last one is full.
Got my apt letter today for my scan in Jan will be the 11th should be 12w 3D.

@Oatmilk - it is tough but what else cam we do. Have no other choixe but to suffer and keep going. I reflect very very often in the ease of my last pregnancy. Naps when I wanted. Sleep in when I wanted. Just really self centered 😂 now I am lucky to put my feet up for 10mins.

I just think loooooads of women have done, are doing it. And I need to suck it up.
My Nausea is easing up a little the last couple days. So hopefully it goes soon.

@CMRC17 I'm starting to feel little flutters too which is so reassuring.

I'm really trying to not get stressed about our fetal medicine scan on Thursday but I'm a definite overthinker. I'm trying to tell myself that it'll be nice to see baby again and we're planning a trip to IKEA afterwards!

@CMRC17 I’m 19 weeks today and also have been feeling flutters for the past week, it’s so lovely and also reassuring that’s she’s doing okay in there!

My bump is pretty huge now but I’m still wanting to hide it from the majority of people at work until after the 20 week scan next Monday. I work in a huge office and I’m nervous after a MMC in August so only my immediate team know. Going to need to get creative with my outfits this week 😂

Anyone else not announced yet?

@Bali200 - I’m not really announcing as such, my close friends and family know and the ladies I’m at yoga with (as I had to tell the instructor) plus my immediate team at work and that’s it.

However - I work from home and when I do go to the office it’s fairly casual (I work in tech) and with pretty much all men so last week I just wore a big jumper and no one noticed (that I’m aware of), although at least I think men are less likely to randomly ask? Last time around when I did tell them a few were like “I knew it!” so maybe I’m not as good at hiding it as I thought but at least I don’t have to talk about it until I’m ready!

@Bali200 I've told family, friends and the staff at work but haven't announced it to the pupils. I've got quite a noticeable bump but have only had one child ask me if I'm pregnant. I just pretended I hadn't heard (not in a rude way!) as I don't want to say anything to the children until after 20 weeks. With my first, I told my class at about 17 weeks because I wanted the parents to know but this time I don't have my own class.

@wannabe123 I could have written your post! We have our congenital cardiology scan on Friday, and I’ve promised myself a nice trip to IKEA after to get me through!

Our eldest child died from a heart condition so we’ve been referred to double check everything is okay.

@Yummum19 sorry to hear of your loss. Thankfully our little boy has only been moderate and quickly it became mild and now they think his hole has gone. Fingers crossed for us both x

@wannabe123 Thank you. I’m glad to hear your son is doing well. I’ll be thinking of you Thursday x

Has anyone else got 20 week scan anxiety?

I have my scan on Friday and can’t stop worrying! I’m worried that some days (especially mornings), I don’t really appear to have a bump. I haven’t had a notable movements yet. And other than very itchy boobs/nipples and being starving all the time, I don’t really have much in the way of symptoms. 😩 It’s half-term for me and I’m just wishing the week away!!

Yeah I feel the same! My scan is Monday, I haven't felt anything yet and don't particularly have any symptoms, it's hard to not drive yourself insane!
I'm sure everything will be fine for us both, but I know how you feel

@Lisao86 Mine is still a couple of weeks away, I’ll be nearer 21 weeks by the time it comes around. I’m worried about it, I worry before every appointment! I was sure at the 16 week appointment that they would find it hard to find the heartbeat or something but all was fine. Trying to take it one day at a time, like you I’m on half term suddenly have so much time to overthink!!

Hello ladies, I hope you're all doing well.

I'm 16 weeks today! I think the second trimester is kinder to me, I'm able to eat well enough and take a lot of rest. I feel much better and happier. I can feel the baby clearly. Small nudges and I talk to my baby a lot, since I'm alone a lot. I'm finally starting to feel like I'm inching towards being a mom and I'm so excited. I have no expectations or thoughts about the future and delivery/labour yet. I'm taking it one step at a time, trying to stay positive so that my baby will feel my energy. I'm just surrendering to my body's needs now.

I do feel an occasional pressure on my pelvic floor. But it's manageable. Not looking forward to the round ligament pain. Decided not to get a pregnancy pillow. Instead I'm just going to get multiple orthopedic ones which give me a bit more range of movement. I'm so excited for my 20-22 week scan where baby is going to be bigger!
Okay, that's my ramble!

17+1. Sex determination was as feared.

I'm shocked and ashamed at this feeling of disappointment that I can't seem to shake off. This pregnancy has been so different to my first (much harder) that I guess I convinced myself it must signal a different gender.

Logically I know I'm blessed and will love any children I'm blessed with.

@Lisao86 My 20 week scan is Thursday - eek!! Terrified! I get big time scanxiety! I know what you mean re the movements - i'm the same. I was the same with my first, didn't feel anything until 24 weeks. I had anterior placenta then and I have one this time round too.
Hope yours goes well! 😀 Enjoy the food!!

Thanks ladies. It’s good to know others feel the same regarding scanxiety! Hope everyone’s scan goes well. ❤️

I’ve managed to rearrange to tomorrow, so hopefully I’ll be able to enjoy the last couple of days of half-term. 😅

I had an anterior placenta with my first and saw movement at 19 weeks. I didn't often feel much but could see movement if I watched.

This time my placenta is posterior and I have felt some flutters but only when I'm still and focused on it.

I have anxiety over my 20 week scan too. It is such a big one re: anomalies and could be the last one.

I had my 20 week scan last week and discovered baby has a right aortic arch.
Now having scans every few weeks to check on baby's heart until he arrives.
Trying to weigh up if this means my homebirth is out of the question.

Feeling lots of movement which is making me feel positive

@Outliers I had a little gender disappointment as well. My scan was 2 weeks ago and I'm over it now. It was just the finality of it all, knowing I'll never have a daughter

Don't beat yourself up about it, feel your feelings and let yourself work through them. This is why we wanted a scan and not wait for the surprise so we can have worked though all the emotions before he arrives :)

Really relieved to read some of the comments here about gender disappointment. I've not wanted to say anything out loud but the reason I don't want to find out the gender is because I know I'll be disappointed if it's another boy. I feel like if I wait until they're here I'll just be so relieved they're safe. I would love a girl though. I feel so lucky to be pregnant after going through IVF and an ectopic, so I feel ungrateful saying I care what sex the baby is z

I thought I might be disappointed about the sex (having all of them the same!)... But actually when I found out at a scan at 16 weeks I felt fine! I was surprised by my own.lack of reaction haha. 2 weeks later now and I still feel totally happy and at peace about it. So don't worry too much, you might surprise yourself too :)

@justanotherlaura thank you for empathising and sharing your experience. That's essentially why I had the scan, so we could have time to process and come to terms before she arrives / before we let people know and get all the unhelpful comments.

@BananaHammock23 honestly I feel ungrateful also. But I guess we can't help the reflexive emotional feelings, we can only rationalise and process them. I do hope you get what you want though, good luck.

@Outliers - time to process is sensible. Especially as you say the unhelpful comments are just awful, we don’t know yet but suspect it’s another boy and the second we told people I was pregnant all I’ve had his “hopefully it’ll be a girl this time”, even from people who don’t really know us. I’ve told a few of those people “oh actually we think it’s another boy” and have had people genuinely say “oh no!” And “are you going to be ok with that?” Such unhelpful comments I’ve been really shocked!

Definitely give yourself time and space to process how you’re feeling.

I was absolutely convinced I was having another girl, and was totally shocked when I found out he is a boy. I wasn’t disappointed as such, but having to make the mental adjustment was still hard because since having DD I’ve just thought of myself as a mum of girls!

@BunBun221 aha that's a pain then. Could you try see a Dr then for the prescription. It would all depend on your levels. I was taking 2 tablets a day on a high strength. I can't remember not had them in a 8 months.
I will start tsking them again as I am worried about being anemic like last time.

@CMRC17 yes felt movments from.9 weeks but this last week not at all..this happened last pregnancy DS was sleeping more then at 18 weeks picked up again.

I always get anxious before every apt. 2nd time thought it would.be different but nope. At my 16 week apt I was worried with the urine test and the doppler. But midwife found babies heartbeat right away and it was good.

I have my 20 week scan 5th March. Currently 17w 1d.
So far feeling 100% better minimal nausea. But cravings have been ridiculous. I want all my nostalgia childhood snacks and foods. Ricicles, frosties, sugar puffs. Mainly cereals 😂
But even discos crisps and twiglets. And even sushi.
Last time all i craved was MDs and Burger King not had in over 7 years so random.

I will have to go to my 20 week scane alone. Which I am so upset about as our childcare fell through.
They won't allow DS to fome even though he is good as gold and sits still doesn't make a aound. So will ask them to write down the gender on paper.

Just wanted to say that they may not be able to write down the gender for you. It may be different in different hospitals but I know most NHS will not write down the gender for you. So maybe call ahead to check, I wouldn't want you to be disappointed.

@MixedCouple @CheeryBiscuit I know some hospitals do write it down and some refuse. I had a 16 week nhs scan and asked the sonographer whether they would be willing to write the sex down at our 20 week scan, just so I could set my expectations. She said they are happy to write it down (I’m in Scotland)