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Sallyann98 · 2023-05-30T19:57:19+00:00

Just started a previous thread where I mentioned we are going to start TTC towards the end of this year if things go to plan. Really interested to know how old people were when they started trying to conceive? We are 25, 26 in February. Do you think this is young?

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mondaytosunday · 31/05/2023 00:09

It does seem young, but if you are in a committed relationship then it doesn't. I didn't get married til 40 and started trying then. Had one at 41 and the second at 43.

AbraKedavra · 31/05/2023 00:36

You're at an excellent age. Kids would do much better with parents mid 20s than mid 30s.

GoalShooter · 31/05/2023 00:43

I started TTC at age 30, DH was 29. Had my babies at age 31, 33 and 35.

Nat6999 · 31/05/2023 02:13

I was 37 & exh was 42, took us a year & 2 mc to have ds.

Ruffpuff · 31/05/2023 02:25

I was 21 (unplanned). Too young, although I was a ‘good mum’ despite the negative stereotypes. I graduated, own a home and I’m building a great career. Unfortunately, the relationship has recently failed (I hate falling into that stereotype).

I’m nearly 26 now. I’d say it’s a good age if you’re financially secure and you’ve been in a great relationship for a while. I haven’t had another, and I don’t want another until I’m at least 30 though- I’m happy with the level of responsibility I have for now!

Being a young-ish mum is lots of fun. If I could do it again I would’ve chosen to be around 26. I think it’s a nice happy medium if it’s what you desire and you have the right building blocks in place.

PlantingMarigolds · 31/05/2023 05:30

33

whateveryouwantmetosay · 31/05/2023 05:46

28 when my first was born!

Pidgythe2nd · 31/05/2023 05:50

I was 29 and 30 when I gave birth. Then 31 and 32 when I gave birth. 35 with my 3rd.

Having children in your 20s seems young on mumsnet as it’s socially acceptable on here for people to say it’s young and how you should have a career and house etc first. Not so socially acceptable to say how people waited too long when they’re struggling to conceive into their late 30s and early 40s.

i conceived very easily, but I wasn’t to know that. Having children was
important to me so I didn’t want to wait too long in case it took years.
I know at least 4 couples who waited until the next promotion, the next house move, the next holiday…… they’re sadly still waiting and looking at various options. Yes, I’m sad
for them but if it was that important why didn’t they start trying 10+ years ago??
At least they have their beautiful big houses and wonderful careers…. I guess.

TerfIngOnTheBeach · 31/05/2023 05:52

27 and 30, conceived straight away both times. Good luck 🤞🏼 👶

TheBeesKnee · 31/05/2023 05:54

Lol I opened this thread expecting something sensitive around TTC. Relax, op.

I was 26 when we started TTC and 30 when I fell pregnant and had my baby. He's currently 3 weeks old and snoozing on my chest.

ShippingNews · 31/05/2023 05:55

Had my DC at 27 and 31.

HoneybeesAndBluebells · 31/05/2023 06:42

23 after we had moved into our first home, conceived in less than 3 months.
He's just turned 3 years old now.

frayble · 31/05/2023 07:27

TTC just after my 29th birthday, partner 32, been together 5 years at that point. Own home together, professional careers etc. Very lucky to fall pregnant on first cycle and baby is due in 2 weeks, I'll turn 30 in August, partner will be 33.

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 31/05/2023 07:31

Pidgythe2nd · 31/05/2023 05:50

I was 29 and 30 when I gave birth. Then 31 and 32 when I gave birth. 35 with my 3rd.

Having children in your 20s seems young on mumsnet as it’s socially acceptable on here for people to say it’s young and how you should have a career and house etc first. Not so socially acceptable to say how people waited too long when they’re struggling to conceive into their late 30s and early 40s.

i conceived very easily, but I wasn’t to know that. Having children was
important to me so I didn’t want to wait too long in case it took years.
I know at least 4 couples who waited until the next promotion, the next house move, the next holiday…… they’re sadly still waiting and looking at various options. Yes, I’m sad
for them but if it was that important why didn’t they start trying 10+ years ago??
At least they have their beautiful big houses and wonderful careers…. I guess.

At least they have their beautiful big houses and wonderful careers…. I guess

Shitty post. How dare they wait until they thought they had a good life to offer children? 🙄 don’t glory in their struggles as it ‘proves’ you did the right thing.

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 31/05/2023 07:32

AbraKedavra · 31/05/2023 00:36

You're at an excellent age. Kids would do much better with parents mid 20s than mid 30s.

Why’s that?

sashastuck · 31/05/2023 07:56

26 x

holaholiday · 31/05/2023 09:40

AbraKedavra · 31/05/2023 00:36

You're at an excellent age. Kids would do much better with parents mid 20s than mid 30s.

this is a bit of a sweeping statement? to conceive a child you ideally need to be in a stable, long lasting relationship and in a stable financial position dont you? if you have that in your 20's,fine but many people aren't ready to provide this in their 20's. i was still living in a shared house 'til i was 32!

toomanysausages · 31/05/2023 10:03

Started ttc at 30 and very, very luckily fell pregnant the first month we tried.

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 31/05/2023 10:30

holaholiday · 31/05/2023 09:40

this is a bit of a sweeping statement? to conceive a child you ideally need to be in a stable, long lasting relationship and in a stable financial position dont you? if you have that in your 20's,fine but many people aren't ready to provide this in their 20's. i was still living in a shared house 'til i was 32!

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Right? If my kids had rocked up in my mid-twenties, they’d have found a partying, postgrad-studying, constantly travelling ‘free spirit’ (nice way of saying I partied way, way too hard, though I thought it was justified as I did work hard). In my thirties I had my doctorate finished, a cracking job, great earning and a property or two. I took holidays, I didn’t ‘travel’. I suddenly grew up and calmed the fuck down about 29. Those experiences made me the person I am and able to be the mother I am.

My eggs might have been slightly ‘less optimum’ but my excellent child suggests they were just fine.

LisaSs · 31/05/2023 10:32

found out on my 28th birthday :) DH is 29

Pidgythe2nd · 31/05/2023 10:39

@Tiddlypomtiddlypom hit a nerve did we?!

if you read my post I think you’ve misinterpreted… had I have known I’d fall pregnant so easily I probably would have waited, but I didn’t know that, so didn’t wait. It’s a gamble! Do I regret not getting higher on the career ladder before children, slightly…,but no where near as much as I’d regret not having children.

The people I alluded to in my post were in stable long term relationships, own
homes, plenty of money and a good position to offer a fantastic life for a child….. we’ve been led to believe that you can have it all… the big house, good career and pop children out easily in late 30s and early 40s. Sadly that’s not always the case. Life is full of choices. Not everyone meets the correct person or has the resources to have a child earlier, but those that do and make the choice to wait, well, I’m slightly less sympathetic when they then have trouble conceiving.

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 31/05/2023 11:22

Tiddlypomtiddlypom hit a nerve did we?

Another spiteful response @Pidgythe2nd. Would you feel pleased if you had hit a nerve and I was struggling with fertility problems?

AbraKedavra · 31/05/2023 11:25

holaholiday · 31/05/2023 09:40

this is a bit of a sweeping statement? to conceive a child you ideally need to be in a stable, long lasting relationship and in a stable financial position dont you? if you have that in your 20's,fine but many people aren't ready to provide this in their 20's. i was still living in a shared house 'til i was 32!

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It's best for kids to have younger parents who have the energy to deal with them. Which is why 25 is far more ideal than 35.

That's not to say specific people weren't emotionally or financially ready to raise kids at 25. But if you have a goal of raising kids, you'd be doing them a favour if you made buckled down at 25 rather than 35.

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 31/05/2023 11:30

AbraKedavra · 31/05/2023 11:25

It's best for kids to have younger parents who have the energy to deal with them. Which is why 25 is far more ideal than 35.

That's not to say specific people weren't emotionally or financially ready to raise kids at 25. But if you have a goal of raising kids, you'd be doing them a favour if you made buckled down at 25 rather than 35.

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I am much healthier at 35 than 25. I don’t drink very much, run marathons, lift weights, eat really well… at 25 I was a heady mixture of joie de vive, academia, coke, amphetamines and rum.

Weatherwife · 31/05/2023 11:35

It's best for kids to have younger parents who have the energy to deal with them. Which is why 25 is far more ideal than 35

ah yes, everyone knows that people in their 30s are practically elderly and struggle with energy there are definitely no professional athletes in their mid 30s, for example. If you are struggling with energy that much in your 30s see a doctor!