Pregnancy After Miscarriage - Knicker Checkers Anonymous Part III

[lackaDAISYcal]

Hi everyone.....roll up here for your passport to check your knickers on an hourly basis

Good luck to kate and all others today!

Can anyone go over here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/49/499468?stamp=080320125252 to help this lady out? She needs a bit of reasssurance

I didn't mean that to sound all chirpy and frivolous kate - know how worried you must be and am thinking of you x

Hi just wanted to tell you all scan went well. Everything was as it should be with a very sleepy looking baby who didn't wriggle around at all but was a healthy size and good h/b.

good news rainrain

spoke to my CMW today. She is going to send off my paperwork to the US dept on Tuesday, so I should have a scan date in the next three or four weeks. I'm having an "early weeks" appointment with the MW (when I'll be 10+ weeks ) followed by booking bloods etc at 12+ weeks. Why they can't do the booking bloods at the "early weeks" I don't know, but apparently this is a new initiative by our local PCT.....that's right, give the already overworked MWs another appointment they need to fit in . I only hope it's not at the expense of a later appointment.

I also have some good news - saw a heartbeat at the scan this afternoon and consultant said all was looking good . He measured me at 7+3 and said I was due on 3 November. He was really nice too - said he dreaded scanning women who'd had previous mc because he'd been through the same thing with his wife and knows how awful it is. He also showed us a trace of the heartbeat. I keep staring at the print-out because I just can't believe it, after what happened last time. Next scan will be the NHS one, although I also want to have the nuchal fold one at the Fetal Medicine Centre, so it will be whichever one comes first. Hopefully I can relax a little now, although I know it's still very early days.
LackaDAISYcal How frustrating! 10 weeks isn't exactly early weeks is it?! My PCT has also changed its policy too - last time I was seen by the CMW at around 8 weeks and had my bloods done before that. Now it's at 12 weeks apparently and I'm not even sure the MW does the bloods.
Hope everybody else is OK this evening.

great news cricri

ahh crici thats great.
Can i ask, when was your last scan and what was seen?

fab news cricri. We saw DDs heartbeat and a squishy little prawn at 7+3. It was fab

ahh, this gives me some hope, thankyou.
Had my scan on Monday just gone.
They said i was 6w+3 and saw nothing but yolk sac and pregnancy sac.

Going back on Tuesday,will be 7w 4days.
so hope i see something.
fingers crossed.

donbean at my scan last thursday they dated me at 6 wks bang on and we saw a yolk sac and a faint flickering smudge which may have been the foetus but was too small. sonographer was happy that all was as it should be for the date. It tied in with my cycle as well and she reckons that the embryo implanted a little later (which would also figure with the implantation bleed I had.

Try not to worry (very difficult I know)

Morning everyone hope you are all in bed enjoying your bank holiday.I can't sleep - my head is busy with worrying about everything - starting to feel less yucky phew but makes me fret that I need another scan (this feeling is never going to go away so am trying to ignore it)
Is anyone else hyper sensitive at the mo? I burst into tears Wednesday night in a kind of "oh my god I can't cope with just getting thru the days" - poor DH didn't know what to do with himself - he sucks at that kind of thing. I am also crying at every sad book/film/conversation recently too - have permanent mascaradown my face

Hi wheely fab to hear from you - come back and let us know how you are getting on!!

Hi cantgetaWINKYofsleepmummy hope you and James are having a fab bonding weekend and that your pesky uterus is behaving itself (just what you needed eh?)

The best thing about MN is you get all the support from women who have been through what you have been through and have gone on to have healthy babies - really helps me think I can get there too. However it is so sad to hear all the problems going on too - because we all know how devastating it is . Is a harsh reminder of how unfair life can be - to the least deserving people like feedmenow.

Going to snuggle up on sofa with ER box set
Have a nice day everyone

Thanks for your good wishes everybody - it's still sinking in!
Donbean Sorry, I was referring to my mmc last time when there was nothing on the screen, not this time around. Yesterday was my first scan this pg. I really hope you have some good news next Tuesday and see a hb. The consultant did have to hunt around a bit for bean yesterday and I wouldn't have known what was on the screen if he hadn't been there to point it out.
Hope everybody else is OK today. Kate How are you doing? Any news?

I would like to join this thread please ladies. I can't go onto the antenatal thread anymore. I feel like I am too depressing for them.
Are you allowed to come on here and be depressing ?
Please ?
I have seen/met scully, don, cricri before, so hello ladies.
I will try and be a bit more upbeat.

Oblomov Welcome, I'm really pleased you found us. Feel free to rant, cry, scream and do whatever makes you feel better here. We're all either going through it or have been through it so everybody understands and we support each other through the ups and downs. No forced jollity here. Hope you find the reassurance you need.

Hi ladies, not good news I'm afraid. Had the scan with the consultant this morning. Heart still beating and structure of the baby looked ok as far as he could see, but he said it looked to him as though there was less amniotic fluid today than last week.
Combined with the very low hormone levels shown in the nuchal blood test he thinks this may indicate a triploidy.
This is a rare chromosonal disorder which means that the baby has a complete extra set of chromosones, probably from me as if it was from DH I think it would have become a molar pregnancy.
The condition in "incompatible with life"
To get a definite diagnosis we either need to have a CVS or an amnio. The mc risk from a CVS is 1-3%. With an amnio it can be as low as 0.5% but my placenta is to the front which makes it more risky, as would having less amniotic fluid in the first place if that is still the case.
The results from either test would take 10 days to come through as for the rarer chromosonal disorders they have to grow the culture before they can get a definite result.
So now we have the heartbreaking decision to make as to which to go for.
I'd really appreciate anyone's advice or experience in this.
If the results from the CVS or the amnio confirmed triploidy we'd definitely terminate the pg - the maximum life expectancy if we don't is 5 months and there would be major internal and external deformities - no quality of life in our opinion.
Which ever we have if it's bad news I'd have to deliver the baby, even if I had a CVS on wednesday, which I could.
I'm mainly thinking that we should do what's best for the baby and if an amnio is a lower risk then that's what we should do. But I'm not sure how I'd cope with not getting the results until 18 weeks by which time I will have felt movement and be much more obviously pg.
The consultant said that if we decide the go for the amnio he'd want to scan me at least once a week in the mean time so that we know if the baby dies beofre 16 weeks rather than having to wait to find out at the scan.
Of course it could still be ok, but the consultant said his instinct based on his experience and the results is that it won't be.
This is so hard, no-one should have to go through this
Sorry for such a long and depressing post. xx

PS am now 13 weeks

Oh Kate So sorry to hear your news. I was really hoping for a good outcome for you today. I'm afraid I have no experience of CVS or amnio but hopefully somebody who does will be along soon. Or you could start a new thread to ask other MNers to share their experiences? All I can offer is (((hugs)))
You're right, nobody should have to go through this and I wish there was more I could do to help

Kate- I'm no help either, but wanted you to know that I am thinking of you and sending all my love. xxx

Oh Kate, how horrible to have to face this, especially for all the waiting around to find out for sure. I'm not sure how to cope but hope you find a way.
Goingfor3, after all those scans fancy them finding some balls!!!! Funnily enough, I think my favourite name is Tilly at the moment, short for Matilda of course. I think it sounds very pretty and my other 2 girls have 'old' names rather than modern or alternative and I think it would really fit. Haven't hardly thought of a boy's name!! Hope you manage to get your money back on all that pink!!

Kate So sorry to hear what you are going through - I just can't imagine. I have no advice to give as have no such experience. Just thinking of you and sending lots of hugs.

Kate2179

I've just read your message which has made me very sad. I'm so sorry you are going through this. My experience of triploidy is different to yours but I thought it might help to share.

I found out at my twenty week scan that our baby girl had died (last September). An autopsy revealed suspected triploidy, (maternal). Our baby measured approximately 14 weeks although a heartbeat was heard at my midwife appointment at 15 weeks so it was always measuring small. Is your baby measuring small? I am now pregnant again and this pregnancy has been closely monitored with regular scans to check on the growth. I thought they would check my hormone levels too but the consultant said that was not necessary given the regular scans. The consultant was confident that if this baby was affected it would be revealed through regular scanning.

Again I'm really sorry you are going through this but please feel free to ask me any questions. I had to have medical management for the miscarriage.

Take care and please do keep posting.

p2b

Kate you might find it useful to contact ARC whihc is a charity that adivces on ante natal testing. They have a phone line during office hours iirc.