Anyone due April 2024?

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Just got my bfp yesterday and EDD is early April 2024. Anyone else similar and feel like keeping each other company?

@Apat10 Ive told my mom and a couple of friends.
Everyone and their dog knows Im doing IVF, but they dont know Ive done the transfer already, and that Im pregnant.

So Ive been actively avoiding people, as most will ask how things are going (how I ended up telling 3 friends, 2 days ago, as I was out for dinner with them, and every 10 minutes theyd bring the subject back to the baby situation and I got bored of telling them al was fine, nothing to report, blah blah blah).

Im also obviously not drinking, which is hard to explain as well...

But I dont want to tell many people before my scan, which is in 2 weeks.

Told my husband on Tuesday (I found out Monday 🤣) Told his parents yesterday but only because last time I had HG and even the medication didn't work. If I end up being hospitalised again I need childcare

Told DH after taking the test. Told a friend at work the next day as I needed someone to know who could help me hide it. My best friend also knows.

Haven’t told grandparents yet because my DM has surgery soon so we don’t want to add to her stress and MIL has no ability to keep a secret! We’ll tell them after my DM’s surgery and recovery.

We told my SIL on Sat because I broke my ankle and she was looking after our daughter. We made the mistake of telling her I was going for blood tests as needed blood thinners and she started asking if that was normal for my injury 🤣
My husband spoke to my mum yesterday because I was upset about the bleeding. So she knows now and I'm grateful for her support as I can talk to her about my worries.
In terms of the bleeding, I just had that one wipe of red blood on Tues evening. After that I had some dark pink when wiping on Wed morning but nothing after that. I've had pads in since Mon evening and nothing has gone on them at all.
Really don't know what to think but scan booked for next Sat so hopefully get some answers then x

@Greenvelvetdress really sorry to hear about your past experiences with miscarriages. I am finding this an anxious time as it is after the struggle with conceiving and can only imagine the extra anxiety you must be feeling on top of it all!

@ASGIRC we've also been really open about having fertility treatment so totally relate to the feeling of everyone asking how it's going and having to hide it!! I am am awful liar too so think it's going to be tricky trying to fob people off for a little longer. I have two weddings this month where I now won't be drinking so suspect friends will put two and two together really quickly!

Have everything crossed for you @BB2023 I bet you are wishing the days away until the scan.

@Apat10 yeap, horrible liar as well.
As for the weddings, can you not just nurse a glass of wine and have your husband drink it? That seems to be a popular fake out! I might use it with my mom, since she already knows, at family dinners!

I am away this weeked with 3 friends, and I will not be able to fake drink, so theyll know from tomorrow night, at dinner!

And I HAVE to tell my lodger very soon. Were good friends, and she knows Im doing this as well, and she also knows she has to move out once baby comes, as I will need to space.

Can i (tentatively) join?! Just got my BFP at 12 DPO, which makes me due April 12 with what’ll be our third baby (is that same date as you @faban?) trying not to get too excited but keeping fingers crossed!

Like @faban @Poppins2016 I had a chemical pregnancy/ early miscarriage last month (I was exactly five weeks so but sure if it’s still a Cp?) but anyway hoping for better luck this time.

@Housenoob I was convinced we’d got the timings wrong this month and there was no hope, too! I am now feeling a bit guilty about my holiday glasses of wine, oops !

Glad to see some others expecting a third baby @Buttons659 and BeingATwatItsABingThing ! DH and I have been back and forth endlessly over the decision and I still don’t feel ready! Our two DDs will be 6 and 4 when no3 arrives all being well, I’m a bit worried about the age gaps but I think they will be very excited. Fascinated by your experience of wanting a fourth so they have a close age sibling @motheringdaughters … my husband has said the same, I’m far less sure!

@BeingATwatItsABingThing I felt the same as you when I got by BFP last month. I was in full scale panic for two days, even though we’d been trying! Then I calmed down and got really excited. I hope it’s the same for you and that you feel better when you get your head around it. It’s a lot! (Sadly I had an early MC that time but it all feels a bit more positive this time, stronger lines etc!)

@buttons659 I really feel you on the food/ nausea, I am the same and always gain so much weight when pregnant, oh dear! Ironically id just lost all my baby weight after months on the 8:16 diet, what a waste of time that turned out to be!!

@BeingATwatItsABingThing I felt the same as you when I got by BFP last month. I was in full scale panic for two days, even though we’d been trying! Then I calmed down and got really excited. I hope it’s the same for you and that you feel better when you get your head around it. It’s a lot! (Sadly I had an early MC that time but it all feels a bit more positive this time, stronger lines etc!)

Thanks, @LeopardPJS. I still haven’t really processed it and still very much in a state of panic. Mainly because our house isn’t big enough (3-bed) so will have to persuade DD1 (9.5yo) to either vacate her big bedroom and be in the smaller one or share it with DD2(nearly 3) until we can afford to move. We drive a Hyundai Tucson which will be just about big enough and can’t really afford another bigger car. However, I’ve now got myself into a flap about it potentially being twins and even our Tucson not being big enough!

I think I’ll feel better when more people know and we’ve confirmed how many babies. My DM is our childcare and we’re worried about putting extra strain on her so DH and I have been discussing how we can condense our hours so DM will only have baby 3 days instead of 5. We can’t afford a pay drop so going part time isn’t an option.

I feel awful that I’m not more excited considering the number of women on this chat who’ve suffered many losses (I had an early MC so understand the pain that comes with that) and gone through fertility treatment. This baby will be very much loved when I’ve wrapped my head around it and sorted logistics.

@Apat10 we have told our parents and siblings as we see them all the time and I'm so bad at keeping secrets. We would also tell them it didn’t work out , so might as well get a bit of excitement from it at this stage!

Ive also told my best friend as she knows we are TTC and has a little one herself so its nice to be able to speak to someone else about it.

We wont be telling anyone else until after 12 weeks. Although we are going away with friends at 6 weeks and i don’t know how i’m going to hide not drinking and not going in the hot tub!

I totally feel you. We will definitely need a new car, and although we have house space we will be mid refurb when the baby comes all being well, so it’s very non ideal. (Could you split your 9yo’s big bedroom in half at all?!) I’m also worried about holidays and money further down the line. I think when you first get the positive pregnancy test you immediately think of all the bad things for some reason! But these are logistical things that you can and will get sorted one by one (just not all at once/ immediately!), and ultimately for us, the bigger picture was that hand on heart, we knew we wanted three and I know as soon as the baby is here we will never look back. Also, this sounds stupid but I think you just have to decide in your head that having three is not going to be a big deal and that you’ll just roll with it. And hope you can, er, manifest that state of mind when the time comes! Good luck xx

I am approx 5 weeks. It’s my first baby and I’m 42!! I’m already feeling quite sick, very tired and I can’t stop crying at nothing! Is anyone else feeling tearful?

So lovely that more people are joining 🙂

got my 3+ on the CB test this morning and managed to get my booking appt in for a couple of weeks time 👍

the sickness is starting to hit now though - feel constantly hungover and very tired 😴 it’s gonna be a long trimester I think…

interesting talking about not drinking at events - I used the “I’m on antibiotics” chestnut last weekend 😄

haven’t told anyone but my husband yet, hoping to wait until 12 weeks but it’s tough!

@Bluesky85 Yes!! The last few days I’ve been almost ready to burst into tears for no reason! It’s weird! Putting it down to crazy hormones - may just stick a weepy film on one evening to let it out 😄

It’s weird isn’t it? I was fine when I found out in week 4 but as soon as week 5 hit, non stop crying! I’m putting it down to tiredness too as I’m not sleeping well. Good idea about the weepy film!

Unfortunately not to splitting the room based on where the door is, the window and radiator and the built in wardrobes and airing cupboard. I also don’t want to devalue our house because it’s quite desirable as a 3 bed. We’re hoping to be able to afford to move in the next 18months or so so shouldn’t be too long.

Crying at anything and everything over here too. I got an email from my midwife that started CONGRATULATIONS and that set me off. I've been mostly worried since I found out so it made me cry happy tears to be congratulated.

I have just told my bestest friend, I found my other friends weren't super helpful after my miscarriage (I don't blame them, you don't know what it's like unless you've sadly been through it yourself) not sure if my DH has told anyone. Don't plan on telling family until 12 weeks but we see my DH family a lot so may not be able to keep quiet that long.

I got my booking appointment in two weeks so I'm weirdly looking forward to that. Although it's like drawing blood from a stone trying to get blood out of me 🤷‍♀️

Also I have to note MY BOOBS 🤣 they feel so full and tender, anyone else 😅??

@LeopardPJS third baby here too! Have a 6 and 2 year old who will be 7 and 3 when new addition arrives! I'm dreading the expense of a new car!

@LoobyLoo92 yes my boobs! They feel very tender. I basically just feel like the worst PMS- bloated, sore boobs, anxious and tearful - I really hope this phase doesn’t last too long!

We haven’t told anyone yet. I was planning on waiting till 12 weeks but I feel a bit lonely carrying this secret around, not talking to anyone about this, no not sure I’ll last that long!

@BB2023 I'm also on blood thinners for a different reason and on my scan there was a small hematoma which they said is common after implantation but that you're obviously more likely to bleed from it on blood thinners, hope this a little reassuring for you ❤️

On a different subject, is anyone else developing an irrational hatred of pregnancy tests?!
Surely it should be a binary thing but it’s so unclear WTF is going on, I’m turning into a mental person trying to work out what is or isn’t a line or what’s an evaporation… clear blue in particular are such a joke… even the digital ones tell you the wrong number of weeks… gahhhh!! I know it’s my fault for testing early but I do think the tests and their nonsense claims about accuracy from whatever day etc introduce a lot of additional stress into the process!

@Clarajade oh well here’s hoping you manage to avoid it this time round! It’s just an added stress isn’t it. And yeah nothing ever goes as expected😂 I was diagnosed at 36 weeks and induced at 36+5 so it was all a bit of a whirlwind!

Anyone else feel like they are permanently constipated? Sorry for TMI but even after a bowel movement I still feel really blocked up and heavy, I hate that feeling!

I did until a couple of days ago, when it all started moving more normally, and wind started getting by more eaily as well!!!

not sure what has caused the change (and now Im obviously obsessing about maybe having caught listeria, since I also feel a bit ill -cold symptoms) but it is welcome. id rather go to the toiler twice a day than twice a week!

@Apat10 we're telling immediate family, parents and siblings. Went to my partner's parents last night and going to my mum and dad's this evening. Then after the viability scan we may tell some close friends. I figure if the worst happened and I lost it, I would want these people's support, so there's no logic in keeping it secret.

@Housenoob yeah not only constipation but really painful trapped wind too!! It’s horrendous 😩

have been drinking water/eating fibre etc but nothing seems to be helping - indigestion too 😢

any tips from anyone else on relieving trapped wind and bloating?!