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I think I'm close to 5th miscarriage in a row. No children yet. Feeling so sad...

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BabyHope1 · 24/04/2023 21:43

Hi.
Had 4 miscarriages since May, never saw an embryo or heartbeat.
I became pregnant again. I should be 5w + 5d. Had an early scan and only gestational sack was visible, no yolk sac. I also am under the impression the symptoms I had (which were quite mild) are fading. So I m starting to accept the reality of yet another loss.
I am under treatment and really hoped things would be well this time.
I'm so disappointed and I just don't know what to do.
Any advice? I told nobody about this pregnancy, not even my partner. I feel so lonely and hopeless...

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Ttcmumma · 24/04/2023 22:29

No advice but didn't want to read and run. So sorry for you experience, sending you so much baby dust and luck in this journey♥️

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BabyHope1 · 24/04/2023 22:42

Thanks so much! Hope it happens as soon as possible.

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hellobanana · 24/04/2023 22:49

I'm really sorry for everything you've gone through that's just so awful. Sending you so many hugs. What treatment plan have the docs advised? I'm currently ttc 1 and had a chemical miscarriage last month and have been reading a lot about baby aspirin (small dose 75mg) so I'm going to try that this cycle. I wasn't sure if that was something you tried before. Sending you lots of love

crazecatlady2 · 24/04/2023 22:56

Didn't want to read and run. I can't even begin to imagine how you feel but I am so sorry for your losses. 💐

amispeakingintongues · 24/04/2023 23:01

I'm so so sorry. I just prayed for you. Hope you are blessed with your baby very soon x

RandomMess · 24/04/2023 23:23

So sorry I hope you get the Consultant care you need ASAP Flowers

stardust40 · 24/04/2023 23:27

My sil lost 6 before getting referred and getting a drug (can't remember the name) that stopped her body rejecting the foetus. She then went on to have two healthy babies. Don't give up hope x

CC222 · 24/04/2023 23:33

Hi,
I'm so sorry that you've had so many losses and I truly hope you're blessed with a miracle baby soon.
It's still very early in your pregnancy, so your next scan could show more development, and I pray it does.
It's hard to hold this worry and heartache alone, you need emotional support and your partner is on this journey with you, let them support you through this worrying and anxious time.
Are you in the UK? After 3 miscarriages you can be referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic, is that where you're under treatment currently?
I myself have had 4 miscarriages, but all mine were years apart as I also suffered with fertility issues in between due to PCOS. In my last (5th) pregnancy I was on treatment from the recurrent miscarriage clinic (aspirin, blood thinking injections & progesterone pessaries), and I was so absolutely blessed to have a successful pregnancy that time and have a 1 year old boy now.
All I can say is don't give up. Going through multiple losses is so heartbreaking and traumatic and something that so very few people around you may really understand, but you're not alone and miracles do happen and with the medical support offered to you, you could have a different outcome eventually.
Don't be afraid to also seek further help, such as talking therapies, to help you through your grief and this process of trying to start a family. It's a lot to handle, especially without the right support and your mental well-being is so important right now, after the traumatic year you've had.
Be kind to yourself, lean on others for support and keep in close contact with the medical professionals who can guide you on the best course of action moving forward.
I truly wish you all the best on your journey xx

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BabyHope1 · 25/04/2023 06:13

Thank you all. I'm on baby aspirin, progesteron and a combination between medication to reduce inflammation and to stop the body from rejecting the baby. What puzzles me most is that there never was baby to see.
We've done several tests, including genetical. And all seem fine.

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CC222 · 25/04/2023 10:33

BabyHope1 · 25/04/2023 06:13

Thank you all. I'm on baby aspirin, progesteron and a combination between medication to reduce inflammation and to stop the body from rejecting the baby. What puzzles me most is that there never was baby to see.
We've done several tests, including genetical. And all seem fine.

I had the same thing in my 5th pregnancy with the first early scan, and I was at the same point in pregnancy as you. For some people that's still too early to see anything, you'll probably have another scan within the next couple of weeks at the EPU. It's going to be a really anxious wait but you'll get through it.
Praying for good news for you xx

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BabyHope1 · 25/04/2023 11:56

@CC222 ,Thank you for sending positive thoughts. You were referring to a 5th pregnancy. Hope it did go well for you!

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RegalBeagle · 25/04/2023 12:01

I'm on pregnancy number 4. A bit further along than you at 6wks4days. Last year I suffered my 3rd miscarriage. I was just under 8 weeks then which is my longest pregnancy. This pregnancy is different though. Unlike previous ones, no spotting! And I have all the symptoms!

And then yesterday heavy bleeding and large clots. Came out of no where. I was losing another one. My world shattered. I wept as hard as I did when my mom died. I thought I would be able to keep this one.

Went to the EPU and had a scan to confirm the miscarriage. They did the ultrasound and then asked to do transvaginal. They took quite a while before they eventually said they can see the gestational sac, the yolk sac, and the little baby still in there. The heartbeat is hard to see but is there so could be because of how early I am. They think the bleeding is from fibroid(s) they see on the ultrasound but don't know for sure.

I'm due back for a followup scan on Tuesday. I'd already started the grieving process before the scan and I'm still in disbelief there will be anything there to see when I go back next week. I'm still bleeding but don't think I've passed anything, so maybe it is fibroids? I didn't even know I had fibroids until yesterday.

All this to say, you are not alone. My advice that I'm struggling to follow myself is to try to remain positive. Just like waiting for that BFP on the test strip telling yourself it ain't over until AF arrives, this pregnancy isn't over until it is. Keep looking after yourself. And tell someone. You shouldn't have to go through this alone.

CC222 · 25/04/2023 12:11

BabyHope1 · 25/04/2023 11:56

@CC222 ,Thank you for sending positive thoughts. You were referring to a 5th pregnancy. Hope it did go well for you!

Yeah my 5th pregnancy was successful after 4 miscarriages. I never thought in a million years I'd end up being a mum, so I completely understand your heartache. But things can change and with all the treatment you're on, you could have a different outcome this time. It's still very early days to see anything with a scan, the next scan you'll know more and I hope it's good news for you xx

DifficultBloodyWoman · 25/04/2023 12:18

It’s shit. 💐

Pregnancy 7 was a success for me. (Pregnancy 9 if you count the unsuccessful attempts at IVF).

Inthenightgarden1 · 25/04/2023 12:43

It is awful. Pregnancy number 6 was my one that stuck. Before that I thought it would never happen xxx

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BabyHope1 · 25/04/2023 14:49

So many brave ladies! And so happy things did work out for you in the end.

Maybe I'll be able to share a similar outcome as soon as possible.

Thank you all for sharing! It gives hope.

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BabyHope1 · 25/04/2023 15:40

I was also wondering if the successful pregnancies was result of ivf or any particular treatment. Thanks

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Violasaremyfavourite · 25/04/2023 15:56

Fibroids can really bleed. I had one and developed the most dreadful period bleeding so I can see it would be very frightening. I hope everything goes well for you.

Have you had a genetic work up to look for something like a translocation? (They can be perfectly normal in every other respect.)

GrandIllusion · 25/04/2023 16:09

What is the diet, fitness like and habits of yourself and your partner, is there anything worth tweaking there?

My bil and sil had multiple m/c and a still born unfortunately their combined obesity may have impacted this but it is something that drs consider too sensitive a topic to broach.

Very sorry for your losses.

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BabyHope1 · 25/04/2023 16:14

@Violasaremyfavourite karyotype was fine for both of us. This is the only genetical test we had.

@GrandIllusion we aren't seaking the healthier diet, but we don't exagerate, we are not drinkers or smokers and we are relatively fit and active.

Thank you for the support 🤗

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BabyHope1 · 25/04/2023 19:35

So my hcg went from 1653 on Friday to 7716 today. Which should be good news. I wonder though if at this hcg today, shouldn't the scan yesterday show more than it did?...

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DifficultBloodyWoman · 25/04/2023 21:31

Nope, not necessarily.

I’ve got all fingers and toes crossed for you @BabyHope1

seven201 · 25/04/2023 22:36

BabyHope1 · 25/04/2023 15:40

I was also wondering if the successful pregnancies was result of ivf or any particular treatment. Thanks

I have a naturally conceived dd then 5 and a bit years of secondary infertility, 6 rounds of ivf, 3 surgeries, 4 miscarriages (one of those ivf) and am now on all sorts of treatments to try and prevent mc. I'm on prednisolone, intralipids, aspirin, progesterone, Hydroxychloroquine, humira, metformin (for pcos) as my body also attacks embryos. I'm 12 weeeks now and this is the furthest we've got since dd. This pregnancy was with letrazole (like clomid).

Your scan was very early but HCG very strong so you're definitely not out. It's a horrible time being in limbo but I have hope for you.

Namechange600 · 25/04/2023 22:43

OP I’m so sorry you are going through this - it’s heartbreaking :(

i had years of infertility and miscarriages - was later diagnosed stage 4 endometriosis, adenomyosis and PCOS - in case this could apply to you? I had surgery to remove the endo. I got my rainbow babies in the end but it was hard.

Really hope it works out for you xx

PastyPrincess · 26/04/2023 02:29

OP, my first internal scan at what should have been 6w 3 days only showed a gestational sac. My HCG that day was over 21000. Google told me that was too high to not see anything. Everything appeared at a scan 8 days later. I hope you have the same outcome. Your rising HCG is very promising.