Is 28 too young to be a mum?

[bubbles1996]

I've recently found out that I'm pregnant. My partner is 35 and will be 36 when the baby arrives, this will be his first child. I'm currently 27 but will be 28 by the time the baby's here. We both have good stable jobs and live together. Financially we're fine.

My mother was upset when I told her of my pregnancy, particularly as she said that she wanted me to start having children in my 30s and she thinks I'm "too young" now. She was in her 30s when she started childbearing. I was hoping to start having kids in my 30s and not my 20s but I guess these things happen. I don't think that 28 is as young as she is making out, is it?

Absolutely not. I was 26 my siblings were 18/19. My mum had her first at 17. I hate posts like this it’s personal preference and when you feel ready. I could’ve had a child at 18 but im over the moon that I waited 8 years. Do what you want.

Away to have my third at 26 🙈😂

Of course it isn't too young, if anything it's biologically a bit old

I had DD when I was 29

I had mine at 26 (almost 27) and 29. Zero regrets 11 years later, it's been perfect

Wow timeshare changed. I'm in my 60s and when I had first at 30 I was classified as elderly!

It's a perfectly normal age to have your first baby op, don't listen to your mum. What she "wanted you to do" is quite frankly none of her business, hardly like you're 15, living at home, jobless, and going to expect the burden for childcare and finances to land on her. Having your first now, means you don't have to instantly think about having a second (if that's what you want) because time is still on your side. Some women don't have their first until well into their 30's, and can occasionally find it harder to conceive. Congratulations!

23, 25 and 30. I had much more energy with the first 2 and felt positively old with the 3rd.

I wonder whether her concern may also be a generational thing as maternity/family leave provisions were very different when your Mum had you in the mid-1990’s ? They were far more limited and there were no paternity leave provisions, for example.

Having a baby and returning to work may have been quite difficult for her so she could be concerned about you. You may need to reassure her that both you and your DP can manage this.

Had my first at 24. 28 isn't young.

I had my only child at 28. Most of my friends were having kids from the age of 23 onwards.

I had two of my children by that age!

I had completed my degree, finished my professional qualification, was working, married and we’d bought a house-it was great timing for us.

It’s really not your mum’s decision if you don’t do the same as she did.

Isnt young **

Now I definitely feel young , I had my daughter at 19. Son at 21 and one on the way I'm now 27

I don't think it's too young to have a baby. I waited until I was in my mid 30s but most of my friends had their babies when they were in their early 20s.

I had my first at 28. I was the second youngest in my antenatal group, with most of the others being around ten years older. I lived in an area where 28 was quite young to be having a baby but it’s all worked out well for us.

I’m now mid/late 40s, knackered and perimenopausal and I personally wouldn’t have coped well with young children at this age (I know a great many who do but it wouldn’t have suited me). My two are late teen and young adult so I get a lot more time to myself now and can focus more on my work. I like having more freedom now to do my own thing in the evenings/go away for a few days to stay with a friend/go to a gig with DH etc without having to sort childcare arrangements etc.

Also in my case, if I’d left it a few years longer, my DC would never have met my parents as they died when I was in my thirties. Obviously that’s not common and also not something anyone could predict, but just another reason I have no regrets for the choices I made.

OP you need to start trusting your own decisions.

Not too young at all, a very normal age. Where my in laws live you'd be considered old to be having kids so it really depends on your area and outlook!

I had my first at 28 and now he's 5 and I'm 33, it's brilliant!