Advice please about birth 🙏

[Princess2022]

Hello all mummy's and mummy's to be

I really need advice from you all.
I don't wanna bore you all. I'll try to make it short. I am expecting my 1st baby at the last week of July. I want to give birth vaginally but I became pregnant with artificial insemination and not the natural way. I am too scared to be checked internally. I know it's necessary to have internal examinations coz that's the only way to know how much I'm dilated when I'm in that stage. I wanted to avoid c-section as much as I could. What do I do? 🙁 nobody understands me. I'm so stressed

M340 coz I don't have nobody and nothing in my life to be happy about. I need something to live for. My hubby is busy working and earning for us to have a better future he has so many friends and people to speak with and spend time with. I don't have nothing. I am always alone. I need children to live for 🙁 otherwise my life would remain depressing

Please get some more help for your mental health OP. You can't make a child responsible for your happiness, it's not fair on them. Children are supposed to grow and push boundaries and your job is to prepare them for independent life. They go from children that worship you to teenagers that rebel, argue, tell you they hate you because you are 'ruining their life' because you haven't got the designer top they wanted that 'everyone has'.

Why don't you have anything? Job? Friends?

HowcanIhelp123 I was working part time but didn't enjoy it coz people never been nice to me.

Thank you everyone for replying

I can relate to this with you op
I live for my son. He gave me an identity
I have nothing else except him. I have a DP but it doesn't feel like it a lot of the time esp with his work. Ds is my whole world

Your baby is going to be so lucky to have you as their mum xxxx

You can refuse vaginal examinations - I did after the third during my induction as I found them too painful - but be warned that if your contractions aren’t regular, as mine weren’t, there is no real way for them to know how far gone you are. I ended up going down to delivery only because I agreed to one more check and that’s where the doctor was to do it but when we got down there it became clear baby was on her way. It was not a pleasant experience.
You can, however, request gas and air for the checks (I learnt that later on!), which may help relax you a little while they’re happening? or yes, a csection could be a great choice to avoid all of that.
I wish you luck in whatever you choose.

I've just seen the below on Instagram- might be good for you OP. Affordable (in comparison to other prenatal type classes that is)

www.instagram.com/p/CuEGG6QN1MA/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

I don't remember exactly. I very slowly walked the stairs on the third day, but maybe if I'd tried a day earlier I would have managed. Due to the pain while moving you tend to move slower, so everything takes longer. After a week I did laundry but I wasn't supposed to (was advised against), but I've always been quite strong and I felt that I could. Not that I recommend it, if you do too much you might open the wound, but I'm telling you just to show how I felt. It took months before I felt like myself again but actually being able to take care of myself and a baby would have happened at the end of the first week. Everyone heals differently though. I've always been told that planned sections are easier to heal from.

They have to go through all your core muscles to get the baby out. The womb is below all the muscle layers.
So previous strength is irrelevant, if you do stuff early, you're testing the quality of the repairs (stitches etc) not your own strength!
It's major surgery.