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Cptn · 2023-07-22T20:27:27+00:00

Just got my bfp yesterday and EDD is early April 2024. Anyone else similar and feel like keeping each other company?

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Macccc · 03/08/2023 16:24

@Leo2609 peppermint tea is usually pretty good for trapped wind! And walking around as much as possible. Hope it eases up for you, it’s so uncomfortable!

Leo2609 · 03/08/2023 16:28

@Macccc thank you - have been on the peppermint tea but it’s not strong enough I don’t think 😩

movement helps definitely - I get it worst when working at my desk during the day.

might get some extra strong mints to suck on too 😕

I swear, there’s a reason why women are pregnant and not men - can you imagine them coping with all these symptoms?! 🤣

Mummy2A2020 · 03/08/2023 16:29

@LeopardPJS I hate them too, I'm a pee on a stick adict and some brands are still giving faint positives. Digital show you from implantation so you add 2 weeks onto it. Mine said 2-3 weeks today but I'm actually 5 weeks tomorrow.

This thread is so active I'm struggling to keep up but love the support you are giving each other

BB2023 · 03/08/2023 16:30

Greenvelvetdress · 03/08/2023 14:19

@BB2023 I'm also on blood thinners for a different reason and on my scan there was a small hematoma which they said is common after implantation but that you're obviously more likely to bleed from it on blood thinners, hope this a little reassuring for you ❤️

Thank you lovely x

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 03/08/2023 16:52

Housenoob · 03/08/2023 15:41

Anyone else feel like they are permanently constipated? Sorry for TMI but even after a bowel movement I still feel really blocked up and heavy, I hate that feeling!

Quite the opposite! 😳 Had to drive between offices yesterday but went via home as I couldn’t wait any longer. Quite unusual for me.

Bertiebean · 03/08/2023 19:56

I tried to get a blood test for hcg last week but they couldn’t get any blood out of me… 😭 I’m still on 2-3 on clear blue and should be 5+2. I just feel like I’m waiting to start bleeding and I’m too scared to go to the loo incase it’s the beginning of the end.

Bluesky85 · 03/08/2023 20:08

@Bertiebean i have read that everyone is different and some people just have lower levels. Try not to worry. Can you try again with the blood test? Maybe drink lots of water beforehand and go for a brisk walk to get the blood pumping!

Mummy2A2020 · 03/08/2023 20:11

@BeingATwatItsABingThing me too 🤣 I suffer with constipation but not at the moment. Feels strange to be the other end of the table

Greenvelvetdress · 03/08/2023 20:12

How are you all getting HCG tests? This is my forth pregnancy and I've never been offered them by the EPU!

LeopardPJS · 03/08/2023 20:42

@Bertiebean I’m so sorry you’re going through this stress. However I would try not to worry. I have had two successful pregnancies and both times it took forever for ‘3+ weeks’ to show up on the digi tests - much longer than it should have done. I have only ever had one MC, last month, and with that one, the digital tests went from showing 1-2 weeks when I was four weeks pregnant, to then showing ‘not pregnant’ at five weeks, just before I miscarried, so obviously the HCG was not just not rising fast, it was actually falling. Of course I don’t know your exact circs and don’t want to give undue hope etc but just wanted to pass on my experience. Wishing you all the best, this stuff is all so nerve wracking and it’s so hard when you feel alone with it/ too early to share x

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 03/08/2023 21:33

Mummy2A2020 · 03/08/2023 20:11

@BeingATwatItsABingThing me too 🤣 I suffer with constipation but not at the moment. Feels strange to be the other end of the table

I’m hoping this isn’t something that carries on the whole time! Not exactly the pregnancy glow one hopes for. 😂

LouH93 · 03/08/2023 21:39

Hi ladies, can i get some advice please!

so we are going away with our friends next weekend and i will be 6 weeks. We don’t really want to tell our friends this early but the fact that i wont be drinking over a 4 day period is going to be really obvious.

my issue is, one of our friends who we are going with had a miscarriage at 12 weeks a few months ago, and i don’t want to tell them im pregnant and ruin their holiday. If we do have to tell them, we want to tell then separate to everyone else. Anyone who has been in that position, how would you like to be told?

SurreyPsych · 04/08/2023 07:29

I am managing this by drinking alcohol free gin and alcohol free wine. One of the evenings was out of the house so my husband bought my first drink and spoke to waitress and asked her to discreetly give alcohol free gin when I ask for “the same again”. The second (consecutive) evening (it’s just been my birthday) I had two bottles of wine open and was pouring myself alcohol free wine each time I topped other people’s wine up. Tomorrow I’m hosting a birthday party and plan to decant some alcohol free wine into one of the bottles from last night.

This level of deceit feels really uncomfortable but because of my work situation (I am only able to take 6 weeks of maternity leave for a variety of reasons) and I’m in a battle with my employer to get that agreed before I start telling people because it will be the first question they ask.

I do think it would taint your friend’s holiday. If you’re going to tell them, I’d tell them before the trip. :)

SurreyPsych · 04/08/2023 07:30

LouH93 · 03/08/2023 21:39

Hi ladies, can i get some advice please!

so we are going away with our friends next weekend and i will be 6 weeks. We don’t really want to tell our friends this early but the fact that i wont be drinking over a 4 day period is going to be really obvious.

my issue is, one of our friends who we are going with had a miscarriage at 12 weeks a few months ago, and i don’t want to tell them im pregnant and ruin their holiday. If we do have to tell them, we want to tell then separate to everyone else. Anyone who has been in that position, how would you like to be told?

Sorry, I meant to tag you in my reply :)

Caitlin991 · 04/08/2023 07:38

@LouH93 if you know it might ruin the holiday for one of them I would really try not to say anything, as the previous post said, maybe try and make it look like you’re drinking? Or come up with another excuse as to why your not - maybe antibiotics or tell them you are TTC and don’t want to run the risk?
If you really want/need to tell them I would tell them before you go so they have some time to get their head around it & it’s not the focus of the holiday.

Greenvelvetdress · 04/08/2023 07:39

LouH93 · 03/08/2023 21:39

Hi ladies, can i get some advice please!

so we are going away with our friends next weekend and i will be 6 weeks. We don’t really want to tell our friends this early but the fact that i wont be drinking over a 4 day period is going to be really obvious.

my issue is, one of our friends who we are going with had a miscarriage at 12 weeks a few months ago, and i don’t want to tell them im pregnant and ruin their holiday. If we do have to tell them, we want to tell then separate to everyone else. Anyone who has been in that position, how would you like to be told?

Hi @LouH93, congratulations!

Having had three miscarriages and then been away with people etc I'd say if there's any chance them finding out at the weekend then tell them before over text. I would find it so difficult finding out/being told in person where I couldn't grieve openly.

If you think they won't find out then come up with a solid reason for not drinking.

Hope this helps

ASGIRC · 04/08/2023 07:43

If you say youre on antibiotics, have a good story prepared.

And not just "antibiotics", because you can actually drink alcohol on most of them, and Id be pulling you up on it.

Metrodinazol you cant drink on. You can come up with a gum infection, which you were put on it for. And regale them with stories of "if you drink on this, youll be in the toilet trhwoing up for like 3 days straight", as thats what the internet will tell you.

Or just say youre doing an alcohol detox for a couple of months.

OR pretend youre drinking. This is easier with a partner, as they can cover for you.

funnyonionn · 04/08/2023 07:52

Hi all! Please can I join you?

I've been feeling utterly exhausted and nauseous all week. The thought crossed my mind that I could be pregnant, but didn't entertain it for too long. I am due on around now (I think...periods only come back after 16 months of nursing my little boy), so did a test this morning and, there we go...BFP! Can't quite believe it. This is all so different from the first time round where we had one miscarriage and tried for 8 months. Still early days now, but nice to have some fellow support ☺️

LeopardPJS · 04/08/2023 07:54

@LouH93 i would tell her privately as you say, but just be really upfront and matter of fact - Say something like ‘hey, I just wanted to let you know why I’m not drinking this weekend, I’m six weeks pregnant, so obviously really early days. We aren’t telling many people yet but I wanted to let you know as I thought you’d probably guess.’ I wouldn’t get into trying to say how you thought they’d feel about it etc. or mentioning her miscarriage. I’d leave it at that and then just let her react however she likes. I’m sure it’ll be ok. Xx

LouH93 · 04/08/2023 07:55

Thanks everyone! I really dont want to tell them or any of our friends this early so i think ill have to just come up with a really good reason why im not drinking. I like the idea of saying not drinking as were TTC as most of them know that anyway.

agree the antibiotics story is so obvious and would guarantee be questioned!

thanks all!!

Butterfliesandroses · 04/08/2023 08:06

@LouH93 I just wanted to echo @Greenvelvetdress advice. As another who has had 3 miscarriages, it would ruin my holiday if someone told me they were pregnant. Especially face to face without time to process it privately. I have had this before and it was crippling to try and retain composure until I went home. I can't imagine how painful it would be to have to remain on a holiday with the person while processing that information.

Definitely via text beforehand if you do intend to tell them.

Although, I'd argue it wouldn't be terrible for them to suspect you were pregnant on the holiday (I can't imagine they'd ask you outright if you are pregnant as it is such a faux pas and those who have experienced mc know that more than most). I have had this before, and the fact that I had sniffed it out before they told me meant that I had mentally got used to the idea first before I was told.

Just to mention that you'd also have perfectly justifiable reasons later down the track for having hidden it (under 12 weeks) so no fear of offending anyone for hiding it. As opposed to lots of potential for upsetting your friend (and her partner) if you tell them on the holiday.

Hope that helps x

LouH93 · 04/08/2023 08:33

@Butterfliesandroses thank you - its really helpful seeing it from the other point if view. I think we will definitely just hide it as best as we can.

LeopardPJS · 04/08/2023 09:23

@Housenoob on the constipation - it’s taken me four pregnancies to work out that Pregnacare supplements do this to me! Just in case that might be the culprit. Taking them with a big meal late in the day definitely helps and drinking lots of water but I had a friend who told me that there are other brands who are better for not blocking you up so much!

Emilyjade25 · 04/08/2023 09:35

Due the second week of April. Found out just over 3 weeks. Now entering week 4! Testing everyday to see if it’s getting darker! Scan booked for 27th august!
very nervous after having a MMC in December at 7 weeks! After having two scans that’s showed a healthy heartbeat!!

however I’m soaking up every moment for now & praying. Sending baby dust to everyone feeling similar🤍

BB2023 · 04/08/2023 09:52

Welcome @funnyonionn & @Emilyjade25 💖💖💖