Bit of a personal question about body after pregnancy!

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Hello!

Sorry this question is a bit TMI but I'm pregnant with my second child, I have 6 weeks to go! So excited. My first child is 8 so I left quite a big gap.

However a weird worry I am having lately is I was quite a bit younger when I had my 1st, I'm now 33, I'm worrying about down there going back to normal.

From anyone that's had more than one child, did your private parts go back to normal after 6 weeks? Or is it different now?

Such a weird worry 😂 after my first - everything went back to normal - but worried second time around and being that bit older!

Thanks 😆

I think it really depends on your delivery. I gave birth to my first at 32 (I turn 34 later this year and am pregnant with my second). I had to have an episiotomy so I definitely wasn’t back to normal in 6 weeks, but somewhere between there and 6 months the swelling went and I felt way more normal.

I suspect if I did a side by side comparison then maybe there has been some slight permanent change, but not to the degree that it is a problem.

I had my first at 34, second at 36. Unless you count the episiotomy/2nd degree tear scars and stitches everything recovered and pretty much went back to normal fairly quickly. I had a Mummy MOT after DS2, she assessed my pelvic floor and said it was pretty impressive after 2 vaginal deliveries!

@glasspaw @AngeloMysterioso ok thanks girls good to know!
My partner keeps joking about how it will be like throwing a sausage down an alley and we laugh about it but deep down I'm thinking omg I hope not 🤣🤦🏻‍♀️ so got me panicking a little!

But it's good to know it all goes back pretty quickly!

BUT you shouldn’t put too much pressure on yourself. Chances are if you have a vaginal delivery you’ll still be bleeding a little bit after 6 weeks. Allow your body the time it needs to heal and try not to stress about it.

I've had 3, first in my late 20s, last in my late 30s.
Tore with all three so lots of scars, and had a mild prolapse after the 3rd but you wouldn't really know. DH doesn't, and hasn't made any difference to our sex life. I am and generally have been regular with my pelvic floor exercises so maybe that helps a bit but I think it's luck and genes.
If you were fine last time then chances are you will be fine again.

Well that’s a bit of an arsey comment to be honest. He should be thinking about what he can do to support you and your new baby, not worrying about how it’s going to feel for him the next time you have sex.

@noproblemifnot ok thank you! Its only a silly little worry! But hopefully everything does return back to normal!

Most importantly the baby is healthy - we cannot wait 🤍🤍🤍

@AngeloMysterioso Ahh I know he was just joking though, he then says he doesn't care and as long as our baby is here and healthy that's all that matters!

We can't wait not long at all now ☺️🤍

Does your partner worry his penis skin might get floppy and over stretched by having an erection? Vaginas are meant to stretch to birth a baby. Your partner is being horribly mean.

Your body will be different after a baby. Not bad or wrong but different.

This. If it’s his baby then he should be overwhelmed with love and gratitude at what you have gone through to give him a child.

@DrJump @AndyMcFlurry I know next time if he says something like that- I will express you're making me paranoid and worry and this isn't what I need right now!
He's a very jokey sarcastic sort of person so I do know he doesn't mean it deep down, he finds it funny just winding me up!

But he is very grateful and excited for our baby. Xxx

"My partner keeps joking about how it will be like throwing a sausage down an alley"

What a horrible and misogynistic comment.

What a charmer. 🙄

Hes a misogynist hiding behind the excuse of ‘jokes’. Poor kids having a man like that as a father.

@caggie2 @GuitarsInHeaven please don't paint him out to be so awful, saying 'poor child to have someone like that as a father'

It was a joke- please be kind.

Omg what is everyone stressing about. My husband has exactly the same jokey sarcastic humour. OP you don't need to worry and your hubby isnt a misogynistic asshat. He wouldn't have said he doesn't care as long as baby healthy if he was so bloody uncaring. People get too riled up over smallest things

@Tiredjoanna Oh my god thank god you're here! He was just joking and we both really laughed and he even said after I am only joking - he cannot wait for our baby and what's to come!

I was only paranoid thinking hopefully it goes back to normal, that was my only question 😂

He is a really lovely person but jokes a lot and that's fine as we have a laugh! Xx

Exactly like mine. My LO is 9mo and though I'm now a size 6 he still jokes I've got a fat bum. Believe me I'd prefer my hubby who makes me laugh to a serious person any day. Good luck with your baby, hope all goes well

@Tiredjoanna Yes same! Life doesn't have to be so serious! We know each other are joking!
Thank you Hun! Next month ☺️🥰

If he's that jokey and sarcastic, tell him you are hoping the Chipolata changes into Chorizo to cope with the alleyway. Petty but his reaction will tell you whether he actually is sarcastic and jokey....or just a twat.

Very petty but hey. I wouldn't stand for my DH saying even a syllable of that sentence.

Completely depends on your birth experience. Some people pop out a sprog no drama. Other people have multiple unexpected interventions and end up torn to shreds or with prolapses.

Hopefully you'll be in the former, but there's always a horror story or two to keep you up at night.

@BillyNoM8s Yeah I guess il just wait and see! Thank you x

@Nicknamesforviolet I really haven't taken offence to it though as I do know he's joking and trying to make me laugh which he did!
I guess every relationship is different, as long as we are all happy!
He's not a mean person - and I know deep down he doesn't care, it's just his form of banter!

We are ok! And very excited for baby - I was only asking if things down there went back to normal, which I have some answers about that now so I'm all good ☺️

What a misogynistic idiot. No doubt you will spend your life excusing this behaviour. Whether you have sons or daughters, he won’t be setting a good example of a decent man.

Just jokes though. 🤢

@SecretTattoo Honestly 😂 he is aloud to make jokes! I don't know I wish I hadn't of asked anything now, I should of known I'd get all this. We are happy and he wouldn't say those type of things in front of his child, we joke about all the time with eachother!
Just relax- we are all good and he will be an amazing father.

Amazing. Yeah sure.