Due June 24?

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Hi! Just had a BFP after a MC at 8 weeks last year, and am looking for folks to breathe through the next few weeks with. I am in an age bracket where MC risk is high and I’m trying not to get ahead of myself!

@Georgiadent123 Firstly, congratulations!

I was super apprehensive with my first pregnancy about how my life would change, freedom compromised etc. People kept saying “how exciting!” when they saw my bump but i was terrified.

In hindsight, I found that it was easier to foresee the negatives of parenthood than the positives in a way, because nothing prepared me for the love bomb that landed when she was born. People tried to describe it, but my analogy was that it was like seeing a colour of the rainbow I’d never seen before. If that makes any sense…

Yes, it’s been tough but it’s hard to envision the love you feel for a child before it happens, and the simple, deep joy they bring every day. It’s been hard, I’m not the same person I was and life does look different. But I would not change it for anything. ❤️

In terms of loneliness, I’d suggest joining an NCT group or trying to find expecting Mums in your area. You’ll bond so much through this intense shared experience, and good Mum pls are invaluable in those early months.

All the best!

@Bealilet sorry to hear your sad news x

Firstly congratulations @Georgiadent123. Getting pregnant is super daunting, especially in the early days when hormones are all over the place and it's almost a shock for it to happen even though you want it to while also being hard to believe it's real. I'm not going to lie and say next week you'll be full of joy as unfortunately pregnancy isn't like that for everyone and it's definitely not like the movies suggest! You may find that does happen for you, but also don't be upset if you do feel more anxious than not. If you think it's affecting you quite alot then definitely get registered with the midwife if you haven't already and speak to them/your GP before your 8 week appointment if necessary. Try not to listen to everyone else too, it's your life and your decision, not there's. There really is no good time to have a child but they do bring so much joy and happiness to your life

Hey all. Just looking for a hand hold really.
Going for a scan at 1.
Honestly think I'm having an eptopic pregnancy.
I thought I was the other day.
Iv got pain on the left side again, the runs and brown discharge.
I'm so scared and the lady on the phone in the EPU was just horrid.
Xxx

Thinking of you. My first was ectopic. Started bleeding at 7 weeks (Sat) but EPU lady said I was just an over anxious first timer.

My Monday the blood was red and a much nicer EPU lady agreed to see me "to show you everything's fine'. I had a scan that afternoon and it was ectopic.

I hope all goes well for you Shiny. If it is ectopic, the treatment is very effective and even if you do lose a tube (I lost my right tube) all is not lost. Many women who have an ectopic go on to have a baby.

@Shiny88 that sounds horrendous and terrifying to go through.
I don't understand why wou would work in a job like EPU if you can't show compassion to the patients!
I am afraid I don't know enough about ectopic to offer by reassurance but absolutely have a hand hold. And a hug!
I hope you're worries are unfounded. And that whoever does your scan has a much warmer bedside manner. Xx

@DemelzaRobins I'm so sorry to hear you went through an ectopic pregnancy and lost a tube, hope you managed to recover ok. What a horrid thing to have to go through.
I honestly think some of these people who work in different sectors really need lessons in bedside manner xx

@Bubblesandtroubles honestly I don't know why they are in the job either. The same EPU 2 years had an awful person who scanned me when I had my miscarriage so I'm not holding out hope for a nice person 😔 xx

Hi everyone, can I ask what level of cramps / pain you are all getting?

I’m about 5 weeks, first timer so don’t know what to expect!

I have been having awful waves of cramps,
sometimes last for hours (all night) and sometimes only 10 mins or so. The worst ones bring nausea with them.

These cramps have been way worse than period pains, and paracetamol / hot water bottle doesn’t ease it, but a bath does eventually - I had 2 baths in the middle of the night last night.

It feels like the pain shouldn’t be this bad, but as I haven’t been here before I don’t know if I’m just being a wimp!

I tested Thursday morning after spending Wednesday night with cramps and nausea, so this has been going on less than a week, and I’m not really coping! 🙈

@Clueless38 I’ve been having sporadic cramps too! A lot of things I’ve read online suggested changing position too, sometimes that helped me.
But yea, sometimes it was so uncomfortable that it made me want to vom.
If they’re really unbearable you could call the women’s centre and see what they suggest? Unfortunately nobody would be able to scan until 6 weeks though.
Keep doing what you’re doing, and trying to keep yourself as comfortable as you can x

I’ve had lots of cramping this pregnancy, I did also have it with my DD but not as bad. So far we’ve been on 2 private scans due to the cramping and all is well with the little bean so maybe it’s just a different pregnancy to my previous one and it’s all stretching there. My first labour ended up with a c section and I read that consequent pregnancies can be more painful due to the scar tissue so I’m attributing it to this currently. I am having cramps lasting for hours at least 2-3 days a week and currently 8 weeks +5 so I wouldn’t worry about cramps too much, unless there’s blood. Xx

Thanks guys, it’s so hard not to worry!

I have had no bleeding so hopefully that will remain the case.

My booking appointment is in 3 weeks time, it’s easy to worry when you’re just at home and haven’t seen a midwife / doctor etc.

That first EPU lady wasn't very nice. I had to go further afield to that EPU as it was a self referral one and my local one is GP referral only. Both are part of the same health trust though.

However, everyone else I saw at that EPU was lovely. The ladies who scanned me were so kind and so was everyone at my local hospital where I had my surgery. Due to my history my GP refers me to local EPU whenever I conceive again and they have all been lovely there. I had an early miscarriage in the spring and they were all very kind to me. They've also been lovely for this pregnancy.

I hope the people who scan you are nice Shiny.

Interesting to hear that other people are suffering abdominal cramps. I don't remember having any at this stage with my last pregnancy (I'm 6+3) but the last few days I've been getting them quite badly in the wee hours, which is not helping the general pregnancy insomnia 😭

Hi everyone, I’ve been hit with an Aawwfful cold. I thought I was tired before…. Waking up all hours of the night with runny nose and thirsty. Banging headache, sinuses all blocked up and a cough. Is there anything I can do to try and shift it safely ?! I can’t focus on anything and I have an exam this afternoon and client meeting tomorrow 😩🤦🏻‍♀️

this may or may not be reassuring to anyone with cramping or bleeding, but I had a big gushing bright red bleed on Saturday night with cramping and was convinced I was out. But I had a scan at EPU today and saw a heartbeat and everything is ok - they can’t explain the bleeding, just ‘one of those things’ for now.

Had my scan, they couldn't see anything but it was extremely painful in the left side.
They said it's currently a pregnancy of an unknown location and that it could just be to early or it could be ectopic and they can't see it yet.
But she did say that the lining of my uterus is thinner than what it should be so I'm guessing that this is definitely not going to be a successful pregnancy either way.
Had bloods taken and got to go back on Wednesday for more.
Feeling heart broken 💔 x

@Shiny88 so sorry, will be hoping for the best for you !!! And sorry its so painful !

I've been having lots of cramps (stabby pains) too, I'd say about 80% of the time, and mostly I. The same specific spot (I'm guessing the side I ovulated?) They're not as bad as period pains but definitely noticeable and I'd like to take painkillers, but not sure what's allowed... 6 weeks now. I had a scan at 4 weeks (for the pain) and all was fine. Reassuring that others are having similar.

@Goldie1234 I had a sinus infection last week and was only permitted Paracetamol. No more than 8 of the 500mg in 24 hours though.

Very sorry Shiny💐

Are they going to do any follow up scans alongside the bloods?

If you get any shoulder pain, no matter how mild you must go to A&E. A lot of the internet will describe extreme pain but that wasn't my experience, mine was very mild.

@Shiny88 that's the exact same as me, I've been heart broken all weekend thinking I was misscarrying or the start of it with bright red bleeding and cramping/back ache and today to my surprise there was a little heart beat, I was in shock as I thought I was out, they can't see any reason for my bleeding either, I've been told to stop taking my baby aspirin until the bleeding stops then go back on to it.

@Jenafaye you were right, it didn't mean the worst as everything went well today so thank you for sharing :)

@LavenderJoy oh hun, I’m so pleased for you! You must be so relieved, I felt inclined to reply to your message as I had been in that position and I just thought your bleed sounded like mine!! Maybe it was a small hematoma that has bled out and is no longer visble on U/S or maybe sensitive cervix? Take it easy, drink plenty of fluid and I hope the bleed stops/settles soon xxx

@Shiny88 a similar thing happened to me with my first pregnancy (he’s now 8!) but it turned out I just conceived later than I thought. On the next scan they could see it in the right place. I didn’t have regular periods at the time though. Fingers crossed for you.

Thanks @CashewDragon urghh sinus infections are the worst ! Hope you're over it now 🤞🏽