Due December 2023 part 2

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New thread. Will tag people shortly. Tag anyone from the first

@MomentOhm i hope all goes well today, how are you? X

Sorry to bring down the mood of the thread, but I feel real anxious today about the miscarriage risk.

Ive been down a a mumsnet rabbit hole (I know I need to stop googling miscarriage threads) and it’s just so common, even fairly late.

I’m struggling to believe everything will be ok when it seems so against the odds that this first pregnancy will just be fine.

I know there’s nothing I can do, but it’s awful. I don’t even think an early scan would help as it’s just a snapshot and things can go wrong from there.

Sorry for being negative but just needed to vent my worries x

@Mushroo i think a lot of us are feeling the same, I feel like absolute shit today, nauseous, diarrhoea (sorry tmi) blocked nose, am just going to have a nice bath and maybe a sleep, didn’t sleep well last night x

@Mummy1502 thank you, nice to know I’m not alone. I felt fine yesterday (anxiety wise) so not sure what’s brought this on.

Completely CBA with work today, just want to sit on the sofa and watch trashy tv.

Im just wishing my life away to 12 weeks.

I think you get a lot more negative stories than positive stories on places like MN as you’re not going to post if you have an easy pregnancy and birth so it’s not an accurate picture of how things are.

@Mushroo i have just rang doctor for stronger anti sickness hopefully that helps, I spose the sickness is keeping me reassured, I actually feel fairly calm now regarding the pregnancy and what will be will be, just struggling with feeling so rough x

@MomentOhm thinking of you and hope things go well this morning 🤍✨x

@Mummy1502 I've had diarrhoea well very loose anyway for days now bit worried about poor little bean in there. Terrible nights sleep can't be bothered with work today just want to go back to bed

Anyone else have very light dull but constant cramp in the pelvis and backache around week 8?

Its not helping that my discharge has increased too so I'm panicking everytime I feel that.

I'm getting really concerned as its not letting up today.

This may be a bit of a sensitive question, but is anyone being seen/has anyone been seen in the past by the perinatal mental health team?
My midwife referred me to them due to my diagnosed anxiety now and the various other mental health issues I have suffered with in the past (some occuring shortly after the birth of my daughter).
They have just called me now to offer me an appointment on the 25th May... My midwife didn't really tell me much about what to expect. Does anyone know what I should expect at this appointment and going forward in general? I am beyond grateful for the help and support, but feeling very nervous now as I don't have a clue what to expect! x

Hi @HannahLouD I had support from them last pregnancy. The first meeting was really just a chat about how feeling, things worried about and coping strategies. Really informal. X

@Mushroo I agree that MN isn't the best place to get a clear picture across the board. I for one wouldn't have even found the forum if I hadn't previously had a miscarriage so there are so many women who wouldn't post their positive stories.
The risk is undeniably there in the 1st trimester but is small if you look at the statistics.

I'm also completely anxious about mc risk, especially after my last one but am trying to live by "my past does now dictate my future" mantra and really try to stay positive and excited.
We are all hormonal and sometimes our emotions will be too much, just let the feeling come over you and try and be positive again after and not let fear ruin the experience for you. - All way easier said than done I know.

Hi 😊 thanks for your support everyone 🫂❤️ I appreciate it.

I sitting in the waiting room at the moment there is a bit of a delay.

Bleeding quite badly now so I've prepared myself for bad news. It will be a miracle if everything is ok.

Will let you know how it goes xx

@MomentOhm thinking of you x

@SMG1992 thank you for your kind words, you’re totally right. I need to recognise it’s just my hormones and worries and not let that take over.

Thinking of you @MomentOhm x

@MomentOhm thinking of you x

Hi all,

Had the scan, looks like everything stopped progressing at 6 weeks. Just waiting to see the nurse now.

Thank you again ladies 😌 really appreciate your well wishes.

And wishing you all healthy and happy pregnancies ❤️ and lovely Christmas babies ❄️🥰🌟

@MomentOhm so sorry ❤️

@MomentOhm oh no I'm so sorry I've been there before and it's heartbreaking. Take time to grieve and wish you all the best x

@MomentOhm so sorry x

@MomentOhm I am so genuinely sorry to hear this.
Sending so much love and support your way... I really hope you're ok as you can be.
Take care of yourself 🤍x

Thank you so much ladies 💕🙂❤️
And I will 🫂

@MomentOhm Im so so sorry. Sending support, I hope you have good real life support but we’re all here if you need us x

So sorry @MomentOhm. thinking of you.

@HannahLouD I saw the perinatal mental health team for my pregnancy with my son from early in up until 6 months after he was born. You'll have to do the usual questionnaire forms with them to begin with them just talk about your issues really then it'll be putting a plan together. I either had a phone call or they'd come see me at home regularly. There's usually courses you can do, I did a mindfulness one. They usually just chat about what's going on, they have a doctor too who can prescribe things if needed.
Obviously my issues aren't going to be the same as yours, I had crippling anxiety and had trouble bonding whilst pregnant up until about three months after he was born so we focused on that a lot but they'll help you with what you need help with.
Most importantly they made me feel normal for what I was feeling, they never made me think what I thought or was feeling was wrong and that kind of validation really helped.