Glass of wine at 35 weeks pregnant

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I had a glass of wine today at my mums funeral. The last few weeks have been awful with her dying very suddenly and being heavily pregnant.

I didn't ask for it but at the wake afterwards my husband came back with it and said one small glass won't hurt and you deserve it. I enjoyed every sip! It really did help settle me down after the service.

However, a friend made a comment at the funeral about it and I'm struggling to let it go. She said something along the lines of "no matter what I was going through I'd never have a drink while pregnant. Too many risks." She then laughed afterwards but it's bugging me.

Maybe I'm feeling especially emotional/sensitive today but since then she's worried me about having one glass. Thoughts?

Firstly I’m ever so sorry for your loss, sending lots of love and hugs to you.

Secondly - please reconsider who you are friends with as this woman sounds like a complete muppet!! Friends should have your back whatever not judge you - your baby will be fine they’re fully cooked at this point anyway

xxxx

Yep, your friend is a dick. You're fine and the baby is fine.

Stupid cow. Tell her to FO. You don’t need her in your life. One small glass at 35 weeks isn’t going to cause FASD. So sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your loss. You did nothing wrong. My DC are young adults now but I had several weddings when I was pregnant with our first. I allowed myself a glass of champagne at each one- this was within advised amounts at the time. I had a few odd glasses of wine with our second too- never together and usually with food. No issues. Don’t stress yourself further with worrying about this.

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At 35 weeks one glass won't have hurt you.

Sorry for your loss OP. What a lot to go through when heavily pregnant. Can’t believe the insensitivity of your friend. Try to put her comment out of your mind.

When I was of, I followed the example of my DAunt who had her 2nd just 4 months before dd, and backed it up with having an adult conversation with my Dr about what food was allowed or not and why (so we agreed prawns from a clean sea was fine as they swim around for their food, but mussels and clams were off the menu as they couldn't move if the water quality wasn't so good; and unpasteurised but hard cheese which was factory packaged was fine but all blue cheese and non-pasteurised cheese from markets was not, etc).

Dr's view was that a small (pub size small) glass once a week, if it helped me relax and unwind the stress of my life, was ok, as a relaxed mum to be was better for growing a baby that a massively stressed out one.

That's a much politer way of putting it than my first thought.

Sorry for your loss OP x

I'm sorry for your loss 💐

What a shit friend. It's going to make zero difference. You should have told her to mind her own.

@becksbeer123 I’m guessing you don’t drink anyway. A small 125ml of champagne or wine in my case.

Sorry for your loss op. Your friends a twat.

^This! Honestly, that glass of wine will have absolutely no ill effect on your baby. Your “friend’s” comment is completely out of line.

There’s an excellent book called “Expecting Better” - essentially the odd glass of wine is totally fine and your friend is knob to suggest otherwise.

I’m sorry for your loss.

OP, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. This must be an awfully hard time for you to deal with such a loss so close to being full term. Your DH, who is father to this baby, and probably knows you best, knew in his own mind that one glass of wine was going to help you through this difficult stage. You also made the conscious decision that one small pub measure glass was going to be more beneficial to you a grieving stressed woman than harmful to a baby who is pretty much fully cooked. You didn't binge drink, you had one glass in moderation. It will not hurt. You're so called friend though is a complete ass. Please distance yourself from her for your own sake. Also, you and your husband will make decisions for your child for the next 18 years that others might not approve of. Don't let others opinions affect your parenting.

Mind Yourself x

Drop that friend, she isn't a friend.

Totally fine and you shouldn't feel any guilt.

Sorry about your mum 💐

Well obviously there is, because that wouldn't make the OP feel better on a shit day AND way less than a "drop" of wine will make it to the baby if she drinks it herself.

So fuck off with that bollocks.

OP as a one off it's no harm done.

Your friend is not a friend. Be careful there.

I agree that there is no harm in a single small glass. Please look after yourself though, pregnancy is a particularly awful time to lose your mother. Sending love

@NAMECHANGE87554 well said 👏👏👏

Your friend is no friend at all.
A glass of wine at 35 weeks will do no harm at all ( midwife speaking)
So sorry you lost your mum, particularly at this time please be really kind to yourself xx

Op I am a very careful person generally when pregnant. I quit smoking cold turkey as soon as I found out. With each pregnancy I had odd bits of alcohol- half a glass of champagne at new year/ mouthful or two of DH's beer because it smelled so good/ half glass of mulled wine as a christmas tradition.

Anyway both the kids came out fine and dandy and sharp as tacks.

People are so bloody judgemental, your friend has no right to comment. So sorry about your mum.

I’m glad you enjoyed the wine.

At best your friend is thoughtless, at worst she’s a bitch. Please don’t worry about what she said.