Is 28 too young to be a mum?

[bubbles1996]

I've recently found out that I'm pregnant. My partner is 35 and will be 36 when the baby arrives, this will be his first child. I'm currently 27 but will be 28 by the time the baby's here. We both have good stable jobs and live together. Financially we're fine.

My mother was upset when I told her of my pregnancy, particularly as she said that she wanted me to start having children in my 30s and she thinks I'm "too young" now. She was in her 30s when she started childbearing. I was hoping to start having kids in my 30s and not my 20s but I guess these things happen. I don't think that 28 is as young as she is making out, is it?

I got pregnant at 28 unplanned but long term partner, I found it a really good age. I know many many couples who are struggling to conceive in mid thirties so I'm not sure it's always wise to wait

From my experience I’d say 28-32 is the average age to have a first baby. I’m 30 and expecting our first child.

My other friends who have babies one was 28 and the other 29.

I had kids at 27 & 29. I don't think you are too young. An odd reaction from your mum. Does she approve of your choice of DP?

I was 28 when I had my DS, it felt like a good age but I’ll be completely honest and say that I didn’t fit into any of the pre/post natal groups as everyone else was either straight out of school and really young, or in their mid thirties. That being said I wouldn’t have wanted to change anything, we have a great relationship

I had my first two days after my 22nd birthday. By 28, I had three children.

I'm really surprised by this, I had my DC a year younger than you (pregnant at 26, baby at 27) and no one raised an eyebrow, never occured to me that it was young. I was on the younger side in the city I lived in when DC was born, probably more average age where I live now. Know lots of mums the same age. 50 years ago it would have been considered old to have first!

Of course it isn't. Enjoy and savour the time!

Of course it's not young, it's perfectly normal

How horrible of her. Had my first at 28. Was 23 years ago but now have a 23 and 19 a year old and I’m 52. Perfect imo.

In many ways, I wish I had had my children around that age but it just wasn't how life turned out for.me.

Of course it is not too young. I had my DCs in my late 30s but if i had my life again i would do so younger, I was very aware of how tiring motherhood was, and wished i had more energy.

I had dc 1 when I was 28 and dc 2 when I was 30. Perfect for me personally. I don't think you're too young.

I had mine in my early 30s but sort of wish I did in my late 20s. By then, I had already travelled, built my career, got married and bought a house.

I was 24 when I had my son. Was married and planned the baby. I don't think there is a right or wrong age, it's what your circumstances and desires are. Personally, I loved it. I had a ridiculous amount of energy and patience, was privileged to be able to take a few years out of work and rejoin when kid went nursery, etc, and now kids are teens and I'm not 40 and still feel young, with teenage kids who are more like friends now. But as I said, it suited me, had a supportive partner, came from a happy family and have a neuroscience background so had that learning to be able to provide a good environment for my kids, etc etc etc

Best of luck

I wish I had started at 28.

I had my first at 32, second 34 and been struggling ever since to have a third (I'm now 40)

I could see your point more if you were early twenties so nowhere near your 30's but it's only 2 yrs off the stage you would be happy with.

Enjoy your pregnancy and ignore your mum

28 is fine! I had a 7 yo and 2yo by that age.

Oh ignore her! Age is just a number.

You are ready so enjoy x

Well it's a bit late to worry about that now?

I’d say it’s average, nothing for her to be upset about.

A perfectly reasonable age, I was 28 when I had my first. I also waited until I owned a home, established a career, etc. Now, many years on I am renting (house sold after marriage breakdown with no equity) and in a completely different career established after DC.

If you and your partner are happy and as ready as you feel you need to be, it's no one else's business, and all of that security you thought you needed can disappear anyway and it will still be fine.

I had two by 28 and another in my 30s........I was far more tired carrying the third. I think people leave it too late these days, you have more energy for the broken nights and running around after toddlers in your 20s!

28 isn't 'young' OP but it depends on what YOU want surely.
A lot of people choose to, erm travel, party and what not put off having kids until later. If that's not you, perfectly fine.

People usually think, say, 25 is too young for kids but the apprentices where I work start at 16. By the time they're 25 they'll have been in the corporate world for 9 years! If they'd rather have a family instead of doing other things it's completely up to them. In fact quite a few find that having gotten the mat leaves out of they way younger they were able to continue their careers with less interruption into their thirties.

The it's a great age to have a baby

It could also be the fact that you had two others already making you tired! 😂

Not at all OP! But I get your questioning.

I had my first at 26 and second at 29, I’m from across the pond and many of my college friends were married with a baby right after uni which felt normal to me. Cut to me having a baby in London at 26 and many time I felt like a teen mom, even though I had two degrees, a job I was very happy with, a husband and both us were financially stable. I was the youngest by far at my (central london) NCT class where everyone else was 38+. I did feel self conscious at the time.

9 years later I wouldn’t have had it any other way! Yes as other posters have said, you have more energy and more patience, and as the kids grow, start school, become more independent you still have the time, age and willpower to progress in your career or start a new one.

Best of luck to you!