My sonographer just said "clever boy"

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About my baby at a 28 week scan (being monitored for closely in this pregnancy for various reasons).

I had hoped to keep the sex a surprise and had told her I didn't want to know when she asked.

She and her doctor colleague immediately said, oh no she doesn't mean it's a boy, she always calls babies "boy"🤔

She then found me later and apologised again and reiterated that she hadn't checked the sex so she definitely didn't know what it was.

I said both times that it was fine and didn't matter.

Is this as cut and dried as it seems? It seems such an unlikely slip of the tongue when she said it with so much certainty.

I was told I was having a girl (at my request) but at an additional scan the sonographer referred to the baby as 'he' - I queried it and she said she always uses he instead of it and even double checked to prove she was indeed a girl (she was).

My final pregnancy I wanted a surprise and the sonographer (not particularly friendly) kept calling the baby 'she'. I didn't ask if that was because she knew but it turned out she was a girl too so who knows... it's a 50/50 chance either way!

Who knows? You will find out soon enough. It's only going to be one or the other though. Does it change anything for you either way?

Probably, but you are being very precious about it.

Lots of hcp call babies boy as default as then you have a she and a he differentiation between mum and babe, it is a habit for sure.

This is absolutely true, but just in case, I wouldn't be buying any pink outfts! Congratulations OP!

Maybe she does always a call it a boy, she told you she does so not sure what difference it makes, will you come back when baby is born and tell us if it's a girl?

A lot of people default to boy (e.g. assuming a dog is a boy, a young child is a boy etc) so it could well just be a generic phrase and a girl. Equally it could be a boy. I would just try to forget about it if you can (though I am too nosey to try to keep the baby's gender a secret, I found out with both of mine as soon as I could!).

The sonographer said 'He's wriggling away!' during my scan. I was a bit miffed that the surprise had been spoiled. Told everyone I'm having a boy. People bought blue dungarees... DD turned up!

Yeah at our 20 week scan with DC1 the sonographer did that and said ‘in our country we don’t call babies ‘it’ so have to call it a boy’…… yes he was a boy 😄 surely happens all the time!

Ask for a refund.

My midwife referred to my baby as a 'him' every time I saw her. I didn't want to know gender

I had a little girl.

I did go in for reduced movements about 3 days before she was born and the monitoring screen had a little pink girl symbol in the corner. I still wonder if that was a clue!

I couldn't get particularly invested. I didn't want to know with my second as I hadn't with my first. But she flipped during the scan and there on the massive screen before the wand could be moved it was blatantly obvious what we were looking at (clearest scan I'd ever had). A friend was also told the wrong info, so I wouldn't be certain on the boy anyway. It would probably better for all sonographers to practice their/ baby has etc, but they are trying to get measurements and checks done quickly

Exactly, it definitely won’t be a kitten. THAT would be ‘a surprise’.

It may really mean nothing. And possibly better than if she'd said, "clever girl," making you worry that you might have been having a velociraptor.

When I already had a DD and was having DC2 the antenatal ward staff kept referring to the baby as she, and assured me it was just because that was what I had already. I had a DS. I honestly doubt they’re truly registering then trying then failing to conceal the baby’s sex - they’re trying to take extremely precise difficult measurements to make sure the baby is healthy. Only you really care what genitals it has, assuming they’re present and correct in the first place.

My midwife called my baby a ‘she’ at most recent appointment (I’m 33 weeks) but because I don’t know if it was a slip of the tongue or a habit she has of calling babies ‘she’ I am still non the wiser. Same for you really, you didn’t want to know snd you still don’t really.

My sonographer referred consistently to "he/him" at my 12 week scan, we didn't ask to find out till 20 weeks, and she was a girl. I think it was habit that he was referring to a baby boy/that he had sons. Try not to read too much into it, and congratulations.

With any luck all these problems will decline as future cohorts get more used to the 'they' pronouns.

I heard that they can often use he/him for the baby, to distinguish it from the mother, who would always be she/her (in a normal world 🙄)

I think it is a Likely slip of the tongue given her position. Accept the apology and move on.

Mine said 'she's a beautiful baby' at 12 weeks. I didn't question her as I didn't want her to feel awful if it was a slip of the tongue.

Hes 100% a boy! I assumed she just said 'she' as standard.

When I had my 20 week scan the sonography moved the wand to measure my baby’s leg, and I saw clearly that it was a boy. I hadn’t wanted to know… I just got over it… there’s plenty of room for mistakes, these things happen…

Every pregnancy scan I've had the sonographer has referred to the baby as 'he'. I've only had daughters. 😂

Having a preference is one thing but you really shouldn't be having a child if you only want one particular sex and having the other would leave you depressed and not wanting it. That is just wrong.

I think the fact she came up to you afterwards to explain she uses ‘he’ generally means she was being sincere. Actually, the fact she made a point of doing so makes me think it’s a girl 🤣 & ignore posters giving you a hard time, you’re torn to shreds if you want to know the sex & now you’re torn to shreds if you don’t! Can’t win! & don’t dare use the word gender… 🤡