Is 28 too young to be a mum?

[bubbles1996]

I've recently found out that I'm pregnant. My partner is 35 and will be 36 when the baby arrives, this will be his first child. I'm currently 27 but will be 28 by the time the baby's here. We both have good stable jobs and live together. Financially we're fine.

My mother was upset when I told her of my pregnancy, particularly as she said that she wanted me to start having children in my 30s and she thinks I'm "too young" now. She was in her 30s when she started childbearing. I was hoping to start having kids in my 30s and not my 20s but I guess these things happen. I don't think that 28 is as young as she is making out, is it?

It's perfectly fine!! It's only recently that people have started families in their 30s. I had mine in my mid-30s and to be honest, I wish I'd had them in my 20s. It's not like you're 16. I really don't see what's wrong with 28.

I hope not, I'm 26 expecting my first🤣 my mum had me at 27 and 3 before me too!

Sorry I LOLed at this. I was 23, which was young. Was I too young to be a good mother? Looking back 22 years… Absolutely not.

Advice or instructions? Honestly, you may need to work on your boundaries with her. She is not your keeper, and she's being a real arsehole about you being pregnant.

Personally I don't think you're too young. I was 23 when I had my son, he wasn't planned but we were happy, he's now about to turn 18.

Perhaps is a sugn of the times thinking 28bis too young. I was 25 and was considered sort of middle of the age group. Many of the mothers at the time were younger, a few were older, 30+ was old.

Just start your family when you're ready entirely up to you.

Congratulations would have been a far better response from her! Was she hoping you’d be married before you started a family? Nothing about your age is wrong so it’s the only thing that might make a bit of sense.

Well I certainly hope not because I’m a mum and I’m only 25…

Honestly if you feel ready it’s nobody else’s business when you start having children. 28 is pretty close to 30 anyway. Nothing is magically going to change to make you the perfect mother when you hit 30. I imagine you’ll be pretty much the same as you are now.

I wish I’d had my kids younger! I think 27 is a brilliant age. Congratulations!

It seems young these days, but my mum was 23 when she had me, and that seemed to be the norm in that generation. If you're happy to have a baby now, then go for it!!!!

No certainly not, I had my first at 25 and second at 27 and being in my early 30s now I'm glad I didn't wait...especially as I'm already showing perimenopausal symptoms

I wouldn’t class that as a young mum, no. I would probably class under 25 as a young mum. Anything over is just normal. I was 26 and 29 when I had mine. I’m 37 now. Many of my friends were pregnant at the same time- it’s not too young at all. I have found it ideal really, I had lots of fun travelling and partying beforehand and now they’re getting more and more independent as I head towards my 40s

it’s weird your mum thinks it’s so young but it’s also none of her business really. It’s not like you’re a teenager

I was 28 and I think it's the perfect age, not too young or too old. I was glad my kids were adults when I hit 50.

Congratulations! You cannot live your life as how your mum wants. Enjoy the journey!

Tbh honest op it's just your mums opinion. It's your body and your life. 28 is young at all.
I has my 1st when I was 18.(wasn't planned) but I still had my daughter and never gave up. Now I'm in my late 30's pregnant with my 4th(34 weeks) good luck op and make the right decision

No it isn't too young. I'm quite cross that your mother feels its her place to comment, you are a 28 year old woman.

The real question is whether YOU and your partner feel ready to become parents? You’re in a good financial position so that’s not an issue- as long as you also feel ready and willing to become parents, you’ll be fine.

You’re a different person to your Mum and her choices may not suit you.

Well it depends entirely on the parents tbh.

But doesn't have to be too young necessarily no. I was 24 when I had my first (pregnant at 23) and I didn't feel too young then and it's all gone fine. Even though we were the first in all our families and circles of friends to have kids and all our DPs were similarly displeased at the news initially.

Perfect age imo. Dd1 was born just before I turned 27. Dtds were born when I was 29. At 41 years old I have a 15yo and 2 12 yos. I love dtds but don’t recommend it! I love that dh and I can start being a bit more independent and go out without organising a babysitter and with the dc we hang out and have fun together. Knowing that by 50 dh and I will be off on holidays with no childcare worries is perfect for me.

As long as you are over 18, so legally an adult, and you can support yourself and the baby it is no-ones business.

A baby is a blessing. So many friends waited and then needed expensive, intrusive IVF.

it isn’t as if you’re not settled. She needs to have a reality check.

No one’s business but you & your partners - does the fact he is a bit older bother her?

i had my first at 25 & got married at 23.

28 is a great age to have a baby! I had dc3 when I was 28, it was fine.

Your mum should have just congratulated you.

In my eyes a reasonable age to have children is when both parents are ready. I was in my early 20s and my partner his early 30s. It's got nothing to do with anyone else

Congratulations.

I don't think 28 is too young at all.
I had my first at 25 and my second at 26.

My parents had me when they were 18. I think that's young! Mid to late 20s OTOH, pretty average.