My sonographer just said "clever boy"

[Anyflippingname]

About my baby at a 28 week scan (being monitored for closely in this pregnancy for various reasons).

I had hoped to keep the sex a surprise and had told her I didn't want to know when she asked.

She and her doctor colleague immediately said, oh no she doesn't mean it's a boy, she always calls babies "boy"🤔

She then found me later and apologised again and reiterated that she hadn't checked the sex so she definitely didn't know what it was.

I said both times that it was fine and didn't matter.

Is this as cut and dried as it seems? It seems such an unlikely slip of the tongue when she said it with so much certainty.

Sonographers and Midwives often use one or the other for ALL babies.

We where team green and my daughter had complications so was treated then wrapped in heating blankets. She was an hour old and everyone kept saying 'he' and 'him' including DH (who had been with her through it all) so I finally said 'Im guessing its a boy since no one actually told me' and they said 'oh... we didn't actually look, let us just check'. They unwrapped her quickly to check and she very much was NOT a 'he' and that was when she was here and easily verifiable.

They always default, when pregnant with my DS the midwife often said 'she' and there was no way she could have known the sex either way.

My sonographer referred to my DS as a girl. I was very surprised when I had a boy!

Oh & when we went for a scan we already knew we were having a girl & the sonographer kept calling her it! I think they’re brains must be scrambled 🤣

Oh FFS! As if all boys play football and girls don't!

Well it’s going to be either a boy or a girl so it’s not like you’ve got that much of a surprise ahead of you. You still don’t know for sure but I never really understand why a surprise is so important to some people. I wanted to know as soon as I could with both of mine.

Same thing happened to my friend and she had twin girls lmao

Some sonographers do just have a default that they say. Sounds better than "it" or "thing" I suppose!

They have to specifically look for it so I would take her word for it :) in my case and in my best friend's case we waited until the end of the scan to ask and they had to go back and check.
For DC2 we kept it a surprise and it was really lovely, so I understand why you'd be disappointed to have that experience taken away from you.

My sonographer couldn’t get baby into position to find the sex but had said come on little chap give us a look. I went and bought all babygrows and vests with rather fetching mustache prints only to return them a week later at the re-scan where it was obvious she was a girl. Don’t read into it, I think they just like to talk to the baby.

When I had my baby the sonographer said he at least twice, she wasnt!

It's a little bit more significant.

This happened to me, at one of my millions of scans for identical twins the consultant mentioned boys. Then backtracked and said he didn’t know.
I then prepped myself mentally for two little boys, lo and behold I have identical twin daughters 😅

"significant" is not the same as "surprise". Boy/girl isn't any more of a surprise than heads/tails. You know it's one or the other!

The sonographer that I had for DS1 told me right at the start that the baby would be referred to as 'he' throughout the scan because it was more personal than 'it'. I think that many do this so I wouldn't read anything into it. Congratulations!!

I used to do obstetric scans and it’s quite usual to say he or she. We wouldn’t even look at the genitals outside of the 20 week anomaly scan so it wasn’t based on any knowledge, we just didn’t like saying “it”. I would always explain that to the parents though.

I tend to call dogs boys as a habit, even though my dog and families dogs are all girls.
So perhaps it’s a similar thing.

I personally would get a sex scan now though.
As you wanted it to be a surprise and I think this will always be in the back of your mind.

I think double checking the sex, puts you back in control and lets you focus on getting excited on having a boy/girl, instead of being excited for the surprise.

Perhaps you're having a velociraptor? 😁

I feel you're not too fussed what you have, you just wanted to find out at the birth. I think reading through the responses enough doubt has been cast that you can't be 100% sure you're having a baby boy.

All the very best OP.

My friend had 'boy' wron a report, they then clarified that had been a mistake and they hadn't meant to put anything there. They were sure it was an excuse until they had a baby girl!

Thank you so much. I tried my best to word the OP really carefully so as not to offend anyone.

I wasn't going to complain obviously, and I wasn't particularly upset - just wondered what people's opinions were on it.

Anyway thank you for your kind response.

My midwife called all babies 'boy'

Thanks very much. Exactly the case.

I've just read a harrowing war thread. Then this.
OMG. Why even bother posting about something so trivial when you've already said it doesn't matter!!

😂😂😂 such a valid worry.

@Anyflippingname - the chances are that she was telling the truth when she says she didn’t check the sex and always refers to the babies as ‘he’ - and even if she isn’t, she could still be wrong.

Either way, I am sure your baby will be a lovely surprise when he or she is born, so I hope you can put it out of your mind and go back to enjoying your pregnancy and looking forward to the baby’s arrival.

Please don’t fret - it isn’t worth it.

@Anyflippingname no worries! Unfortunately all some people seem to need to be a dick is anonymity! It’s them… not you.

That's on you for clicking on a post under the pregnancy topic with this title. What did you think it was going to be about?